My boyfriend left me last night, do you think he lied with the reason he gave or is he genuine?

[soccerqueen1999]

Last night my boyfriend's best friend and her boyfriend talked about our relationship and basically talked him out of it because he personally is not in the best place for it. He has been dealing with mental health problems for a long time and even back when we first got together he warned me that he was a broken individual after things and having his only relationship of 4 years ended last year. He said he thought he could never come to love someone again but he fell in love with me and admitted that. When he called me he said he wasn't in a good spot for either of us and needed time to work on himself so he would be less toxic and he wanted to do it without me so I wouldn't get hurt. I was the only female this man has seen since his rebound. He takes relationships very seriously. He said he would tell me if anyone else came along or if he lost feelings. Neither one of those is why he split from me. He said he needs space and time for him to get better. I asked him if there's a chance we could work out later and he said "there's potential and there's a chance but I need to work myself out and my problems out before I share my life with someone again because I can't let someone get hurt cause of my trauma". He asked for me to be happy and to do whatever it is to make me happy whether its move on and find someone else that would treat me better or work on myself. He told me, "I'm telling you to go be happy and have someone treat u right cause I can't do that right now. There's a chance it could happen (to be with him) but I need time to work on myself so I can give you what you deserve". Do you guys think he's genuine or just lying because he is genuine;y going through something right now but he's the type of person that keeps it on the inside. So what do y'all think about this and the future?

[caydeslicks]

I may be young, but I know what that kinda shit feels like. It sounds to me like he truly loves you, and he feels that he isn't good enough for you, or because he's worried that his mental state will affect your relationship, and he's worried that he's going to hurt you and he couldn't let himself do that. The only solution in his mind is to let you go so you can be happy without him. It's a tough situation, but if you love him and are willing to put in all of the effort to keep you guys together, then yeah, keep in touch, check in on him, but make sure not to push. That's my take, if you're willing to believe a 17 year old 👍

[JustinTimberlegs]

I think he wants you but doesn't want to put any pressure on you to wait for him.

He's hurt from his previous relationship and wants to process all of it before another relationship which is smart.

But you guys were already dating before this? For how long? If it was relatively new I would believe him, but not if you dated for like 6 months already

[soccerqueen1999]

We never dated previously and he was in a rebound relationship right after his ex but he left her due to rudeness and disrespect

[Anonymous]

Someone was in this same situation and found out they were a coverup for someone else. The guy was married

[Lost_in_the_Woods]

Sounds true to me. Doesn't sound like he found someone else but it's always possible he just doesn't know how to tell you.

It sounds like he is probably having a hard time. If you like him and you want to keep dating you should try to stay in touch. Don't press the issue, but just be there for him and let him know you care.

It's very possible that he will work things out and want you back but you can never be sure.

[Sweepthelegjonny]

I think you’re making excuses for him. He obviously wants out of he relationship. I’d let this one go. It sounds like he is too emotionally unavailable for a proper relationship and you can do better.

[FamilyGuy2020]

Can I ask you a question? Given his mental illness why would you even consider dating him given that he already warned.