He snatched his phone out my hand, why?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend and I’ve been together for two years. He’s always been a trustworthy person and always has been honest. I always look through his phone when I see him and he lets me she gives me attitude and get mad but he lets me and I also have his passcode as well. This past weekend though I looked through his phone got irritated like always but I was looking through his friend group chat with his guy friends and he snatched it out my hand he’s never done that before and I got upset he got upset and I asked him why he did that and it was he said it was because I always look through his phone I never trust him and he gets frustrating and old after a while he then proceeded to give me his phone and said look through whatever you want I don’t care. Should I be concerned that he snatch the phone out of my hand as a sign that he’s hiding something?

[missy47]

Did you manage to look through it anyway? If you did and you didn’t find anything, maybe he really is just frustrated. If you weren’t able to, or if he deleted something before you looked through it, he is hiding something. The way he acted is usually how people act when they hide stuff.

[missy47]

However, this would probably become annoying over time, especially for a guy. Maybe ask yourself why you have the need to look over his phone. If it’s from past trauma, maybe both of you should talk about it and find ways to work on it as a team and build trust together so that you no longer have the need to look at his phone anymore. It’s exhausting for you and for him as well.

[missmels]

You should be more concerned about you feeling the need to snoop through every aspect of his phone. If you don’t trust him then break up with him, but don’t put him through the runaround of digging through his friends conversations just because you’re insecure. If you don’t trust him then break up with him. If you do trust him, then act like it.

[mamasan]

Exactly!

[Tyrael]

I'm more concerned at your need to look through his phone all the time. I absolutely understand where he's coming from. It seems you don't trust him, otherwise there would be no need to go looking through his phone constantly. Leave the poor guy alone.

[mamasan]

I second this.

[Asker]

So I should ignore the fact that he snatched his phone out my hand?

[TrueConfection]

Not ignore. You should apologise for being rude (and possessive and clingy). You are implying that he needs a nanny to keep him accountable because he can't be trusted. If you can't trust him, dump him.

[Asker]

@TrueConfection are you saying his actions are not that big of deal and I should move on

[TrueConfection]

If you can't trust him, yes move on. He had every right to take his phone back.

[Asker]

@TrueConfection I want to trust him and I want to be happy because he makes me happy he’s a great guy. Besides snatching his phone that day he hasn’t given me a reason to not trust him but him snatching the phone has me overthinking and I want to make sure I’m overthinking and not being blind you know?

[TrueConfection]

In that case, give the guy a chance and back off the watchdog routine.

[Asker]

@TrueConfection I wasn’t overthinking until my guy friend was saying it was suspicious and stuff that he snatched his phone even tho it was the first time he did it

[spartan55]

@asker
Of course your "guy friend" said that. He's trying to throw your boyfriend under the bus because he wants to bang you.
And don't insult everyone's intelligence and say you trust him when go through his phone everytime you see him... such bullshit.

[exitseven]

He gave you the phone back so no. I would be pissed if you kept telling me you do not trust me by going through my personal texts. I don;t know how he put up with it for so long.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO

[Christine8]

Yea you should be concerned. If this guy has nothing to hide than why is he so secretive and why did he snatch it out of your hand?
My partner will not let me look at his mobile and even snatched it off me when I tried and I found out he is not a very honest person. Not only had he been on sexting websites looking at porn, using wats up when I am at working doing night shift. I had evidence of this with photos and he still denied it. Some men like the ones that hide things are just not trust worthy

[TrueConfection]

Maybe he is seething boundaries. He allowed you to snoop a few times and enough is enough. I'm surprised he hadn't ended the relationship with you the first time you snooped.

[TrueConfection]

*setting

[Petermorgan34]

No. You should be concerned that he will dump you eventually. 99% of guys and girls would not put up with that constant behavior. If he leaves you only have yourself to blame

[Anonymous]

Nope. He should be concerned that you are automatically going to assume he’s hiding something when, as you said, he always been a trustworthy person.
If he’s a trustworthy person, when does he actually get to earn your trust?

[loveslongnails]

Checking on your boyfriend's phone like that means only one thing - you don't really trust him. You can rationalize it any way you want, but that's what it means.

[anylolone]

Stop violating people's personal property.
He gave you signs that you are controlling paranoid cunt and you ignored it.

Honestly, he should break up with you, he was patient way too much.

[Anonymous]

He should leave you but he's probably too much of a simp to pull the plug so wants you to do it for him

[Yourfriend2021]

It looks like you don't trust him because you keep looking at his phone. So it makes him upset.

[spartan55]

He should be concerned about you...🙄