Do you think it is a good idea to live together before marriage? (Page 2)

Question

This is one story: I have no trouble finding dates. However, I have a recurring problem that rears its head when things go beyond dating and into relationship territory. The source of the problem is that nowadays, it seems that a prerequisite to marriage is an extended period of cohabitation. I do not believe in this. I simply do not wish to share my life with someone unless, well, I know that I wish to share my life with them. However, when I tell this to interested gentlemen, they tell me that they could never really know someone without a period of cohabitation, and since I am not religious, I do not have a real reason to be against it. My reply to this, besides listing alternative ways of getting to know each other, is to cite statistics about the relative lack of success of marriages arising from cohabitation. This is often met with a statement like, "Statistics can be twisted however one wishes." As I have no further argument, this tends to be the end of the gentleman's interest in me; I am seen at best as someone opposed to the natural progression of a relationship, and at worst, as someone with something to hide. Can you please give me a polite comeback to the "I won't marry you unless you live with me first" statement that will succeed in showing that I am not unreasonable, nor that I have something to hide, so that I stop losing potential mates? Or, can you tell me if nowadays it is considered rude to refuse to cohabitate with a romantic partner after several months of dating?

DeltaCharlieEcho · Answer

I just heard a compelling argument against it and even though I’ve done it twice before I’d say it is a bad idea now.

jeffryrobertbabb · Answer

It seems almost inevitable these days, but I don't think it is a good idea. The first six months of marriage is all about sex.

MountAverage · Answer

It would be stupid not to live together before marriage. Almost as stupid as not having sex before marriage.

Tom69688 · Answer

I think it is that gives you a real chance to know if you really click or not. You or the other person may have habits that you just can't stand

Anonymous · Answer

In the old days, we had concepts of mutual respect and opposing views.

David_Bayer · Answer

Absolutely. You never know a person until you live with them.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

People who lived together before marriage have a higher divorce rate than those who didn't.

Anonymous · Answer

This question is a reminder of how I envy and resent couples in their twenties

ohshee · Answer

I think so well, for me at least

LemiaOfChampions · Answer

A trail period to see how well you get on maybe.

HaveNoName · Answer

From a relgious point of view: NO absolutely not.

sullyk1234 · Answer

yes i do you get to know eachother better

najekim · Answer

Yup. At least a year.

blondfrog · Answer

Yeah its like a test drive.

fred_durst · Answer

no because marriage itself is horrible idea

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Yes darling we should live together first..

jimmy2 · Answer

Its more rougher but you can

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe, if you’re engaged.

Anonymous · Answer

So much crazy people on this thread...

Anonymous · Answer

A very good idea.

EaterPeter · Answer

Yes.

townhouse · Answer

Definetly

robocop666 · Answer

well duh

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