If your boyfriend asked that both of you sign an NDA about your relationship so personal relationship details legally couldn't be revealed, would you agree?

[Anonymous]

yes

no

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[cloudspy]

No. Do you mean a NDA relating to the sexual side of the relationship or the relationship as a whole? Anyway, I would question your mentality and wonder what it is you want to do within the relationship that you don't want anyone to know. What shady shit would be going on?

[Asker]

what if it is because he doesn't like how a lot of people gossip about juicy personal information (concerning boyfriends and girlfriends) to friends

[cloudspy]

If it worries you, simply expressing how you feel about it to your partner should warrant that she would respect your feelings and not disclose things you wouldn't want out in the open.

An NDA is not going to give you any guarantees that it won't happen, just the ability to sue them if it does.

[Asker]

do you think that if a woman is worth it, she would respect his wishes and not do this and if she proceeds to do it anyway, it shows that she is disrespectful?

[cloudspy]

If it's things relating to his intimite details and if he has specifically said to her exactly what is a no-go to dicuss with other people and explained why and how he feels about it openly and she agrees not to do it and then does it anyway then yes, it's a betrayal of trust and disrespectful.

She is in the same position though, you could go around telling everyone real personal stuff about her. You'll both be vulnerable.

If you're just trying to control everything, then maybe you're not ready for an intimite relationship.

[SnakeBoop]

No. I have friends I'd want to talk to them about it.
Half of this screams a major red flag of manipulation and intentional isolation of a person to be able to abuse them.

[Asker]

what if it is because he doesn't like how a lot of people gossip about juicy personal information (concerning boyfriends and girlfriends) to friends

[SnakeBoop]

again that his insecurities negatively impacting a relationship and being shown in shitty behaviour.

[Asker]

i was not referring to insecurities i was referring to the fact that he feels it is distasteful and childish to talk about these kind of "juicy" things that go on in a relationship with people outside the relationship

[Ninani]

This is a big red flag for me. Gives him reign to do anything to me and I can't speak to anyone about it other than him. Toxic af!

[Asker]

what if it is because he doesn't like how a lot of people gossip about juicy personal information (concerning boyfriends and girlfriends) to friends

[Ninani]

Then he should talk to his girlfriend about it like adults.

[Anonymous]

Yeah a NDA for a relationship is very... strange. I wouldn't sign it because, I want to talk about my life to my friends and family and this includes talking about relationships.

[Asker]

what if it is because he doesn't like how a lot of people gossip about juicy personal information (concerning boyfriends and girlfriends) to friends

[Opinion Owner]

Then maybe he should date someone who doesn't talk about their private life much to their friends and family. It's just really sketchy even if there's good intentions... and also it would be a huge change for someome who tells their friends and family everything.

[SaoirseS]

No, sounds like a silly idea to me, not to mention practically unenforceable.

[Asker]

what if it is because he doesn't like how a lot of people gossip about juicy personal information (concerning boyfriends and girlfriends) to friends

[SaoirseS]

It doesn't matter. I don't talk about people I'm dating in any detail, and I don't get into personal details about people I've dated before. But if anyone were to ever ask me to sign any kind of contract while dating, the next step would be to show him the door because it would definitely be all over right then and there.

[Asker]

what if he didn't want you talking about sexual details

[SaoirseS]

"What if" is just another hypothetical. I already mentioned I don't get into overly personal details about whomever I'm seeing as a matter of course. So what's the point of asking someone to sign a NDA that couldn't even be enforced?

[Anonymous]

That would be very sus. Huge red flag. I’d probably leave.

[Asker]

what if it is because he doesn't like how a lot of people gossip about juicy personal information (concerning boyfriends and girlfriends) to friends

[Gwenhwyfar]

Maybe. Depends why he asked.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Maybe if he was famous and I really liked him. But honestly probably not.

[Asker]

he doesn't like how people (both men and women) share details regarding their sex lives with friends because he feels this is really personal information. Also, there is no denying that a lot of people share information about their boyfriend/girlfriend's medical issues with their friends and stuff like that. It regards personal medical, sexual, family (regarding his relationship with his family) stuff like that just because privacy is extremely important to him

[Gwenhwyfar]

No. Definitely not.

[Gwenhwyfar]

It’s also unenforceable

[Asker]

which of these particular things that i listed would you want to be able to talk about? just out of curiosity so i understand better

[Gwenhwyfar]

Sex stuff, relationship stuff, life in general

Even if he was famous I wouldn’t agree not to talk to my friends. Just not to reporters.

This is an interesting question but unless you’re famous I don’t think any girl’s gonna go for it. And even then it’d be a tough sell.

[Asker]

understood. but out of curiosity, often with celebrities it is not the significant others that talk to the press, its the friends of the significant other with whom someone shared their secrets. For example, a woman celebrity may tell her boyfriend something and he tells his friends and his friends tell the reporters. What are your thoughts on this? Its a purely hypothetical thing and i am just curious

[Gwenhwyfar]

Nothing to be done about that. I’m not gonna not talk to my friends. Only very close friends of course.

[Coulis]

I wouldn't date a celebrity anyway.

[Anonymous]

Why? so he could beat me up in peace? AS IF !

[Asker]

what if it is because he doesn't like how a lot of people gossip about juicy personal information (concerning boyfriends and girlfriends) to friends

[Opinion Owner]

if you're not a shitty person, nothing to be weary of

[Asker]

If your boyfriend asked that you don't tell your friends sexual info about him such as his size, sexual preferences/performance (good or bad in bed, big or small, what he like and doesn't like sexually) etc... would u agree?

[Opinion Owner]

if you're that insecure in a relationship and you're not even a celebrity, your self esteem has to be looked at, everyone has sex and you're not gonna give ur partner an orgasm 24/7, that's life

[Asker]

so you would tell them his penis size?

[Opinion Owner]

yup, if I show up to dinner with my friends and im walking funny, they should know why LOL

[Asker]

what if he didn't want them to know his size?

[Opinion Owner]

THEN BREAK UP WITH ME

[Opinion Owner]

sounds controlling as hell. a lot of abusers, isolate their spouses BEFORE they can start abusing them. the NDA would just be a start to a shitty relationship

[Asker]

one more final question. if he told his friends about your genitals, would you be ok with this?

[Opinion Owner]

I wouldn't like it but I know my vagina isn't the ugliest, plus that's the way guys bond

[Anonymous]

Not even. I have sus written over my forehead man?

[Asker]

what if it is because he doesn't like how a lot of people gossip about juicy personal information (concerning boyfriends and girlfriends) to friends

[Opinion Owner]

Meh still no reason to sign one

[CatOpinions]

It would be a redflag and deal breaker in my book.

[CatOpinions]

I would wonder what he's trying to hide. It's also a sign of insecurity and distrust. The person I'm with needs to respect me enough to give me the benefit of a a doubt that I would never disrespect them. They should also understand that talking about relationships is normal and healthy - and it goes both ways.

[Asker]

what if it is because he doesn't like how a lot of people gossip about juicy personal information (concerning boyfriends and girlfriends) to friends

[Agape93]

Nope