How do I stop being toxic with my boyfriend? (Page 2)
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Without examples it's impossible to help you much. For starters he is definitely interested in being with you. He keeps taking you back. So you can be relatively sure he won't cheat. I don't know if you've been sexual yet, but if you have I can pretty much guarentee he likes how you look.
If therapy isn’t an option then I recommend some heavy research. Try to find advice from professionals online. There’s websites and YouTube videos and all kind of stuff for you to get advice from. But he weary on who you take advice from.
You realise that what goes on in your mind shouldn't affect others. Whenever you feel jealous you deal with it yourself and leave your boyfriend out of it or you share your thoughts and insecurities with him so he has a chance at supporting you.
Have you tried therapy? This just sounds like a restless and pointless cycle with you and him at this point. Focus on bettering yourself before jumping I to a relationship.
By sitting down and asking yourself what causes this toxic behaviour. What's the root of it. And deal with those unpleasant aspects of your self.
The best thing to do in a relationship is communication with each other.
Talk freely about your feelings, weakness, emotions with your partner and tell him what makes you feel offended.
Take the first step in building a strong foundation for your relationship and surely, you will feel the change.
If your boyfriend is true from heart, he will understand and mend his actions.
This question reminds me of myself
I am like everything you said, but only with this guy
I’ve been like this and felt so insecure in any relationship I was in before
So maybe it’s because this guy isn’t the right one for me. And same for you.
Good luck:)
I’ve never been like this in any relationship **
why don't you pose these questions seriously to your boyfriend and find a baby steps solution. get him to recognize you are struggling and you need help
You won't change because you can't. It's the easiest way to pour your negative emotions on someone you know the person won't turn away and leave when you behave obnoxiously. In the other hand you feel subconsciously this behavior will have a bad end for you at some point and you know time doesn't play in your favor.
Well you’ve done the first step which is to recognize that your in the wrong and identity the problems.
next step is to work on the jealousy, drama and insecurities.
Phoenix98 is right on.
Now you need to write on a piece of paper the reasons behind each problem. When you know the sources of your problems, you know better how to fix them.
@Luopio27 Pretty much.
There's no answer we can give you. Go find a therapist, see them regularly, do what they say and try your best.
If you know you're being toxic, you might as well break it off with him. As per your question details, there's nothing wrong with him, it's all you. Do you think he deserves that?
You need some professional help. This is a mental health issue, and almost all insurance companies cover some amount of mental health. Go talk to an expert.
Whatever you put the word I you become it you have to control yourself I know you’re a girl on your emotions but don’t know emotions control you eventually he’s going to leave you. No one wants pain emotional or physical.
Is this the ghost of Gabby Petito? Dump him, Ghosty!
To change you must want to change for you. Not someone else. Learn to love yourself and trust.
Take a break from him for a while and go to therapy, you need to work on healing yourself before you start dating him again.
You remind me of my ex. The first step had been taken, but only with a psychologist yoi'll have a full understanding of your condition.
Does he do anything that makes you feel insecure? Does he reassure you when you’re feeling that way?
If it's all on you then consider staying single until you've sorted out the issues.