She should have come back to you. But the problem is women can't understand simple concepts sometimes. So when you told her that you couldn't date her because she was dating your friend, she probably interpreted that as a rejection of her. When it wasn't; it was a rejection of the circumstances.
@Jamie05rhs Damn that's a real shame. I would have happily dated her back then after the break up, maybe 2 months or so after so it wasn't hitting too close to home for either party. A shame how she destroyed her life in the end. honestly doesn't seem to be a lot of people in it for the right reasons anymore.
@t-8900 Yeah, it is a shame. Unfortunately, women are self-destructive in many cases when it comes to love.
Now I know why you're sad girl
I think we all experience the same thing... I was in love with s girl for like 4 years even tho she always said I'm jus her friend I kept my love for her secret... But she really doesn't want me and that hurts... I give up on her
Rejection is jus part of life I gueee
Fair enough, can't tell everyone though.Especially if your crush is married. Best to take the high route then and just keep it inside where it belongs so it only silently kills and crushes your soul rather than anyone else's while continuing to be friends.
I would still tell him so he knows 2 people love him :)
That just seems like unfairly and unnecessarily throwing the burden onto that person. It isn't like they're going to leave their spouse for you so there's absolutely no reason to let them know. Best to just keep the burden your own rather than add unneeded stress into their life and make things more difficult for them and, even worse, ruining an amazing friendship that you can already have. It's better to have someone in your life that you care about than not at all just for the sake of revealing something that really doesn't matter anyway.
Uhm a couple of things…1. It’s not a burden for me to love someone I love. And2. I DO NOT want anything back for my love. I don’t want him to leave his wife. If she makes him happy, then I’m happy. And lastly…3. I MUST tell people I love how I feel cuz it’s the truth. If I want to be authentically myself, I can’t hide things like my love. The secret would be what would eat at me. Not the confession.
1: It becomes a burden as soon as this person knows because now it's added stress in their life. It's new drama for them to deal with knowing that a friend has feelings for them despite their married status and especially if they're the kind of person that shares everything with their beloved, including secrets. Because then that person finds out and asks them to stop seeing you.2: There is always going to be an "assumed" desired outcome with a love confession. That is, that someone will change their mind and want to be with the confessor. It doesn't have to be true, it's just the honest nature of confessing your feelings to someone who is already taken, they feel some sort of pressure, no matter how small, to try and mitigate the emotional fallout for the confessor.3: What if that confession is the end of your friendship?
@InventorofWarp From your point #2, it’s obvious that you’re talking about possession. It’s fine you wanna possess the object of your affection – who would, right? But you’re going about it the wrong way. Come talk to me once you stop making excuses and wanna talk strategy on how to get the girl. Stop feeling sorry for yourself man. Now THAT’S definitely a turnoff.But... if you're talking about strictly love without possession, telling them is a must. And you're right about the assumed outcome part, that's why whenever I tell someone I love them, I start off with a disclaimer. Like, "Don't let this get to your head or nothing but..." Or "Don't expect me to cuff but..." Or "Don't leave your girl or nothing but..."Something light and a little cocky. Then I laugh it off cuz we both know it's just feelings. And that's that. Then I occasionally flirt with them, no big deal. All the sudden I'm on their mind constantly and they fall for me too 😌😂
I'll DM you about it from here on out, this is getting intriguing.
Nvm, your profile isn't open to DMs so... first off, fair enough.You have secrets you want to share to me for this? I am open and ready.There is always an assumed outcome and feeling of anxiety and burden from the confessee, especially if she/he is older and more settled and secure in life, it's just natural. They feel obligated to mitigate the emotional impact to the confessor regarding how they're feeling. A good amount of the time this becomes awkward or pressuring and they just end up cutting off contact entirely instead as a result.You flirt with your crush after confessing to them? Lol, damn girl. Pulling out all the dangling strings.
Can't really flirt with them too much if they're married and if they are and then the confession is made DEFINITELY wouldn't want to jump into it again right away.Although wanting to possess a crush as an object? Not really, it's just all feelings and one can't help their feelings.
@InventorofWarp I'll Dm you then
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You say that mate but give it a couple of lagers and milks and your tone will soon turn! lol
@AndrewMG didn't say never been in love.. Never been in love where they didn't know
No confusion here… many people can spend a ton of time together and not be physically intimate and still have feelings for them.
I didn't mean to imply that you, personally, were confused. I didn't think you were. Maybe I should have phrased my reply differently. I also may have misinterpreted the question. I thought you were talking about people who had secret crushes as opposed to two people already in a relationship.
This is the good decision.
That's so true...