Yes, and it was a love triangle kinda. So I let her know and actually she seemed excited and turned on but I had to stop her from getting excited. I explained she was my friends girlfriend for going on 3 years and there was no way we could be an item. She then kinda looked bummed. I told her that because of how I was feeling that I didn't want to hang out with her anymore. The night before she had freely chosen to give me a lap dance... without any warning. I felt it was time to just be clear on the whole thing. They did end up breaking up like a year later.
But then she bounced onto another guy and they ended up married after like 6 months of talkin. That died in it's tracks because the dude clearly thought that marriage = all he could get if you know what I mean. Now she's been bouncing off of guys left and right and turning into a train wreck. I'm not slut shaming I mean you can physically see that she's been emotionally damaging herself after that initial 4 year relationship failed. If you're going to go out and have fun who am I to stop you? But jumping into one relationship after another to feel validated isn't going to help you out, just make you question the person in the mirror. I can say that from personal experience.
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Yes, I worked with a girl who was really sweet, honest, dependable, and super kind. She was also really good at her job too, which helped, Im attracted to motivation. We had a TON in common, and talked and saw each other non stop. She was 1 of my only 2 sexual experiences; the first at that. I absolutley adored her, not to say i was a simp lol. But I used to take her lunch, we went on a couple picnics with friends, would hang out together off-duty etc. However in my line of work relationships ruin careers, many men and women have been served papers and docs over simply flirting. One of my friends was given disciplinaries for just kissing his wife off-duty while in uniform. Too many people get feelings hurt easily nowadays. Anyway we worked together 4 years and she wanted to get into the dating scene but i didn't. I never told her how I really felt so I suppose she never knew xD. Or at least didn't know the full extent to how much I cared. I found out last year that she had gotten married, but the guy got her pregnant and beat her, she ended up misscarrying and getting a divorce and he went to federal prison. I always wondered if I should've told her.
YES.
It is my biggest regret so far.
It was almost 10 years ago and for some reason I was shy and I was deadly afraid of rejections.
Even though my crush did show some signs of interest. But my nerves got the better of me.
Of course one part of me thinks that if he does like me he should do something on his end.
But the other part of me (till now- well the feeling did fade slowly). Is constantly regretting at all the chances I didn’t take.
If I had tried to reach out to him and he did respond favourably, we could be married with kids now.
Fast forward, I did move on (not 100% but I can like other people) and I went to tell a guy I like him (but he doesn’t like me back :( )
But the feeling of sadness from rejection is wayyyyyy less heavy than the feeling of regret from what if could’ve been.
Maybe the next time I like someone again, I will tell him and maybe I will finally be lucky
Yeah when I was 18 :/
But now I’m a grown women and tell everyone how I feel about them. If I love you, you’re gonna know. I’m not looking for anything back. Just for you to know that someone loves you and you’re attractive or whatever😙
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I don’t think I’ve ever liked a guy who did not know how I felt, except maybe when I was 10, before my crushes became more intense, because I’ve always been transparent.
I don't think so. Don't remember that.
You're confusing love with infatuation. Infatuation is very powerful, but it's not the same as love. There's no such thing as love at first sight and you can't love someone you don't know intimately.
But in answer to your question, yes, I've had crushes on girls that I never admitted my feelings toward.Yes. My childhood friend Roxi (RIP) was a very wild, confident and courageous girl while I was the type as a little kid to run from my problems if I could. Many times I got dragged into fights that I would normally avoid because I did not want her fighting a group of people alone (even though I knew she could handle them). She would deliberately put me in situations that pushed me physically and mentally and would not let me settle for less than my best. She was easily the leader of the two of us. However, where I fell in love with her was a fight where she backed me up. I had a broken arm from doing stupid redneck stuff (thanks Roxi) and 3 kids decided to take the opportunity to jump me since it was their only chance to beat me. I never saw her move so fast or so fiercely. In about the span of 5 seconds two of them had a broken nose and she was chasing the third one with a bat. She only stopped when I asked her to.
Yes, I was literally fell in love with married woman and we did flirted each other. I realized that she have a wife and her two sons, and then I knew I shouldn’t have, So I made it right between her and me. I left her alone with her family and I had nothing with them.
I haven’t been fell in Love with anyone since stopped to see her in a year.I miss and dream of so many girls that have rejected me. I wouldn't use the term in love because that usually refers to 2 people loving each other. If two people are married to those they aren't happy with, then one from both of these marriages may secretly fall in love behind the backs of their wife and husband. Thats how I define falling in love.
As far as girls like Scarlet Johanson, and all other pretty white celebrities go, I love their appearance but can't say im in love with them.All the time. I honestly just keep it to myself because at this point, it’s just not worth the humiliation. For some reason women lose respect for you when you tell them you love them. They start treating you very poorly, like a peasant. Also, once you tell them you love them, not only do they lose respect for you, they lose attraction also. The worst part is that many girls now a days use this vulnerability as a power play to extract dinners, attention, gifts, and all sorts of things and if a guy tried to take things to the next level (not sexually just in general) the reject you and tell you that everything you’ve done for her was “your choice” and that she doesn’t owe you shit, and it’s true, they don’t owe us shit. I just wish women would take advantage of it for their own personal gain only to call you entitled for desiring reciprocity. It’s truly sad how bad things are now a days.
I have…. I told them when they broke up with me because they weren’t sure if they’d ever love me and had demons he had to work on…. Not sure what is true….. I still love him and would go back to him because he was my first love… Might not be the smartest choice unless he worked on himself
I was few times infatuated, but there were lot of obstacles like a pregnant girlfriend, the girl I liked was religiously indoctrinated (Watchtower), another one was a girlfriend of a friend...
I know myself, butterflies in my stomach and pleasant insecurity while looking in some girls eyes don't last long.
Love is different and it's mutual escalation of mutual infatuated couple over time. I don't think there is something like loving someone and not told them.Yep. I confessed to him that I LIKED him once like 2 years ago and I assume he thinks I’m over it because we chat regularly as friends but nope. Now I’m in love with him but I’m fine with it being a friendship cause I’m working through my own issues.
Yes but I didn’t think they loved me. Ten years later I found out they did love me and thought I didn’t love them. Damn.
Yes definitely… I’ve always been content with my decision not to disrupt their life.
A few times but there was one instance I regret and in the nearly twenty years it’s been since I’ve seen her, it’s just something I can’t help but to ask myself, ‘What if?’ Most likely scenario is that nothing would have come of it. But the question still remains.
Yes I fell in love with with a lady that worked for my father. The problem was I never got the chance to tell her. We hit it off great I was on break from my duty station in the army and that’s when we met. We hung out and things were clicking. I was devoured and she pretty much knew everything about me before we met. My time flew by and in the end I chocked and didn’t get her number or address to write her. When I got back I found out that she went back to her old boyfriend, it stunk.
I think yes. There is this one woman who got me fully inspired. We were working overseas that time and we (along with several others) stayed on a multi-room apartment. We got close, we went out (mostly with others but we went out just the 2 of us a couple of times) to the mall, to restaurants, to parks.
I didn't push it through because she's married. Her husband works on a different country as well.See I don't consider that love. Love is reciprocated. What you're describing is a crush to me.
And yes. I don't ask women out anymore. Ergo I'm not going tobtip her off if I'm harboring feelings towards her. The good news is 1. I don't catch feelings very easily. And 2. If I start to i do all I can to stamp those feelings out. Love is a social disease and I do my best to see that I don't become infected.I fell in love with a girl. She had a lazy no good boyfriend who literally didn't do anything but complain and play video games. She confessed to me she wasn't happy but also in so many words told me she couldn't leave him. I fell soo deeply in love with her that It physically had me in pain. I couldn't bring myself to tell her due to the fact I knew she wouldn't leave his no good sorry ass.
Yeah... I have did that coz when i know it's impossible to have conversation wid them... so yes i have.
At one point when I was younger, yes. It would have gone over like a lead balloon though because I was unaware of how to convey my interest outside of what I had seen in movie, TV, etc.
I’ve only so far fell for celebs and men I saw in tv, not anyone in person lol
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