If you don't like your partners FAVORITE perfume or cologne do you say something or just break up with them?

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meetkitty123 · Accepted Answer

Well to your original question of course I would say something before breaking up with an individual. I would be quick too and very honest.

To the update part of your question... If they continue to use the scent even after I informed them that I could not tolerate it I would distance myself from them. I'm very overly sensitive to smells so if I can't stand a sent I won't get stay near a person. If they continue to wear it after I've kindly asked them not to I most likely will break up with them. However I would tell them that Im considering breaking up with them over the sent. I wouldn't just break up with them without trying to discuss the matter with them.

I had a similar situation where I was getting to know someone who had an opposite problem they didn't use any cologne but not only did they not use cologne they didn't use the deodorant I had to tell them straight up that's a major deal breaker for me. And I did warn them that I would end things if we went on dates and they smelled like sweat.

Another thing usually if I don't like a scent it has something to do with it triggering my PTSD. So there would be no way that I could stay with someone if they were triggering me. For example anything that smells like black stetson cologne will Trigger me and can't be around someone who smells like that. I once had a boyfriend who wanted to buy black stillson and I had to let them know there is no way I can do it.

Anyhow
Now to toss the curveball into this whole matter. If I didn't like the way a person smelled and it was their favorite scent therefore they always wore it I would most likely never start dating them to begin with.
Sorry... If The person doesn't smell good I'm not dating them.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Normal people : Tell your partner in a nice, yet honest manner. Ideally they will stop wearing said fragrance because they know it bothers you.  Trolls and idiots online, whom do not represent the majority of normal, functioning adults : Break up and find a more appealing, better smelling partner because telling your partner the truth is  so  hard and requires communication skills they're obviously lacking!  The sad thing this, while I know this question is probably just a joke, there are stupid ass people out there that break up with their partners for nonsensical reasons. Yet wonder why dating or finding a partner is so difficult. I have NO pity for people like that.

Phoenix98 · Accepted Answer

Just tell them in a polite manner that you don't like the way it smells.

But I mean breaking up with someone over them wearing a certain cologne? If your relationship is that fragile then it was never gonna last to begin with.

Jamie05rhs · Accepted Answer

Wow. Talk about bad communication skills. People would really throw away a relationship because they're too afraid to make an honest comment about their partner's personal products?

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

Now I've heard it all... Anyone who would break up with someone over something that petty don't deserve a partner in the first place. There would be so many other ways to handle that..

bubbles328 · Answer

Yes! One of my exes always wore the same thing and now when I smell it it brings back horrible memories. Now every Christmas you can guarantee a bottle of this stuff will make it into my house through some kind of present for either my boyfriend or son. As soon as I see it i put it away and take it to the charity shop. I have told both my partner and my son they cannot wear it and I hate it!

CurlyGirl42 · Answer

I'd tell them and let them decide what to do with the information. If they still wanted to use it very often then it could be a problem, a bad smell can ruin a lot of physical intimacy for me. But if he only uses perfume very seldom, like myself, then I can deal with it.

electromagnetic · Answer

But then a new one and say “ I’m tryna do it tonight” he’ll put it on every night.  Or just tell him he’s cologne sucks. 🤣

modeve · Answer

I will buy perfume or cologne of my liking, give him and see what does he say. Break up on such a minor matter is silly, or an excuse to realise already predecided plan. If one is serious in continuing relationship, tolerance is the best way.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Just put on something gross yourself and say you'll stop using yours if he won't use his.

Anonymous · Answer

Seems a bit silly to break up with them just because you don’t like their perfume especially if you haven’t talked to them about it first

Pandupillu · Answer

Wait! What? Breaking up with someone over a perfume!!! I am moving to Mars.. I can't take this ridiculity anymore.

Anonymous · Answer

Breaking up with them over that sounds a little ott don’t you think?

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

You should speak up on it and offer a suggestion that they may like as well. Breaking up over that is just extreme and childish. I know people who dumped and got dumped for far more smaller reasons than that

Fireguy17 · Answer

just buy them some new stuff, if it is for a guy as long as he is getting on a regular basis, he will wear anything. Or have him put it on, the attack him, that way you can train him to use it.

Nomina · Answer

Break up with someone over a cologne? Lol. That's excessive.
Either I'll tell him, it shouldn't be that big of a deal. In my opinion, there would be much more serious issues than that. Or I'd just put up with it.

GoldenCage · Answer

A partner I would say something, a stranger no, soome I'm dating hmmm only if they asked

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

You buy them one you like as a gift. They'd be more inclined to wear it because it was from you.

Guardian45 · Answer

Smell has a very deep connection to me and is a language. I associate smells with things!

I would NOT break up with her over something so trivial.
If I don't like her FAVORITE perfume or cologne I WILL say something! SOMETHING!🤣🤪

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

Fully agree with @cynicaldreamer on this one. also I tend to have my girlfriend by the fragrances she likes, although most have been happy with Issey Miyake

madgoat · Answer

Throwing away a viable relationship because of perfume is all a bit silly. Better to sweet talk them into changing their smelly stuff

t-8900 · Answer

I let them know. Use the allergy excuse if you must to soften the blow XD

LinaDaGoddess · Answer

I wouldn’t say anything, they’re allowed to be their own person. We all have things that we dislike about our partners and for me, that’s not enough for me to make a fuss or try to change them. I wouldn’t alter their lifestyle just to please myself.

mooky06 · Answer

I will tell them lol if they refuse to stop wearing it it’s cool. At least they know that i hate it.  Wanting to break up because of that reason is overkill don’t your reckon?

exitseven · Answer

It would not bother me so I would not make an issue about it.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

So dumb either tell them or buy them something you like and tell them it smells nice on them and call it a day.

BookNerd666 · Answer

Breaking up with someone over perfume? That's a bit odd. :/

TheorionMage · Answer

FIRST, try 'gifting' them with ones that you DO like...  what they wear... while AWAY from you, is immaterial~ HOW MUCH they pay attention, tells YOU where YOU stand! ;)

Wiredone · Answer

I would and have said something. I would not break up because of her stinky perfume

DarkCarousel · Answer

That’s not reason enough to break up with someone. I’d just tell them.  Plus, a good smelling cologne is sexy as hell.

CrazyGirl2 · Answer

Omg NO I don’t just break up w/ someone over their cologne.

NathanDavis · Answer

they notice when I make faces and they choose not to wear it again, I just don't like most, strong chemical odors

Likes2drive · Answer

If I like them then I’ll probably let them know, Breaking up with them and not letting them now why or even the fact that you would break up with him for something so little they could change is kind of harsh

maybear · Answer

Just tell them your opinion nicely. That is such a childish reason to break up with someone.

PinkHamster · Answer

I’d give him a better one and explain why. It’s important for me to smell my guy with a scent I like to turn me on and attract me even more✨💕

nice-girl · Answer

Break up with them about something like this? Of course not. Tell something about it maybe.

dustybiker · Answer

No false fragrances in the home. Highly allergic.

AviatorTom · Answer

You SAY SOMETHING. If the relationship is good otherwise, odor is not a reason to break up.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Wouldn't date her to begin with, perfume smells nasty.

MarinaC · Answer

Breaking up over such a thing would be so cruel/childish/petty/bizarre! No wonder people are lonely...

genericname85 · Answer

well that would be a terribly dumb reason to break up xD

Pumpkinspice009 · Answer

Wtf? Who on the damn earth breaks up just for a perfume lmao

dragoblack · Answer

I'd say something. Breaking up over something so simple, is stupid

Anonymous · Answer

Just tell them LOL.  Unless they force u to use it as well then break up

lorenzomichael · Answer

You just throw that shit in the trash. Then buy her something that smells nice.

ChiPaPa · Answer

I'm not sure if I would even smell it. I have anosmia. Most scents are nothing to me.

Nazgol · Answer

I would say something. Breakup is a little extreme & unnecessary

Jordan_In_Utah · Answer

Say something? If you’re that shallow that you’ll break up with someone over a easily solved issue then you have the problem.

Loveme0214 · Answer

Say something it's not a big enough deal to break up over

jimmy2 · Answer

I woukd have tooo I would not be able to breathe

Angiee7741 · Answer

I just say.. I'm getting a bad headache

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

Of course not!!! Say something.

Anonymous · Answer

LOL why would just break up with them over that

Neosporin · Answer

Say something or get used to it

es20490446e · Answer

"You smell like racoon baby"

Buggington93 · Answer

Fuck no. Relationships are about compromising.

Shihab91 · Answer

Sure say something...

Anonymous · Answer

Id shut up cause I cannot harm others feelings

BillyBalls · Answer

My favorite is Gray Flannel

noohair · Answer

Yea, break up over shallow stuff like that.

mpodeszek · Answer

It doesn't matter if you love her.

Slim57 · Answer

Say something I've never had that problem though

sensible27 · Answer

How dare they..

Shy_Steve · Answer

I would tell them.

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