I'm 19 and in college and I met a guy I am really into. I have never been in a long-term relationship before while he has. We balance each other well and he treats me really nicely.
I have had a lot of things happen during my lifetime that has affected my ability to be emotionally and physically intimate on an appropriate level. I am not at the point where it is holding me back but I feel like I should open up to them about it but I'm not sure when or If I should since I don't know what the timings of a "normal relationship" are.
I know every relationship is different and you can't pace yourself based on what works for others but I also know I tend to talk about these kinds of things really early that ultimately leads to the relationship not working out.
I can be too sexual due to past experience that led me to feel that is all I could offer to make someone happy. I can be too emotionally open, scaring people. I can be too closed off making others feel I'm not letting them in. I can be too prude where I am not engaging in that contact at all.
I am confident in myself and any other problem I feel I can solve myself. Relationships though are more of a group project and I'm not sure how to be vulnerable, but I think the only way to learn is to put myself out there. I just don't know how or any guidelines to go off of.
I have had a lot of things happen during my lifetime that has affected my ability to be emotionally and physically intimate on an appropriate level. I am not at the point where it is holding me back but I feel like I should open up to them about it but I'm not sure when or If I should since I don't know what the timings of a "normal relationship" are.
I know every relationship is different and you can't pace yourself based on what works for others but I also know I tend to talk about these kinds of things really early that ultimately leads to the relationship not working out.
I can be too sexual due to past experience that led me to feel that is all I could offer to make someone happy. I can be too emotionally open, scaring people. I can be too closed off making others feel I'm not letting them in. I can be too prude where I am not engaging in that contact at all.
I am confident in myself and any other problem I feel I can solve myself. Relationships though are more of a group project and I'm not sure how to be vulnerable, but I think the only way to learn is to put myself out there. I just don't know how or any guidelines to go off of.
