My boyfriend gives his sister pocket money. Should I divorce?

[Anonymous]

My husband's sister goes to high school. She should work part time, or she should ask her mother for money. She should not ask my husband for money.

[FunkyMonkee]

I don't think there's anything wrong with it. He cares about his sister! My ex-fiance had the same thing. Her older brother would just send her $1000 without batting an eye just because he felt she might need it. She didn't and was working 2 or 3 nights a week as a waitress making more money in those 2 days than I was making working 5 days a week!! He would send her the money and she would send it back because she just didn't need it but, it was because he had the extra dosh and cared enough about his sister to see to it she was taken care of! I wish I had something like that with my family.
If nothing else, it SHOULD show you that he's a nice enough guy that he DOES care about her that much! Sounds like a keeper, to me!! At least he's not stingy!!

[slatyb]

It's his money or it should be. If you are putting all the money into one account stop doing that. You both need money that is all your own. Divide your income onto three accounts, his, hers, ours. All joint expenses come out of the joint account. If you are both working, then you will both have to contribute to it.

[Nomina]

I don't see a problem with that.

Sure, she can get a part time job. You can always encourage him to encourage her to do that. But I see no issue with a teenager asking her older brother for money. If she were an adult, then it would annoy me. Still not worthy of divorce, though.

[Ninani]

You want to divorce your husband for spending his own money to help out family?

[Asker]

His family me. His money is my money.

[Ninani]

Is that your agreement? That neither of you can spend money without the other one's consent?

[Kaneki05]

Imagine divorcing the person you claim to love because that person gave money to their sibling.
Lmao. So called "Love" right there. Probably does mean you need a divorce tho since you don't clearly love him and there is no point to that.

[horatiohornblower]

Seems like an over the top reaction.

I'd suggest setting up a budget. Then within that budget. You can each have discretionary funds to spend on whatever is important to you or feel like wasting it on.

Then he can give his sister money from his discretionary funds if he feels like it.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

They’re siblings and she’s young , if he wants to give her some pocket change then that’s his money, his choice.

[Asker]

He is my husband, his money is my money. Okay...

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Uhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh no. His money is his money, your money is your money.

[Asker]

No. He is mine. Just mine. His money is mine.

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Yeah you know what, maybe you should go through with the divorce

[Asker]

Why?

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

Obviously you don’t want to “share” him and he wants to. It’s best for everyone

[Mango-man]

In ancient times it used to be a tradition to talk about problems in relationship and trying to fix them.
Nowadays it seems to be trendy to ignore any form of communication and just throw away the old product and buy new one.

[ChrisMaster69]

I paid my sister rent for a year or so, the reason I could and she was doing college.

she’s family which makes it important.

that’s it and it would not be open for discussion.

[Barry88]

So he cares about his sister and supports her a bit financially.

I'm sorry, but I don't see what the issue is. If it's his money, it's his decision.

[exitseven]

It is his sister and it is his money. You should be happy he is so generous and cares about his family.

[ChiPaPa]

Husband, boyfriend. Pick one.
So he helps his sister out. She's family. You seriously think that's so bad you wanna leave? I hope he finds out and leaves you.

[Anonymous]

Siblings or step-siblings

The former is probably innocent but the latter is probably pay for services rendered, if you know what you mean

[Asker]

Siblings. Not step...

[Anonymous]

Trolololololo.
Can't even differentiate between husband and boyfriend 🤣

[Anonymous]

why would you divorce someone for helping out their sister? my brother is in college, can't work due to his extracurriculars and I always buy him food, offer to fill his gas tank, or send him money every now and then.

[Hangry06]

Yeah you should. He doesn't need to be tortured

[Twalli]

That's really not grounds for a divorce

[anylolone]

He works, what's your issue?

[Anonymous]

Why don't you get a job?