I need advice/opinions. My fiance and I are getting married in the New Year, however I’m a little concerned that he potentially stole money from me.
His family is in a trying financial situation. His cousin, who is also in a difficult financial position, was supposed to be flying in from India to attend our wedding. My fiancé’s family said that their finances are so bad, they can’t afford to help him fly over. I generously offered to pay for the plane ticket if he and his family couldn’t do it - my fiance told me the ticket all in cost $2000 USD.
As time went by, the plane ticket ended up being purchased somehow without my help. Weeks after it was purchased, my fiance started constantly asking me for the money. We agreed I would give him the money after our wedding day. Suddenly, this wasn’t good enough and he started harassing me to give him the money sooner. In a fit of anger, I gave him the $2000 even though the plane ticket was already purchased without any trouble previously by his family.
A week after I gave him the money, he and his family went on an expensive day trip and ate at a super expensive restaurant. They also spent hours shopping at the mall.
I asked him for the plane ticket receipt and he took forever to send it. I ended up calling the airline myself and I got the receipt sent to me from the airline as well and the price was off by over $300. I overpaid him and he never told me. When I confronted him, he said that, as long as the money went to family, it shouldn’t really matter.
What should I make of this? I was under the impression I was only going to pay for the ticket if his family couldn’t do it, but they obviously did without my help, yet hit me up for the cash anyway and overcharged me. By the way, I make $30k and he and his family altogether bring in almost 100k but are in debt.
His family is in a trying financial situation. His cousin, who is also in a difficult financial position, was supposed to be flying in from India to attend our wedding. My fiancé’s family said that their finances are so bad, they can’t afford to help him fly over. I generously offered to pay for the plane ticket if he and his family couldn’t do it - my fiance told me the ticket all in cost $2000 USD.
As time went by, the plane ticket ended up being purchased somehow without my help. Weeks after it was purchased, my fiance started constantly asking me for the money. We agreed I would give him the money after our wedding day. Suddenly, this wasn’t good enough and he started harassing me to give him the money sooner. In a fit of anger, I gave him the $2000 even though the plane ticket was already purchased without any trouble previously by his family.
A week after I gave him the money, he and his family went on an expensive day trip and ate at a super expensive restaurant. They also spent hours shopping at the mall.
I asked him for the plane ticket receipt and he took forever to send it. I ended up calling the airline myself and I got the receipt sent to me from the airline as well and the price was off by over $300. I overpaid him and he never told me. When I confronted him, he said that, as long as the money went to family, it shouldn’t really matter.
What should I make of this? I was under the impression I was only going to pay for the ticket if his family couldn’t do it, but they obviously did without my help, yet hit me up for the cash anyway and overcharged me. By the way, I make $30k and he and his family altogether bring in almost 100k but are in debt.
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Umm yeah how is that not just stealing?
And you should only be giving him something if you want to not because he is begging for it.
I would say his thoughts are for sure because he's Indian just in terms of family been close like that. Of course many others are close like that but Indian values show here, he somehow thinks it's okay longs if it's within the family. But that's not how it works, the money you gave him was for the flight not for his family to have a good time.
What he thinks is normal ain't our normal. Plus what he considers normal is taking advantage of you so... he's either super ignorant or knows but don't care. Ignorant means he could be forgiven but the other means run. I for sure wouldn't marry said person until they understand what they did was wrong.
question. as you 2 are getting married is his money your money and your money his money? or is his money your money and your money your money? if the second you may as well call off the wedding. if the first then it shouldn't matter as long as you 2 still have the money you 2 need.