Once a cheater, always a cheater. Do you agree? Your thoughts?

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tee_64 · Accepted Answer

Yes totally agree and there are just few rare people who realise their mistake and won't repeat it again

Linn055 · Accepted Answer

If a person deceives me, it will be difficult for me to believe what he said again!

OlderAndWiser · Answer

Not exactly. If someone cheats when they are very young (teens) and sees the harm they have done, I think it is possible for them to resolve to never again cheat. If someone does it when they are in their 20's, I think they are more likely to be a repeat offender.

tatianamay · Answer

Cheat on me once, shame on you, cheat on me twice, shame on me

I would NOT forgive any man who cheats on me. It implies that :-
1. he does not respect me
2. he does not love me

I would dump his cheating ass. How can I trust him again? Once my trust is breeched, there is no going back. No amount of crying and apologies is going to fix it. He can ask for my forgiveness, and I will forgive him with time, but I would NEVER go back to him again. I'd be the dumbest fool in the world if I did. I would forgive him because holding grudges would only weigh me down. I'd rather forget about that piece of shit and move on with my life.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

People can change their ways... but at the same time, someone that's killed is probably more likely to kill again than someone that's refused such actions 100% completly right? That ability to cross a certain line is proven and practiced which simply makes it more likely.

If I was giving personal advice about it to another in person though, I'd put the focus on repeated practice in the past to be predictors of the future. Like if my bro tells me she's cheated on ex-husband, and multiple boyfriends... I'd probably be like dude, you're probably not going to be special. I'd also look at if they felt bad about it or justified it. If they justified it, it's already up to a 50% chance... repeated practice more % and so on.

hahahmm · Answer

It's often true but not always true. It's risky to trust someone who has a history of not being trustworthy. In the end it boils down to their risk/reward calculations. If they truly value what they have with you they're not going to cheat. But it's impossible to know in advance what somebody really values or if their calculator is broken. You can only see as they build a history of behavior.

Miristheiss · Answer

It would be irrelevant to me. If a girl cheats on me does anyone actually expect me to hang around and give her the chance to not cheat anymore? We are done. I don't care if she "stops".

If I find out a girl cheated in a previous relationship... I think I'd be out.

blended_ninja · Answer

I learned the hard way that people will always be cheaters once they start. After you do it, you won't truly stop. Now I have rule for dating: I don't date cheaters. If she's ever cheated, I immediately break things off. People don't change enough to stop doing something like that.

Anonymous · Answer

I guess it’s not true for everyone, but I personally wouldn’t date a person who has cheated in the past, especially more than once. I feel like I wouldn’t be able to trust them. I think people can change, but if you don’t know why it is that they cheated or understand it, I’d stay away.

jasco · Answer

People change all the time, life changes people some for the better others for the worse. People who realize what their doing and self reflect usually become better people however if I were cheated on I wouldn’t get back with her, we can be friends but that’s it

Huldusonur · Answer

No. No relationships are the same which means that if one ends up cheating in one relationship, there is no way of telling if they will cheat in another, different realtionship. Assuming a former cheater would cheat in a new relationship would be assuming the worst from past experiences and that's pretty logical. Although assuming someone would cheat in a relationship, won't prevent them from cheating more than trusting that they won't.

crazy8000 · Answer

With some.
Some may be faithful when together with some.

When it comes to it, it depends on what kind of rules each person have that they fallow in life.
Many doesn't change them.

In general people wants others to change not themselves. female's are a prime example of that before middle pose in general.

ping36one · Answer

No not true. I have cheated before but never will again. I have been cheated on before and didn't realize how damaging it was to me until I cheated and did some reflecting.
I am now a better person than I was when cheated and I will hold myself to that standard.

If someone gains your interest while you're in a relationship, there's something wrong or missing in that relationship. Fix it or end it.

End a relationship before pursuing another.

AnthonyJ01 · Answer

My ex cheated on me, but interesting that she, adamantly denied it without ever being accused. In my divorce, I found out from one of her relatives that she cheated on everyone, and with the same person. She even cheated in him when she was dating him.

pickedcrisps · Answer

No.

He or she just either had regret or met someone better or like anything in life... shouldn't have gone for the first taxi cab.

So you know... regret and re-evaluation are human. It's human, to be human. You're all only human 🙂🙂

Jinsoyun · Answer

Had boyfriend who cheated , ended it right then. He wanted me back but I found out he has others he had cheated on so it's clearly a pattern with him... 🖕

cryscrys1 · Answer

I agree but it’s tricky  Cheating can happen mentally too , daydreaming about it and physical. But in our realm physical is like the last step of “achieving” it..

elizabeth000 · Answer

Honestly, girls and boys both cheat, but sometimes they are just lost, if they tried hard enough they could change.

Katebfun · Answer

No. I cheated on my first boyfriend I was 21 young and dumb. My previous ex was loyal 4 yes, yet he cheated with several others...

AviatorTom · Answer

I respectfully disagree. Sometimes there are lapses in judgment that the person regrets later.

I know most people will say there's no such thing as a one-time cheater. Could be rare, but I'm convinced that there are some.

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

It takes serious determination to resist a bad habit. I do believe they will always think about the options and acts, but they may be faithful to another one day

cosmicallyinclined · Answer

maybe not necessarily but definitely not worth finding out.

billmunch · Answer

I've cheated and have been cheated on enough that cheating is no longer reason enough for me to end a relationship.

snowgirl123 · Answer

mostly yes, but people can change if they work hard enough

EssenceOfLight · Answer

There is one exception if they cheated because their partners cheated on them beforehand. Otherwise, someone who started to cheat will start cheating again.

mrkdvsn · Answer

Once someone has cheated, there's a greater chance they will cheat again. If someone has never cheated, there's less likelihood of a cheat happening.

Nightroads · Answer

Been six months and two days of trying to find out. Ill let you in about 40 to 60 years.

shaysh87 · Answer

generally yes.  if cheating was so wrong, you wouldn't have done it in the first place. you are just sorry you got caught.

Not_Average · Answer

Depends on the age. Did she cheat in high school or 25+? I believe if you choose to cheat as a fully mature adult, then there’s a good chance you’ll do it again.

Anonymous · Answer

No but I'd dump them anyway. It takes me years till I fully trust people. If I let my walls down and they cheat? It's over for good

Anonymous · Answer

My father cheated on my mother. They were apart for a while and got back together. A phrase my father told me to remember is 'Don't give anyone a second chance'. A person wants to do worse when his mistake is forgiven.

Alexa99 · Answer

Yes my aunt gave my uncle herpies. She keep getting couldn’t he take back. Finally ended but after catching herpies.

BrosephBrostar · Answer

Well, it does show that you are capable of cheating, you've removed any mental inhibition towards it.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

The how come the sentence "he/she WAS a cheater" make sense?

Julious0202 · Answer

I don't believe it, people can change, once I cheated on my ex and I regret it until today…. after that I never cheated again

Slim57 · Answer

Not necessarily but once they cheat once they're out

xhkpw · Answer

You cannot forgive cheating. I forgave a cheater and ended up getting chlamydia and a broken heart.

EmmaMary · Answer

A Leopard Never Changes Its Spots.

ImRetarded · Answer

Cheating in monopoly? Or like cheating as in like I cheated on your wife type of cheating?

jbssr1953 · Answer

no i dont believe thats entirely men can have women friends and women can do the same doesn't have romance tied to it even though thats the general presumption

SnakeBoop · Answer

Once a cheater, never to be trusted again at least

sensible27 · Answer

Once a car crasher, always a car crasher?

ChiPaPa · Answer

Yep. Assholes, the whole lot of them.

doctorwow · Answer

People can change. I for one believe in redemption

IronsKev · Answer

Not necessarily but often

OddBeMe · Answer

Yep, it’s in their psyche.

Shihab91 · Answer

No, but still i won't take the risk

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not true. People can change and never do it again.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

I guess it just depends on the person

roy_ricky09 · Answer

Yes..

Babygirl_S · Answer

I agree.

Cutiepiee · Answer

agree

rahul5558 · Answer

Yeshhhh

dudeinohio · Answer

I agree

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