Cheaters are damaged goods. End of story. If it's a guy, he has the taste of recreational sex. If he knows he can find cheap and easy, and gets addicted to it, if hard to let go. Some guys cheat to upgrade, which again is a self-esteem issues, wanting to prove to others that they are worthy of more.
Of course men use to be the big cheaters. Women these days are way more likey to cheat keeping their eye open for the bigger and better deal. It's biologicial that women unknownlingly are nest builders. They want the most for their offspring, and combine that with modern instant gratification and validation, mixed in with social media and dating apps, and a woman will window shop her way into cheating, and will not consider the practice of upgrading cheating, because her current partner is so bad, she has no choice but to leave him for greener pastures. It's cheating, and seeing that more 70% of women initiate the divorce is telling.
So people are. willing and able to. cheat, and leave a fury of emotional and even financial destruction in their wake to get some booty and find a new lover.
Not necessarily. There are situations that people find themselves in that they should never be in in the first place. A lot has to happen in order to cheat people aren't falling into eachother by accident. Its also normal to be attracted to other people when you are in a relationship. Some people flirt normally. I do and have to catch myself from time to time. Why I haven't cheated is because I've had my fun when I was younger enough to realize its never going to be worth disappointing and embarrassing your wife and kids like that. Whats someone going to do for me that my wife doesn't do already? Nothing and my wife knows what I like. In order to cheat you have to find yourself alone with whomever you are cheating on for as long as it takes to cheat. So the way I see it people shouldn't put themselves in situations where cheating is even a possibility eliminating the logistics eliminates the possibility of allowing the hormones from making it more difficult to think clearly.
No, because I don't think all cheaters are just terrible people. My husband cheated on his wife one time. After she'd cheated on him for several years.
Does that make him a bad person?
Sometimes people cheat and it's not out of maliciousness. Shit just happens. And I believe people can be forgiven, grow, and decide not to be the same person.
That's what I strive for: to grow and be a better person than I was yesterday. I cheated on a partner that neglected me because he was addicted to video games. I don't plan on cheating on my current partner, and make proactive steps towards it.
I don't know sometimes I think I could forgive someone for cheating and other times I'm like "Nah you hurt me like that fuck off." When I think about relationships my ex husband I could forgive him if he cheated because he handled so much of my BS and took care of me well. But this other guy I was so in love with I couldn't forgive him because he hurt me over and over again all through whatever we had.
But back to what the actual question is... It is possible for a cheater to change but because you stayed with them they will most likely cheat again because no real consequences.
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Many are yes. Not everyone. Nobody is perfect and we all make bad choices in life. I’m not making excuses. It’s the way it is.
If someone turns to Jesus and is delivered from it. No they’re not cheaters anymore.
Otherwise….. yeah they probably are
u I don't know if cheaters will always be cheaters, or not. I don't give them a chance to cheat again.
I'm a "one and done," guy. If someone cheats on me, then not only are we finished, forever, but I wouldn't save them from falling into an active volcano, either.
They betrayed me, physically and emotionally, so as far as I'm concerned, they are the most worthless form of life on Earth, unworthy of compassion, redemption, or consideration.
Nothing will ever undo, or repair, that level of betrayal. Nothing.
I believe in rare cases, they may do it just once and never again.
But for the majority that’s just who they are, they aren’t reliable or trustworthy partners. I don’t believe you should ever take back a cheater, even if it was just a one time screw up. They decided that relationship meant f-all to them when they decided to screw someone else. If they are better than that, they’ll have to learn from the experience and be a better partner in the next relationship
I have yesssssss when my previous relationship was seriously on shakey ground. A previous fuck buddy back then who suddenly became single... reached out to me where I mentioned to her at the time that I was in a relationship that wasn't in a good place.
For a period of 3-4 months we were chatting quietly to one another and as soon as my relationship finally ended I was having sex with my fuck buddy again a week later.
I don't feel guilty for my actions because I was in an emotionally abusive and controlling relationship for 2 years with a woman who had unresolved mental health and drinking problems so it was a huge relief to be having sex straight away without any strings attached nor drama.
Does this make me a bad person... not at all!
Cheating is always an act of either brazen disrespect, or giving into temptation (and often both). There is no context in which it isn't indicative of horrendous character flaws.
I would not ever (knowingly) date a cheater.
Yes, they've always been someone who has the mental ability to cheat. A good number of people never cheat, because they are mentally unable to betray the trust of someone. So that person may not cheat again, but they can because they illustrated that mentally they can accept themselves doing it.
Anyone can change their ways and learn from mistakes. If they don't it means they are unwilling to.
No... not at all. Sometimes all that a person needs is a vent from a throat slitting relationship.
Everyone deserves a second chance in his / her life to be treated with respect and dignity.
I personally believe that's what happens almost all the time. Exceptional stories exist but I don't believe they are the norm.
Some people can change. Some people can't... or won't.
I've seen both. Depends on why and depends on how they react when confronted with it.
I'm a big believer in hope but with genuine remorse and accountability.
I think a select few could come to their senses and eventually stop. But they would not have had a second chance with me.
Is happen more than once don't even give thrid chance. I'm strict with datibm dating qn and relationship. Cheating is a choice not a mistake.
No, people change and learn from their mistakes.
I don't know, but I do know if I were to find out a girl cheated on me I would not even consider giving her another chance.
Doesn't matter... One strike and you're out, so...
Never trust anything what a cheater says. They lied to you throughout the whole relationship, why believe anything they say after they got caught?
No because I used to be a big time cheater and i ain't that person no more.
I do only because humans are creatures of habit… sooooo if they cheated once more than likely they will cheat again and again and again
For the most part yes but a select few can change if they really want to
Yes, the first time a person cheats the easier it is the next time
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