So we have been together for 3 year's and 3 days before we got engaged he cheated on me with some tramp I took off the street to offer help. ( Stupid bitch yes fuck over the person who tries to help you ) when I found out I didn't scream or yell just asked questions like why's wen how long that kind of thing we I decided not to break up with him but also didn't call off the engagement Because I didn't want anyone to find out about what happened I also told him if he can't keep his dick in his pants to Walk out my door and never return if I found he cheated again I wouldn't be as understanding and promised to rearrange Bones of both parties. but is it wrong I didn't want people to know?
Is it wrong that when my fiancee cheated on me one of biggest concerns is that someone else would find out he cheated on me?
"Fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me".
I have a lot of cousin sisters who hid their boyfriends' cheating. They end up marrying their boyfriends. Their now husbands cheat on them, everyone finds out and realise that this cheating goes way back.
Point is, what makes you think that your marriage vows will have weight on his future conduct. Those words are just sweet nothings to make the audience cry. And besides, actions speak louder than words - your relationship is a snippet of what you want your marriage to be like. If he, without a shadow of a doubt, truly loved you, cheating would be non-existent in his "vocabulary".
I'll conclude with what my pastor always says to remind the young ladies: (looking at all aspects of a person) "If he is not husband material, he's not husband material. End of story!"
No ifs or buts.
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Not sure what that top bit is about but ohwelll I guess because she thought it would save her own ass from her abusive husband. But in all honesty he's still the only one who's ever been there for me and who never left me alone even when I'm at my worst I can't say that for anyone else even my own family sees me as just a tool to get what they want
Meh I have had harder times I have been sexually assaulted mentally abused physically abused and mentally abused along with being manipulated to the point I can't tell if someone is telling me the truth or not I also had to take care of my younger cousins even though I was only two years older and did my best to try and take the blunt of the abusive nature of our family so they didn't have to. Both of my parents are alcoholics and drug addicts my dad gave it up when I was 13 but mom didn't. So what else can I do except try to keep moving forward even if everyone trys braking me
It's also why I tend to forgive and forget because if I held on to the hate pain and resentment/guilt I felt I wouldn't have a life I'd only be hate and life is to short to go down that road
It's true that it's always best to forgive and move on, but we have to complement that forgiveness by drawing a clear to avoid similar fates in the future. I trust that you will draw a perfectly clear line to persist from.
I'm trying to get away from it I am but it's not easy when it's litterly your entire family that's toxic I mean I still have to see the cousin that tried to rape me every Thanksgiving. I will never trust any of them again but I also don't wish them harm I'm working on moving to Missouri so maybe I can finally have a life and be free
I believe that you can make that change of scenery. There are so many things to do and so many places to go if we just take that leap of faith and let go of the unseen factors that are holding us back.
Maybe one day but still not for quite some time. You know the funny thing is I never wanted anything exciting about my life all I wanted was a homestead I wanted to go out side take care of farm animals harvest fruit's and vegetables I never wanted to be rich or to have power I don't even like alcohol and I don't see the point of drugs or parties I just wanted a simple life ware I spent my day's making yogurt and cooking for the people I care about. i mean at one point I thought about being a animal educator but that was about it
I have been working tord that dream since I was little even have a book ware I made a list of animal breed's equipment and plants along with how much they cost on average for instance I wanted Nubian goats do to there higher milk fat ratio ps I currently have Nubians and after I have land and a good garden Im getting Honey bees
I know I painted my fiance in a bad light but he's really not a bad guy he's always been there even stopped me from committing suicide when I was 14 he's defended me even when I didn't feel worth defending. He spends very little time away from me even if he's invited places he won't typically go unless I agree to go with. He did a bad thing but it doesn't change the good he's put in my life either
No its not wrong but fuck this guy. UnLoyal POS. I wouldn't trust that he won't again if he's doing that the same time he is debating about spending his life w you.
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There was new rules put in place to try and keep the relationship under control. And I gave myself the same rules even though I didn't do anything. Like not aloud to hang out with the opposite gender without a 3 person present. Wendy's is always date night and Thursday is when we talk about any concerns or unhappiness with the relationship and solutions to fix the problem he's really the only person I have in this world who hasn't been total shit to me and I actually do love so I'm just not ready to give up yet guess I'm just a gluten for punishment and I'm not justifying what he did was wrong and he's a pice of shit for doing it but I understand some of our issues is my fault because I currently live with my mentally abusive mom and instead of just telling her to bite me I just sit there and take it to keep her anger undercountrol and would ditch him as soon as mom called me no matter what we were doing I can see how that would make you feel neglected
You risk him cheating again. You let him off easy. I'd have dumped him. So what if people found out.
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Unfortunately I can't stand people giving me pitty or sympathy. That look people give you when someone cheats on you I just can't handle that it about broke my soul dealing with the way people look at me when they learn I have polycystic ovarian syndrome like it fucking hurt's when everyone looks at you like a defect
Sounds like he ent great but he’s the best you know. Sounds like people like to betray you. Maybe you are too forgiving and they can sense that. Maybe it’s time to end the sexual part of this relationship and just be friends or something
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I must have been weak sense birth because it's my own family that's dragged me through the mud in all honesty if he cheated again I'd be done but not just with him with all people
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