If you are pro choice, would it be a deal breaker if it turns out your crush is pro life and very serious about it?

[Anonymous]

[Pyrofox]

I'm pro choice despite being adopted. Nothing hits a adopted person harder than finding out they never can meet their bio parent especially mom. I would love to know my bio mom went on living. Instead of finding out she passed away without saying at least goodbye.

I'm greatful I was adopted. But it's weird to live with zero clue about my blood heritage. And I'm very timid about a dna kit.

As to the whole other half being pro life. I'd make it clear then condoms are gonna become a must. As I have no interest in having a kid unless we can be proper parents. I'm not letting my wife or me end up like what my biological parents did. I'm not going to let my kid become a bastard and go down the dark path I went down. If I have a kid I want them to live the life I should have been able to live and enjoy.

[Ascarymanasks]

Yeah I was adopted too my thing is that do what you wanna do I won’t stop you, but condoms are a must and i don’t necessarily agree with a abortion I’m not gonna stop you and will support you (not your actions but you) if your dead ass on it, p. s. haven’t found any of my birth parents yet

[dankstranger]

I'm pro choice. I went on a first date where this specific question came up. She asked "how do you feel about abortion?"

My response was...

"I believe that's for a woman to decide and it should be available as an option. I do want a family of my own, but seeing as I can't get pregnant I feel those decisions are better left to the woman who will be getting pregnant."

Apparently my response wasn't what she wanted because later she asked "you voted for Biden didn't you?"

To which I responded. "I don't let politicians pick my romantic partners"

She never called me back. It's a bummer but oh well. It's like I said I don't let politics choose my friends.

[Medicalbug]

No, I think this indicates a major contrast in personality types. Choosing the outcome of an unwanted pregnancy is a major milestone in a relationship and any dissonance here is definitely a deal breaker. In general I would suspect a person with a “pro-life” mentality would posses other qualities that are not aligned with a someone who is pro choice. I don’t think it is a coincidence that all guys I’ve been with on a serious level are pro choice as well, even though we were lucky it just remained theoretical.

[Medicalbug]

I mean yes lololol. It is a deal breaker.

[Anonymous]

I am prolife, but a libertarian… I don’t want the government to tell people what to do, especially with their bodies. However, I do not date people who don’t have similar views, especially on abortion and religion. I believe that life starts at conception and I would never kill my own child that me and my partner have created. I don’t want someone who doesn’t care if I kill my own child or not, so no, I would not dare a pro choicer.

[marish01]

Not to mention than when pregnany he would think I carry our parasite or buch of cells in my womb. Such thinking violates my family values.

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t know what you’re trying to say 😬

[cutiepatootie26]

She's saying she thinks a pro-choicer has to defend abortion by saying a baby is a clump of cells. So she thinks when she gets pregnant he'll think the same about their baby. She wants someone who believes that human life starts at conception.

[Opinion Owner]

@cutiepatootie26 Oh, whoops. I misread it then😂 Thank youuu

[cutiepatootie26]

Lol np <3

[PenkWing]

Her personal views on abortion are just hers. She decides what to do with herself. That’s fine. What is a dealbreaker is if she wants to deny the right to abortion to other women. The world view that you can deny other people’s rights over their body is not compatible with me.

[ohshee]

I am pro life. That's my choice just like it is a woman's choice what she believes in. and if a women is pro choice. And people started giving her shit for it I would stand in front of her and lead the way and fight for her it's her body her choice. When we were born. we were all given a gift. The gift of choice . Choice is more powerful than the word love. Just because for me I choose pro life doesn't mean I can tell someone else how to live there life and what they can and can not do with it

[marish01]

I am pro life too. But I don't support others' abortion decisions.

[Cherry234]

@ohshee Thank you. I wish there were more people like you.

[ohshee]

I support their choice the freedom of choice they have that right to choose whatever they want that's what I support I don't support them and doing what they're doing but I do support their choice they have that right I support that right do what you want to do with your body at any given moment. It is their choice in their choice only nobody else has and when somebody tries to take that choice away from them that's where I say bulshit you can't tell somebody what to do I am probably more pro-choice than you are but I see the other side that doesn't mean that I believe in the other side it just means that I believe and it right free human being choose what they want to do. And what I'm saying is that I will back that play weather it's wrong or whether it's right that is my choice to say you cannot tell this person what to do it's nobody else's business would I like to see them change their mind and go different directions sure I would step forward and say I would have dropped the baby sure I would if I could afford it if I knew that I was going to be on this planet long enough to make sure that that child grew up healthy wealthy and wise there's all different types of solutions but I don't see anybody trying to solve this the only thing I see is people telling other people what they can do and what they cannot do and that's when I say bulshit if you knew of any better solution I'm sure there's a million people out there that would love to hear because you know that decision is going to haunt them for the rest of their life until it becomes a better way this is the way it's going to be I'm sorry to say

And to cherry thank you very much I'm just doing what I believe in it doesn't mean that I'm right

[marish01]

I don't support the choice of murdering.

[lovedejj_xo]

Probably since I wouldn’t agree with them and I’d feel a way. I’ve had an abortion before…women have all different reasons of why they may have one and it’s not always about being “irresponsible” I was on a specific medication and my doctor failed to look into the interaction with my birth control and the side effect is my bc being less effective …. which is literally the point of going to a doctor. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[Cherry234]

Wow. That's pretty negligent on the part of your doctor.

[lovedejj_xo]

I don’t go to her anymore I was so disappointed especially with her weak apology. Negligence caused the hardest decision in my life.

[Cherry234]

That's good. This shows not all doctors can be trusted.

[HawkPerception]

Most of your personal views should be shared during the dating process before you get into an actual relationship. Dating means to filter people by finding out who has chemistry/similarities with you. The more similarities you share in terms of your interests, views, sense of humor, overall communication, etc, the more you'll click with the person.

[ChiTown33]

Absolutely not. Because as a Christian I feel I should be unapologetically pro-life ( not that I'm pro choice either. I don't really take a hard stance on abortion.) But while I do find abortion as unacceptable and still consider it murder. It breaks my heart to think of child being brought into this world unwanted an unloved.

[rod23]

Opinions , especially political, should never be a deal breaker, that has nothing to do with your feelings for someone, that's a big problem with this world right now, someone would dislike someone for there political party, put views aside and love each other good luck

[Heartache0405]

Another reason why I don’t do relationships or crushes. Would rather not find out they’re baby killers

[Paige90]

I will only date guys that a pro-life. If you are pro-choice I don't want to have anything to do with you!

[LegitJoker]

Oh my fucking goodness thank you girl thank you so much I’m pro life too.

[Agape93]

Nope. I don't care what their beliefs on the matter are. If they have an issue with my choices, they can fuck off. If they try to control me, they're getting hit and thrown out of my life.

[Cherry234]

@Agape93 Yes, exactly.

[AviatorTom]

It would be a deal breaker if she didn't respect my right to have an opinion different from hers. If she respects that, then no problem because I respect her right to have her opinion.

[MCheetah]

I am pro-choice and no, it's not a dealbreaker for me. I'd just be having sex with her WAY less often! Cause I don't want kids! (I always use protection, but protection isn't 100%.)

[Diodoro]

Politics largely doesn't matter for me in dating. I lost count of the feminists I've dated lol. I'm right wing but I'm not uptight or a social conservative

[Cherry234]

It probably would be. I couldn't date someone who's very anti-abortion.

[Cherry234]

I mean it's fine if he's pro-life. But if he pushes his views on me or other people and talks shit about people who are pro-choice then I'm not going to tolerate that. I refuse to put up with someone like that.

[normalice]

If it's just for herself that's fine but I can't tolerate someone who tries to bully others because of some vague spite.

[Cherry234]

@normalice I know. I can't stand it either. I hate it when other people call women names like "murderer" or "baby killer" just because they want to get abortions or aren't against abortions.

[normalice]

Yeah, it is weird how the sort of public anger that used to be embarrassing has become mainstream.

[Cherry234]

@normalice Right.

[bamesjond0069]

Im pro life and i would not date someone pro choice. Would you date someone who thinks its ok to kill 1 year olds? Yeah i hope not.

[valentina4eva]

yes it would def be a dealbreaker if he tried to tell me what i can or can’t do with my body!!😤

[Naydyonov]

I would not date a pro-choice girl. I think a pro-choice girl should not date a pro-life guy, as if ever she has an abortion, it will greatly affect him and his view of her.

[KostasKouvalis]

Probably not. This is one the few things where I understand both sides of the argument. And honestly, I'm not that passionate about the issue to see where someone stands on it

[Hyped_up_on_coffee]

Oh absolutely. I would not let a man near my body if he didn’t respect my rights

[slatyb]

Yes it would. I find anti-choice people to be illogical and authoritarian.