If you are pro choice, would it be a deal breaker if it turns out your crush is pro life and very serious about it?

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Pyrofox · Accepted Answer

I'm pro choice despite being adopted. Nothing hits a adopted person harder than finding out they never can meet their bio parent especially mom. I would love to know my bio mom went on living. Instead of finding out she passed away without saying at least goodbye.

I'm greatful I was adopted. But it's weird to live with zero clue about my blood heritage. And I'm very timid about a dna kit.

As to the whole other half being pro life. I'd make it clear then condoms are gonna become a must. As I have no interest in having a kid unless we can be proper parents. I'm not letting my wife or me end up like what my biological parents did. I'm not going to let my kid become a bastard and go down the dark path I went down. If I have a kid I want them to live the life I should have been able to live and enjoy.

dankstranger · Accepted Answer

I'm pro choice. I went on a first date where this specific question came up. She asked "how do you feel about abortion?"

My response was...

"I believe that's for a woman to decide and it should be available as an option. I do want a family of my own, but seeing as I can't get pregnant I feel those decisions are better left to the woman who will be getting pregnant."

Apparently my response wasn't what she wanted because later she asked "you voted for Biden didn't you?"

To which I responded. "I don't let politicians pick my romantic partners"

She never called me back. It's a bummer but oh well. It's like I said I don't let politics choose my friends.

Medicalbug · Accepted Answer

No, I think this indicates a major contrast in personality types. Choosing the outcome of an unwanted pregnancy is a major milestone in a relationship and any dissonance here is definitely a deal breaker. In general I would suspect a person with a “pro-life” mentality would posses other qualities that are not aligned with a someone who is pro choice. I don’t think it is a coincidence that all guys I’ve been with on a serious level are pro choice as well, even though we were lucky it just remained theoretical.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I am prolife, but a libertarian… I don’t want the government to tell people what to do, especially with their bodies. However, I do not date people who don’t have similar views, especially on abortion and religion. I believe that life starts at conception and I would never kill my own child that me and my partner have created. I don’t want someone who doesn’t care if I kill my own child or not, so no, I would not dare a pro choicer.

PenkWing · Answer

Her personal views on abortion are just hers. She decides what to do with herself. That’s fine. What is a dealbreaker is if she wants to deny the right to abortion to other women. The world view that you can deny other people’s rights over their body is not compatible with me.

ohshee · Answer

I am pro life. That's my choice just like it is a woman's choice what she believes in. and if a women is pro choice. And people started giving her shit for it I would stand in front of her and lead the way and fight for her it's her body her choice. When we were born. we were all given a gift. The gift of choice . Choice is more powerful than the word love. Just because for me I choose pro life doesn't mean I can tell someone else how to live there life and what they can and can not do with it

HawkPerception · Answer

Most of your personal views should be shared during the dating process before you get into an actual relationship. Dating means to filter people by finding out who has chemistry/similarities with you. The more similarities you share in terms of your interests, views, sense of humor, overall communication, etc, the more you'll click with the person.

lovedejj_xo · Answer

Probably since I wouldn’t agree with them and I’d feel a way. I’ve had an abortion before…women have all different reasons of why they may have one and it’s not always about being “irresponsible” I was on a specific medication and my doctor failed to look into the interaction with my birth control and the side effect is my bc being less effective …. which is literally the point of going to a doctor. 🤷🏽‍♀️

ChiTown33 · Answer

Absolutely not. Because as a Christian I feel I should be unapologetically pro-life ( not that I'm pro choice either. I don't really take a hard stance on abortion.) But while I do find abortion as unacceptable and still consider it murder. It breaks my heart to think of child being brought into this world unwanted an unloved.

rod23 · Answer

Opinions , especially political, should never be a deal breaker, that has nothing to do with your feelings for someone, that's a big problem with this world right now, someone would dislike someone for there political party, put views aside and love each other good luck

Heartache0405 · Answer

Another reason why I don’t do relationships or crushes. Would rather not find out they’re baby killers

Paige90 · Answer

I will only date guys that a pro-life. If you are pro-choice I don't want to have anything to do with you!

Cherry234 · Answer

It probably would be. I couldn't date someone who's very anti-abortion.

Agape93 · Answer

Nope. I don't care what their beliefs on the matter are. If they have an issue with my choices, they can fuck off. If they try to control me, they're getting hit and thrown out of my life.

AviatorTom · Answer

It would be a deal breaker if she didn't respect my right to have an opinion different from hers. If she respects that, then no problem because I respect her right to have her opinion.

MCheetah · Answer

I am pro-choice and no, it's not a dealbreaker for me. I'd just be having sex with her WAY less often! Cause I don't want kids! (I always use protection, but protection isn't 100%.)

Diodoro · Answer

Politics largely doesn't matter for me in dating. I lost count of the feminists I've dated lol. I'm right wing but I'm not uptight or a social conservative

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Probably not. This is one the few things where I understand both sides of the argument. And honestly, I'm not that passionate about the issue to see where someone stands on it

normalice · Answer

If it's just for herself that's fine but I can't tolerate someone who tries to bully others because of some vague spite.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Im pro life and i would not date someone pro choice. Would you date someone who thinks its ok to kill 1 year olds? Yeah i hope not.

valentina4eva · Answer

yes it would def be a dealbreaker if he tried to tell me what i can or can’t do with my body!!😤

Naydyonov · Answer

I would not date a pro-choice girl. I think a pro-choice girl should not date a pro-life guy, as if ever she has an abortion, it will greatly affect him and his view of her.

supercutebutt · Answer

Everybody is "pro-life." Some of us just aren't HUGE government people who want some fat dude telling us what to do with our wombs. What a world.

boggboss · Answer

As with anything if its somthing that neither can bend on it would end up a deal breaker if the subject was relevant to the relationship

Hyped_up_on_coffee · Answer

Oh absolutely. I would not let a man near my body if he didn’t respect my rights

slatyb · Answer

Yes it would. I find anti-choice people to be illogical and authoritarian.

hhadeshatesme · Answer

Yup. Cause they usually have different beliefs in other aspects of life too

Anonymous · Answer

I would respect their decision, but it may be a red flag about other beliefs that may lead to rifts in the relationship going forward. We would need to have a serious discussion, especially if they respect my beliefs.

jaybee281 · Answer

I don't care so much that I'll just disagree with whatever her opinion on the matter is

Anonymous · Answer

No. I can easily assure him otherwise. Especially as I'm actually a believer. So he will understand the points, and realise I am ethical indeed, just that he doesn't understand the whole problematics.

MJtheCoach · Answer

I’m pro self responsibilities   Which is something pro-choice people don’t know what that means.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

I would be making sure that there is no accidental pregnancy anyways. Because even if i am a pro choice i'm still not risking abortion. It costs and its life risky.

Joshua0213 · Answer

I'm pro Iife and probably not tbh cause isn't morally a good thing in my opinion to kill your own child so

Anonymous · Answer

Yeah, unless maybe if he does not want children himself and is snipped, then it would at least not become an issue between us.

Anonymous · Answer

It's down to them really I'm pro-choice by the virtue of just not giving a single fuck 'Doth my field of fucks for it is barren' -Bill Shakespeare, probably

nawtee_me · Answer

yep if she is pro choice she can be with someone else... not me...

420happy69holiday · Answer

Well I would know this information about someone before they became my crush. And all that means is we can't ever have a serious relationship But we can do a whole lot of fucking

Anonymous · Answer

Provided you don't want to abort, it's not a problem. And you can swear blind that for him, you would have always kept his baby anyway.

boobliker · Answer

not at all I easy about most things,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,,.

SmokinAces2000 · Answer

Yeah because I don’t want to be called a murderer all the time

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Leave it up to the women. They have to carry the fetus and judgement one way or the other.

PeterSmith1983 · Answer

Yes 100% deal breaker how can you be with a women that does not respect womens rights!

Birdylove · Answer

I don't think pro lifers would ever get with pro choicers anyway.

Faerum · Answer

Im prolife and pro choice is a deal breaker.

Ninani · Answer

I'm still on the pill either way.

Anonymous · Answer

I don’t care. Just wrap it up or don’t have Sex so it doesn’t come to that.

Tyrael · Answer

It would be if pregnancy came up, so yes.

Wester1967 · Answer

I can't help masochistic women.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, that would be a major turn-off.

Twalli · Answer

Well, we're not going to reproduce any way.

OddBeMe · Answer

Only if you get her preggers.

TsAubreyKate · Answer

Wouldn’t that just be a sexless relationship

doopayo · Answer

Yes ✔️

jahaims · Answer

Nope

007kingifrit · Answer

no not at all

BlueLust · Answer

I’m pro life too.

jimmy2 · Answer

You go girl

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