Aside from lust, is there any OTHER FEELING for the spouse that makes them more than a friend?

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Is it only lust or is there another feeling among lust that you can't feel for a friend but only for your boyfriend/girlfriend, husband/wife?

I hope this question explains it well in case my originial question was still understandable.
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HighValue · Accepted Answer

Thinking that they would be there for you when things aren't going well in life. For example, if your car broke down and you needed a ride to and from work for a week or two, or if you get sick they would take care of you each day for a week. Them being someone that has enough morals in common that you can see yourself still wanting to be with them 20 or 30 years down the road. Them thinking of you two as a team matters too. Like if something happens they don't just think "well, it sucks to be you" and they go home, instead an SO would think "this sucks for us, how can WE make it better."
Them having an acceptable past matters too. For an SO I wouldn't want her to already have a kid from someone else because I want to raise my own kids with her, if it was just a friend it wouldn't affect me if they had kids from multiple different people.
Also, if a friend makes bad decisions like wasting too much of their money on an expensive vehicle so they can't afford to go do stuff hardly ever and can barely pay their bills, that doesn't affect me, but if an SO made bad decisions and wasted most of her money and couldn't afford to keep her vehicle to get to work or pay for her clothing, utilities, etc. that would matter.

Still need some physical attraction too though or it wouldn't work. For me the physical attraction has to be a minimum of a 5 on a 1 to 10 scale and her personality has to be at least an 8. The lowest compatibility for personality would be a 7, and that is if she was a 9 or 10 to me, but even then some things have to be a match personality wise or it wouldn't work at all regardless.

Understand? I hope that helps.

Juxtapose · Accepted Answer

I have gotten a lot of heat from this from people who talk about asexuals but without sexuality there is nothing beyond friendship.

"But romance.." romance literally would not exist if we did not procreate with each other.

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

My husband and I feel very comfortable with eachother. We know all there is to know and have seen all there is to see with one another. That is something I love about our marriage. I could never have this level of comfort without the years and intimacy we have spent married to eachother.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

I feel submissive around guys I like and even though I submit to lots of people like the boss or the doctor or the class instructor or public employees, such as airline attendants or traffic flow operators, it’s a different type of submission when it’s a guy I’m with.

KrisPW · Answer

Improvement. I have a feeling of wanting to be "better" for my partner that I don't have with friends. I certainly want to be a good friend, and fit in, but I don't feel as driven to improve myself as I do with a partner.

Hanrej · Answer

I would say respect but as I can respect other people as well... Reverance maybe? A mix of attraction respect and a willingness to be useful to a person.

Anonymous · Answer

What is the one thing you're not allowed to do with anyone else when you're in a relationship? That thing is what defines the relationship itself.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

Attachment, you can't imagine life without them.

malwins · Answer

i dunno its everything they are

Abdulwahh · Answer

Strong sexual feelings and emotional feelings

crmoore · Answer

Romantic love

krin_m · Answer

Mutual trust!

EaterPeter · Answer

There has to be.

TsAubreyKate · Answer

Nope

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