This new guy I'm seeing constantly thinks I'm cheating? Should I break up with him? (Page 2)
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I say yes, break up. You can't "make" anyone trust you, that's built over time, however this is a "red flag" to me. And add the long distance to this, which is another red flag on it's own, but add that to the insecurity, makes it even bigger, this relationship will be a constant "fight" to maintain in my opinion. And it's already creating bad feelings, not just for him, but you also. If you need help breaking it off, just say something like "I've been doing a lot of thinking, and unfortunately I don't think this relationship is going to work long term. I'm very sorry and I wish you the best and hope you find someone that makes you happy." THAT'S IT. No need to "explain" it further or give him specific reasons. This says you've already made up your mind completely, and it's over. If he really presses you for a reason, or has trouble accepting that, just say you don't think you're a match, and/or blame it on the distance.
He's insecure and as such if you keep this up you'll soon have him 24/7 breathing on your neck, demanding explanations all the time. Right now you may think you're willing to put up with that, but it's incredible tiring in the long run.
So yes, for your peace of mind, you should break up. People with severe insecurity issues should get therapy to solve their problems before getting themselves into the dating market
We all know that a lot of the girls night outs tend to be not so innocent.
And he has been cheated on by multiple women.
And it's a long distance relationship, and pretty new.
If you look good then he also knows most guys would want you, especially in a nice dress (night out). And you know it too, might go for better.
You probably get somewhat drunk.
Lots of valid reasons for this guy to be uneasy about it.
Is he to blame? He could do some healing with picking a woman who is not that type, more calm/feminine type, not outgoing etc etc.
You aren't to blame either, you want to hang with your friends, enjoy being alive etc.
Those B's who cheated on him are to blame here.
However i don't think the 2 of you should be together in those current terms. Nothing good will come from it like that.
Break up… he shouldn’t be expecting you to cheat just because his past relationships ended up that way. That’s not fair on you and it barely gives you a chance to have a real relationship with him. Dump him and let him shove his emotional baggage onto some other poor soul.
Weil his history doesn't really matter for the principle of a healthy relationship. You can't control a partner like this, cause they're free people and the beauty of loyalty is that it comes voluntarily, not through force.
It's difficult for him, i get it. Yet he will have to trust even if he knows the worst possible outcome already.
You don't have to be loyal if you're not married, or at least engaged. And more over to a "non-existent" lover. He's not even there.
You (and him) are suffering unnecessarily.
How do you know he is not cheating? Maybe he has these kinds of thoughts because he is doing it or is struggling to be loyal.
Please please, run for the hills... the faster the better. Trust is among the most Important staples of a relationship, and if he's actually checking your texts this early on (you said recently started dating but I'm wondering how long it's been) then there's a 100% chance it will escalate and get worse as time goes on. I've dated girls for years and neither of us ever read another's texts... not once. You say you love him, but you just started recently dating him... that usually means he's good in the sac... whatever you do, just realize that there are literally 8 billion people on the planet, well say 4 billion of those are male, and one billion in your age range... when you find the one, you'll know, and it will be natural and uneventful, free from worry or jealousy, and it won't be long distance. Jealous/accusatory at every single outing apart... this is a no brainer.
Also, don't try to get him to trust you... YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE TO considering you've given him no reason to not trust you. Best of luck
No, you don't have to break up with him, but you need to lay down the law. Two, it's time for you both to save up and see each other or break up.
Or there is one percent he is cheating and doesn't want you to find out. But that's one percent. You two need to see each other once a month or something.
Honestly, yes. I understand that there's a very high chance that he has been screwed over by past girlfriends, but between his current behavior and just the fact you're dealing with long distance, unable to regularly see each other in-person, this relationship is pretty much doomed to fail, anyway.
Sounds like this guy comes with a lot of emotional bagage concerning trust and respect issues. You might want to call him on his insecurities issues and be ready to give him the 👢 if he is noncompliant with your wishes too not have your social life micromanaged by him.
Long distance never works out. Someone is always cheating. And sense you can’t see each other in person you can’t form any trust between each other. You jumped into something too quick without getting to know if they’re even trustworthy or not. Let alone faithful and loyal to you when they can’t even go out on dates with you. I’ve had a few long distance relationships and the ones I didn’t get to meet didn’t last long at all. The ones I did meet cheated on me.
That isn't true lmao just bc that's your experience doesn't mean it's everyone's
Well, it’s just my opinion that majority of long distance relationships end because of lack of trust, loyalty, and faithfulness 🤷🏻♂️ I’m pretty sure I’m not the only one who believes that to be true
Now we both had slept with others while being in a relationship with each other. He before breakup, me after every break up ( i always broke up.. that too 3-4 times by now), he makes me meet his mom and this guy - i don't know never calls me or picks up my calls. So god knows what is actually happening lol. It's been 2 years now. His mom dad live 1 km away from my home while he is in NZ trying for PR visa coz he studied masters there so he wanna settle there. I keep asking him if he loves me and he keeps saying that he does..
Kiddo, that is a big red flag, that he's a gaslighting, manipulative bastard.
Ditch his sorry ass.
Yes, because I imagine it's making you feel like you are walking one egg shells and that's not a good relationship. If he's that nutty when in LDR, imagine how nosy he might be if you were living with him.
I have a problem when people can't just trust their partner outright like any other person, and respect their privacy as well. It creates unnecessary tension and for you.
Leave him. You deserve better.
Life is too short to be in a relationship which gives you a constant headache. Our time in this planet is short. Be with someone who makes it worthwhile.
he's more than likely the one who doing the cheating
i had an ex that did the same thing.
come to find out she was a homie hoe and was giving her stank hole to all of her male "friends"
beware
hopefully im wrong but i doubt it
I was in a long distance relationship before. Paranoia becomes a huge part of it after a while because trust slowly withers away. It is only going to get worse and he won't become any better after you reunite physically. Breaking up is the only solution here.
It is really up to you like me and my girl met online and we stayed distant until today and through the moment she did not really play me for money or anything she asked and gotten $1000 from me ever sense then she been giving like she gave me a cashiers check of $2570 last week so in my opinion how real the love tells whether 2 significant others should split up or not
Wow, all his problems are lingering, and ruining with your digital relationship. Tell him straight forward, he needs to trust you. And You are there for him. But if he continues, you will not tolerate it for longer. Tell him it hurts You and the relationship.
If he thinks you cheated why is he still with you?
That is pathetic.
What is going out with a friend?
Out to eat, to a movie, out to a park, shopping, out for coffee... or out to bars and clubs?
He doesn't trust you. I would probably break up I cannot be in a relationship where I'm constantly being accused of stuff I didn't do.