Single and lonely at 37, can I still find love and have a normal life?

[Anonymous]

I always thought someone would love me and I'd be happy

but it never happened.

does anyone still see a 37 year old woman as a possible love interest to form a family with? to take seriously?

I feel so lonely and sad. I wanted to be happy
is 37 too late? are men not interested in a serious relationship with someone like me?

I am still a virgin and this I do not regret
I'm not waiting for marriage at all, I'm just waiting for when I feel loved. I want to have sex and make love with only 1 person for all my life. :/

I was with someone, yet for some reason it just didn't ever happened, and apparently he didn't love me and treated me really bad after, so I'm happy that it didn't happen

[Anonymous]

46 to 58... Plenty of offers for casual and NSA, but I'm not about that. I wanted love. I wanted a real date... I thought I'd never find it.

Then there she was, on the other side of the counter, running a cash register. Blue hair (not my speed at all) cute, smart, funny, assistant manager.

We talked for weeks about nothing and one day she gives me her phone and says text me. I panic, wait about 2 weeks (we totally missed each other in between due to schedule differences) to not appear desperate, (which I wasn't, just excited that finally, maybe...) went back to the store one day and there she was.

At some point in the ending conversation, picking up like we'd never stopped talking, she hints, "I gave you my number." I said I know, but left the comment go uncommented on. The visit ended.

I texted her about an hour later, (feeling more comfortable) and asked her to dinner and as they say, is history. We went out and it's been 5 months.

Neither has said I love you yet, (waiting on the other I suppose), as we're both pretty banged up from past relationships. Not fearful of the word, but more trying to ensure our feelings are in the right place before speaking. We really like each other A LOT and have said as much, and both have said, in circumstances where outrageous behavior rears is head, shocking the other that friendly, not so serious, "yeah, I love you too"

It's not over for you. I thought I was destined to singledom as well, but here I am. I'm not sure how to address your ticklishness issue, except to say that you HAVE to get over that.

My girl is also ticklish, but I stay away from those areas... especially during sex. Other times, when we're being goofy, I'll poke a ticklish area to evoke a response, but it's all in fun. She hates it, but laughs nonetheless, because I just have a way with her.

Chin up. He's out there. Life isn't over at 37 sweetie.

[Asker]

What happened To you is so sweet!!! 🥰 aww!! I can’t even imagine anything similar happening to me at all.. I feel so happy for you both however feels warmth and loving reading it :)))))) thank you for this!

[UdontNeedtoknow]

Interesting... Yes and no. At your age i am sure that many men have offered there love and interest to you. All a woman like you has to do is realize that there expectations are way to high. Stop being dilutional and settle for a guy who treats you good and makes you happy. The longer you wait, the less likely you will find him. Most men around my age who wanted a family has already had one. Then were dragged to divorce court by the ex looking for easy money. Many of these men now have scars from greedy women and find it impossible to love again. With a 70% divorce rate in some parts of the USA... Thats a vast majority of good middle aged who will never marry again due to what feminism has brought. I really do wish you luck since love is a beautiful thing. But it gets less and less likely the older we get.

[crimsonandclover2]

Sure you can find love at any age
Besides, you don’t need a man to have kids
You can go to a sperm bank, or adopt on your own 👍

[melanieeeB]

Yeah you sure can still find love but happiness comes within and you should never depend your happiness on others

[MTC29]

Finding a guy isn't as tough as you imagine. Finding a man who wants to start a family in middle age is going to be difficult. A large number of men in their late 30's and early 40's are divorced and are currently paying child support. Starting a new family and paying another brat from birth, isn't going to be something many guys your age will want to do.

[Asker]

brat? how sad to refer to any child as such.

[MTC29]

Fine. It is obvious now why guys are passing you over. Statistically speaking the number of women your age who have never been married and who eventually do marry and start families is extremely small. Rather than you planning for a future wedding, you should plan to buy a cat. Did you like my second response better? Block me now, before I give you a third.

[Asker]

all this because you called a child a brat? I'd rather stay single and lonely without a cat than with a person like you for sure.

[Miristheiss]

Family... as in kids?
37 years old?
There is still time but that ship may have sailed.
Marriage and kids.
Ages 18-25 are the prime years to settle down with a guy and to start having kids. At least have the guy lined up and ages 26-33 can still be prime years to get pregnant.
37... no guy to even have kids with still.
Never say never but your window for that is closing fast.

[Asker]

so my best bet is to try to convince the guy that left me to have a kid with me? I don't have time to see if anyone would fall in love with me.
life became so suddenly sad

[D_Bone_Steak]

Maybe... but there is that harsh reality of "women and the wall." Inviting attention is going to be harder for you. ... and I'm guessing if you made it this far without even losing your virginity... the prognosis is looking bleak. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, so don't hate me for just being honest, please.

[Asker]

I don't hate you, I prefer honest answers 100% rather than a nice comment that is not true. Yet I failed to read anything bad in your comment or we speak differently.

[D_Bone_Steak]

You know what "the wall" is right? The concept that Sexual Market Value (SMV) goes down significantly around 30... but only for women. That concept usually makes women pretty mad. It's that age where if they're still single they may be able to find plenty of men for sex still, but the men are usually not interested in a relationship at that point. That is an honest answer, but damn it makes a lot of women mad to hear it.

[Asker]

it doesn't make me mad. I was happy up until I realized I'm alone now.
it' definitely makes me sad not mad. I think I would rather be mad than sad.
sad is something I don't want to feel anymore. for sure.

[D_Bone_Steak]

You can still score... but you will have to shop within your price range. As a woman though... I'm not saying this is you... but women, in general, have a tendency to overvalue their worth SMV-wise. I'm sure a short dude that has a hard time being social, etc would be down. But a Chad isn't going to settle if he has other options.

[Asker]

well I don't want to devalue myself completely or seem desperate to want just anyone that will want me , but I just feel I want someone to love me. I want to feel love and love back. I don't know how to find it I don't know if I have time for that. maybe I do know. I don't. I don't have time for that. I don't have time for what I wanted. I just wanted love. pure and honest. and perhaps another issue is I was so in love with him I feel I can't love anyone that doesn't look like hiM? not saying I want to set my values high as you state, but just what I feel. he was very tall, broad body, fit and dark hair, deep dark eyes and light skin with an accent on his voice because he's from a different country. he was what I feel I could never get here. maybe I need to stop thinking about him

[CoolGuy7532]

I'm the same age. I've had a number of girlfriends who didn't work out for one reason or another. I'm still hopeful I will find the right girl for me. Don't give up and don't settle for just anybody. You have value. If you look hard enough, the right guy will see that value.

[Asker]

yeah at this age I wish I were a guy. men still have a lot of opportunities at this age. I used to think it was awesome to be female until now. 😐 no sarcasm there.

[Anonymous]

Well its not too late to be happy, find a man and have a family (he may already have kids or y'all might be able to adopt) but you have wasted your prime dating value which was between 18~26. It is men who's prime dating value can last up into their 40s. But you can still be happy

[Opinion Owner]

Like Im just confused. You're not waiting for marriage just waiting to feel loved, yet you were with one guy from age 19 to 35 and never had sex with him?

[Asker]

I didn't say I didn't try. we certainly had intimate moments but for some reason he could never go inside me. I don't know if it was him or me. I asked him every time and he said it's because I didn't let him. I am very ticklish and he had to use force sometimes (most times) to get me to let him touch me because it's not that I didn't want to, it just tickles a lot and it's a sudden movement like I want it but at the same time tickles and I would push him off me and he said he didn't want to rape me. he felt he was facing himself on me but I wanted it I just can't control not pushing off when I feel ticklish.. maybe I'm just weird I don't know.
18-26 is dating value? really?

I feel at 33 was when I got the most men interested in me, a lot more than 18-26 and really attractive ones too but I was taken at that time and I was in love with him.. but now I feel so lost and sad.

[Opinion Owner]

You can still get a man. What kind of man are you pursuing?

[Dchrls78104]

I would go with a 37 year old woman; but then, by age 37, one or more of the following is true of most of the women I've known:
1. Are already married.
2. Have at least one child and issues with the father of the child.
3. Would ridicule "old" virgins like myself.
4. Have destroyed their bodies because of their lifestyle choices.

[Phsk_wmn]

Not too late, don't lose hope. My aunt got married at 40, she met her husband when she was 38.

[cookiecrusher]

Are you overweight?

If you are decently fit, friendly, clean and feminine then sure you can find a somewhat decent guy.

Probably too late for the "normal" life, maybe one kid if you can, etc etc.

[boggboss]

Just sounds like a women that waited fir a man to pick her up instead of take her love life into her own hands

[Asker]

no. I had a boyfriend since I was 19. up until 2 years ago when he dropped me. I was depressed all this time and now I'm over it but I feel all my life passed me by. it's funny how people are quick to assume things.

I'm not like most men who are searching for a girlfriend when they already have one. I was not interested in finding another boyfriend when I already had one. until now that I don't have one anymore.

[boggboss]

Yet u stayed with the guy that treated u like shit instead of ending it and looking for better and what that achieved was wasting your life with someone that dropped u anyway

[Asker]

no. he treated me lovely all those years. He treated me bad the 2 days before he broke off with me.. really bad. it was like a different person
he went to an event in which there were a lot of business people and he called me on cam and had me not the camera the entire night during the event. I wanted him to enjoy his time there and end the call but he kept calling me and kept me there, the next day he didn't talk to me at all until he did and he just blew off on me. an attitude I had never seen before, words he had never used before. Straight cold and heartless. You again assumed things in your head. I feel you will have worse luck than me in relationships if you keep doing that with anyone and everything.

[boggboss]

Lol I'm in a 5 year relationship which I'm about to propose so I assure u don't worry about me hun my relationship life is going as good as I want I'm having to assume things with u because the information u provided is spotty so I'm having to fill it in

[FilmGuy93]

At your age... I think that's probably not realistic. It's definitely possible, but you have to understand that a 37 year old virgin isn't necessarily what the men you desire will most likely be looking for.

[Anonymous]

If you want kids, just fuck so you get a kid even if the kid’s dad doesn’t hang around because you soon won’t be able to have any.

[Asker]

I've thought about that. I have only 1 person, which would be my ex. He treated me bad and we never had sex. but I don't know how to find a relationship with anyone. I don't even have any friends.
I feel if I did just go have sex for the sake of having a kid, it would have to be him because he knows my situation but I feel sad about it because he treated me really bad.

[Iron_Man]

There’s nothing wrong with that you’re in the prime of your life and you can still have kids just get started soon
please and if you’re a virgin that’s real special

[Subarugirl]

You wouldn't buy a car with out test-driving it, why would you enter into a marriage with out testing the waters...

[Asker]

hmm I'm not waiting for marriage.

[OddBeMe]

Wow, virgin at 37. I’d say your lack of experience probably makes you extremely uncomfortable around men. Gotta have experience before you find the “one”.

[Asker]

yes this is certainly true. I am super shy and still turn red if someone talks to me close up. even if I don't find them attractive it happens. I'm so weird.

[OddBeMe]

Not weird. Just lack experience talking to the other gender. I tell guys all the time: make as many female friends as possible.

[es20490446e]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/9WmBNJ-kAog

[VikingWarLord]

Still a virgin at age 37? Why does your gawdam profile say 45+

[Asker]

yes still at 37 and says 45 because I set it to that.

[noohair]

Your situation is, in my opinion, a result of the sexual revolution. Women wanted Freedom and equality. What you have is a result of that. All the best, life is not over until the dirt nap.

[driven159]

there is a person for everyone out there just need to cross paths, but you have to be out there for someone to see you

[Asker]

yeah I'm locked up most of the time and covid is not helping either.

[driven159]

why are you locked up

[Asker]

Well I don’t go anywhere because of COVID and I work from home so I really don’t have reasons to be out. :/

[EaterPeter]

If you can find love within your self for your self from your self. Someone definetly would want piece of that.

[Asker]

maybe that is part of the problem. I feel I used to love myself and once he left me I felt unloved and I don't love myself anymore I even lost respect for myself I believe. maybe this has a lot to do with not attracting anyone anymore as well

[EaterPeter]

Sorry to hear that please work on self

[EaterPeter]

People we care and love a lot leaves bigger deeper longer lasting scars 💔

[EaterPeter]

Let me know if I can help

[Asker]

You are kind. I do need to work on myself first you are right. But by the time I’m done I’ll be 80 😣.. it’s all looking bad. I don’t know what I need..

Thank you.

[EaterPeter]

Trust me it doesn't take that long. Take two new smallest things every month to work on.

[pizzalovershouse]

Yes anything is possible an dont worry about it you can find a nice guy one day just dont worry about looking love usely finds you

[James899]

Yes. You can still find someone who loves you. There is no age bar for love nd sex.

[Asker]

and how do I find someone? that takes me serious?

[Wise4myage]

You still have lots of time, but you need to get busy and start letting yourself live.

[Asker]

I am living. I'm alive.

what does that even mean?
live?

I do not like to go to parties or bars. I don't drink or smoke.
I do not like to be social and chitchat with everyone.

I feel when people say you have to live, they mean you have to be a party animal that drinks and or smokes.
I do not do any of that because I do not enjoy that at all. :/

[Wise4myage]

It means get laid.

[Asker]

if I did that I'd be more sad than what I am at the moment. I rather be lonely than to just go and have sex with random people. feels unhappy. unsatisfying.

[InferiorElegy]

Says you're 45+ but either way as a female you always have a chance at love you just have to choose it.

[kay_nint9]

That would be really hard, if you are at least an 8.

[Asker]

if I'm an 8 it will be really hard? so if I'm anything lower it's impossible? is that what you mean?

[kay_nint9]

Almost impossible. Don't give up though

[kay_nint9]

if you are an 8 it won't be hard

[Asker]

I don't like to give myself a number but according to those who do... I do not think I am an 8.
I don't see me as ugly because I do find myself attractive but I don't consider myself a beauty compared to nice looking blue eyed blondes with hot bodies.
I'm just average, if I get ready I can be a bit above average

I have given up. that's why I ask. I feel most men do not take any woman over 32 seriously.
I don't know but from what I see and read I get the impression that men just want to fuck women in their 30's as a pastime and never serious. I could be wrong, I hope I'm wrong but I can't see anyone taking me seriously now. I don't even feel I have time to see if anyone can fall in love with me.

I'm so sad. I feel my life is over. in reference to having a normal happy one.

[kay_nint9]

Don't lose your hopes. Why don't you try to find a guy who is around 45? Because guys in his 30s most likely to look for a girl in her 20s

[Asker]

right because people walk around with their age attached to their head. 🤦‍♀️ I do not look at ages, I don't even know how to look for a boyfriend. I don't know how people do it. in my current sad situation I don't really care what age they are as long as they don't look like they are my dad. I just want someone to love me. I feel nobody would take me seriously

[kay_nint9]

"right because people walk around with their age attached to their head."

If you keep looking for guys in street I would be face palming too. No wonder why you are single

[Asker]

the only boyfriend I ever had, I met him online when I was 19 playing tanks online.
I never wanted to be with anyone because I was so in love with this online guy
I made him my everything. I lost interest in anyone else. I was in love with him. We met and I fell even more in love with him but he lives far far from me and we stayed together for all this time, . I thought we would be together forever he dropped me 2 years ago. I was depressed and sad, he was really mean to me. it broke me. now I'm over it but I am sad to see my whole life passed me by and I do not want to find someone online again. it feels stupid now. plus all people have filtered photos and people lie in real life, online even worse. I do not want to go through that again. it's all fake online. if I had not been online I would have probably met someone in real life and had a normal life instead of living a fake love life. that's what I feel.

[kay_nint9]

I have been through the same. My first love was someone online... not from dating app. I loved her and it almost killed me (I wish it was 100%). I lost many years of my life over it.

Why don't you try a dating app?

[Asker]

I wish mine was 100% also. I used to think nobody had real love except me haha how ridiculous was I.

as I said before i do not want to go through the whole online relationship thing again. Most people have fake profiles, and those who are real tend to be modified /photoshopped and or filtered.

I also watch a lot of documentaries and many of them have been about people meeting others on dating apps and then getting murdered. All that scares me to top it all off.

I feel I'm a lost cause.
I asked this question already knowing the answer. My chances are close to slim to none.

I don't go out, I don't party, I don't even have friends. and I'm scared to date online haha yeah I feel I'm gonna be alone. I feel stupid, lonely and sad. yet in real life I pretend I I'm happy.

[kay_nint9]

I feel you are not into hookups and other dirty stuff. It is men's fault they are looking for easy girls. Girls like you never be in their sight.

I strongly suggest you to have a dating app. You have to be careful doing so. And you should stop feeling paranoid over it.

You can text me if you like to talk.

[kay_nint9]

Shitty woman. Dislike ones who gave time and attention for your pathetic life.

[normandi]

You deserve to be loved and accepted but life is strange... there is a saying that God may deprive you from something to give you something else... pm me if you need counselling

[Waldoe]

sorry.. but, No one buys a car without test-driving it...

[Anonymous]

You're older than me so sorry but not inclined to it. I'm also a virgin, trying to find a girlfriend myself.

[Opinion Owner]

Oh is this Jenniferbloom? Girl you really need to get your life in order. Stop writing religious books and get a real job and work out, eat lean protein, find a husband already you're so behind in life!

[Anonymous]

How long was your longest relationship? And how long have you been single now?

[Asker]

was with the same guy from 19 till 2 years ago when he dropped me.
that's the only relationship I've ever had. I was happy with that. I never understood how people could get boyfriend's break up and get another and break up and get another. that's why I felt nobody knew what love was only me. I thought I had real love not like all others and even looked down on people who did that. I've been singe 2 years which were very depressing trying to understand why but I am over it now. I'm just sad now to realize my whole life passed me by and I'm alone.

[Opinion Owner]

How come you and him never slept with each other?

[D_Bone_Steak]

I second these questions... that's a long time for no sex. Like how could that even happen? Asexual, guy was secretly gay and trying to look straight, etc are the usual things I see to things like that.

[Asker]

I met him playing a game online not a dating app. I had no idea this could happen, I suddenly became emotionally involved while playing and the relationship grew, we met and I fell in love more. He lives on the other side of the earth completely. yet we made it work but always had to wait some time to be together and the times we were together, we were intimate. I don't know where the real problem is if it's with him or me but I am too ticklish and he mostly always had to use force to touch me because when he gets near my intimate parts push him off unintentionally, an automatic movement from feeling tickles and he repeatedly said he didn't want to rape me and I repeatedly told him it wasn't rape because I wanted him to do it but I didn't understand why my body pushes off and so ticklish. I had never been with anyone before. nobody had ever touched me in these places perhaps that's the reason? I felt we had sex because we were intimate very intimate but he just never went inside me at all

[D_Bone_Steak]

He had to have been gay trying to be straight. Just saying.

[Asker]

@D_Bone_Steak he's not gay. he got hard with me every time. and he stripped me every time, but just as soon as he got to the point where it would happen I unintentionally would push him off. I clearly remember one of the times I turned around and he was angry trying to hold me down because it was like he was wrestling with him just to have sex xD and he turned me around hard and I liked that it was actually so hot and attractive to me but yet I said no no no and then he stopped, maybe I was just too inexperienced and I ruined it all every time. it's not like I wanted to do ruin it it just happened that way.

[D_Bone_Steak]

Maybe you're right. I mean if you made it too rapey... dudes are scared of being falsely accused of rape... that would be 20+ years in prison.

[D_Bone_Steak]

He should've taken my strategy. Lay back and let you do all the work and climb on top and do the deed yourself. Can't call that rape right lol

[Asker]

@D_Bone_Steak yeah I think I ruined it but it was not intentional at all. I really wanted it. just my body reacts differently than what I want because it reacts to tickles and tries to push off it's strange maybe I just need experience but that's another issue I feel I would be extra sad to just go around having sex with random people that I don't plan to stay with. I'm really so weird :( ugh

[Opinion Owner]

You say you are not sad or depressed over not having had sex yet at your current age?

[Asker]

No, im sad and feel lonely to not have anybody to love me or to love back

[Opinion Owner]

Reminds me of an article I was very mentally and emotionally moved by

[TheAfrikan]

All is possible as long as you are breathing Dear do not give up.

[Quidthonian]

I am open to opening a chatting channel with you.

[Gingerguy33]

I definitely think it’s still possible

[Asker]

how do I find someone?

[Gingerguy33]

Pretty much anywhere

[Asker]

yeah but how?

[JohnK123]

Yeah it can happen to anyone

[Twalli]

I wouldn't mind dating a 37 year old.

[In_Trance]

you lied about your age

[Anonymous]

Of course plenty of men would take you serously

[Anonymous]

nope past your prime
its over

[legalboxers]

people suck!

[Anonymous]

yeah