Why is getting someone interested in a relationship so difficult?

[Anonymous]

Guys will talk to me a lot in the beginning, ask me out, text me, but nothing ever seems to solidify. I’m disappointed and unsure of what to do. I’m very attractive physically, have a modeling contract, I work out everyday, have a successful career, am very feminine, not arrogant, kind to everyone, don’t put out easily, have a great personality and hobbies, and more. I’m not perfection but I do work very hard on creating a great life for myself. However I am concerned that I can’t keep anyone really interested long term and that’s what I’m looking for. I’ve asked friends and others for input but they say it’s the guys I’m going for and not me.
For reference the only guys who even approach me are tall and attractive and/or rich. I know, that’s a small part of the population. I have broadened my net and still nothing seems to stick.
I know some of the guys I’ve talked to won’t ask me out but they’ll turn around and ask another girl in our social circle on a nice date or something.
Im aware that they might have a lot of options, but so do I. And I’m way up there on the attractiveness and desirability scale so it shouldn’t be this hard.
If they’re not talking to me or asking me out, they’re staring or checking me out.
So nothing seems to be going anywhere and I feel stuck.
Should I just throw in the towel and accept that maybe relationships aren’t for me?
Side note: please no nasty comments or I will report and block you.

[Phoenix-gb]

Sounds like you're walking a tightrope, the guys you go after and who go after you probably just want sex as they know they have their pick (like your friends said and you also said in other comments).

The guys who want a relationship are usually those more average in looks and lacking in confidence (I know, I am one) but from your description of yourself, would probably be intimidated that someone as confident and attractive as you describe is showing interest in them. This might be why you had guys ask out your friends if they felt they were more their social level.

I'd say keep going with the wider net, I know I'd be overjoyed if someone like you described showed interest in me, and while it might take some time to believe it was real, that's more time to get to know each other and develop the relationship we're both after, so might work better in the long run.

Hope you find what you're looking for.

[TommyMountainFigure]

You know how they always say dogs can sense fear in people? Well the opposite sex can always sense desperation in people too. Sometimes it isn't about looks, people run away from desperation.
I'm not saying this to be nasty or mean, but perhaps you need to learn to disguise your feelings until you get to know someone better?

[Shy80sgirl]

You sound very beautiful and intelligent. Perhaps another route might be setting up a blind date. Perhaps chatting with someone over the phone or via text before you ever actually meet them might enlighten the opposite gender as to what type of individual they are taking on a blind date. I’m not a supermodel, but a long long time ago a man found me kind and attractive enough to ask out on a date and we are married now. Show your attractive side ( both inside and out ). Hope this helps

[Dchrls78104]

It is difficult because people are afraid. Relationships these days are essentially a gamble where human life and freedom are at stake and not much reward or anything of real value is on offer. People are deceptive, unstable, and violent; insecure and unable to communicate with one another properly. What else can we expect when humans have thrown out their morality for the sake of expediency and instant gratification, sacrificing the internal in their nature for the external?

[Pooppoobi]

why did u put dont put out easily in the category of good things about urself? thats a bad thing, maybe thats where ur going wrong... u think being frigid is a good thing... its not... guys love sex, n if we can't get any we give up and think she isn't attracted to us so whats the point

[Pooppoobi]

also its not a big surprise that no guys wanna hang around, its in our nature to jus pollinate as many pretty flowers as we can then move to the next one, we dont stay on the flower for 2 years, we must spread our seed

[Pooppoobi]

a truthful opinion is often ignored and labelled unhelpful, people want the lies that make them feel better

[Pooppoobi]

is it not true that guys love easy sluts? pretty sure guys dont like hard to get girls

[Avicenna]

Well, you might want to think about whether you’re taking to guys who want the same thing

[Asker]

Yeah that’s the thing. I attract so many players who probably just want sex.

[Avicenna]

They're always trying to do that

[Asker]

I respect myself a lot. I just can get myself to have sex with someone without being in a relationship.

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I'd have to go on a date with you to do any further judgment

[Iron_Man]

Try Christian Mingless

[In_Trance]

Your energy. That's the issue.

[Asker]

Could be a factor. I’m stressed a lot.