Is this wrong (age difference question)?

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Hi, I’m 17 years old. I don’t turn 18 until September. However, I am a senior who’s supposed to be a junior. The reason why i’m a grade ahead is because I was born a day before the cut off. But anyways, I have a crush, I just figured out he was a freshman. People keep telling its fine to still like him and make a move since i’m supposed to be a junior anyways. But I don’t wanna be a creep, I’m basically on here to get feedback from older, mature people.

TheorionMage · Accepted Answer

I can only offer the distaff 'Pagan' perspective...
in the traditional Pacific Rim cultures, it is customary to be FAR more
liberal, regarding teens and even pre-teens as young as 7 years old,
exploring physical intimacies...
EXCLUDING vaginal copulation, WITH communal approval.

Oral, Anal and Manual experimentation was/is commonplace and
most households live in large 'long house' extended familial units
with minimal privacy.

Humans learn by foremost firsthand observation
"monkey see, monkey do" and humans share 98% the SAME genetics.
heritage as the Bonobo chimpanzee~ All was well until
Captn Cook and his Jesuits came to the Hawaiian & Polynesian islands
with their manipulative 'sinful' guilt-tripping. As Genesis relates,
"and God said unto Adam & Eve "WHO TOLD YOU you were naked?"

"The Devil" didn't make You do it.
YOUR INNATE ATAVISM entices You to feel sexually... you're NOT a 'Creep'
... you're NATURALLY attracted and aroused to feel lustful;
well-managed RESPONSIBLY re: STD's and your fertility...
lay aside your 'bullshit' guilt trips.

There'll ALWAYS be some disapproving Prudes!
"Back in My day, we didn't..." BULLSHIT!
You didn't ADMIT that you DID do it...

Billy Joel's "Keepin dah Faith" lyrics...
"... my ol Man's TROJANS, menthol Cincins and his 'Old Spice' aftershave"

Datboi65 · Accepted Answer

I'm going to assume that you are 17 and not 20 as it says on your profile.

See, technically speaking, you can legally date until September, but I wouldn't advise it. Here's why:

1) Between teenagers, there could be a huge gap in maturity even in as little age difference as 3 years. That's because people are still discovering themselves, and in a way they are still children. When I was 14, I was extremely immature. Six years later, I have broadened my horizon and I see life through different lenses. Even 2 years ago, I was still a lot more mature at 18 than I was in my Freshman year of high school.

2) Depending on the state you live in, you could be prosecuted for that once you turn 18 in September if you wish to continue that relationship. I am assuming he will be 15 by then. I am not an attorney, but I certainly wouldn't recommend it if I were you. Also, it would be rather rude to drag someone along with you, only to break up with then when you turn 18, and then ask them out again when they have turned 18. It doesn't make sense either.

Want some advice? High school is only 4 years, and you are a senior already. You can surely wait until uni to start dating when you turn 18, or at the very least find someone close to you in age in high school. That will for sure simplify things.

shaysh87 · Accepted Answer

If you’re 17-18, I’d say it’s ok to date guys that are 16-23. You both will have more things in common and a similar level of maturity.

But I’d be more wary of guys as old as 30 years old trying to pick up 18-19 yr old girls. Many of these guys have issues which is why women closer to their age do not want them. They want someone who is easy to control / manipulate or impress with the very little that they have.

Or they can be perverts who are just looking at your hot body. There are some old perverts who only date 18 yr olds then dump them when by the time she turns 30 for another 18 yr old,

WonderBell99 · Accepted Answer

How old is he? It depends on his age.

A 14 and an 18 year old together is CREEPY. A 15 and an 18 year old is *somewhat* acceptable. I wound not recommend more than 2 years of age difference because, in teenagers, a lot of developments take place. He is still young. Not to mention, probably still a tad immature. Girls mature faster than boys. The difference in maturity levels is NOT negligible at all.

If you want to date him, go ahead. Just don’t do anything sexual with him until he’s over the age of consent.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

How old is the guy? What do you know about possible common interests?

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

So he's what? 15? Ok so thats a bit young for dating, and while It's fine to tell him you like him, and ask for him to reserve himself if he likes you back, don't do anything with him other than friendship, and be ok with his choice if by the time he's old enough, he changes his mind and picks someone else, as he may not know what he wants yet.

Everyone saying it's fine because you are 17, are ignoring that 18 is not the legal consent age everywhere, in some places you are legally an adult, so you would indeed get in legal trouble if you did anything with him, depending on where you lived.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't proceed with anything further than just talking and getting to know each other, or let things get physical. Stay platonic!!! (Why do I feel that's all a wasted breath?) Just meet, hangout, do activities, etc..

You'll be 18 soon, and people will surely talk about you being an "adult" and him being a minor... still. Someone, if found out, might be paying you a visit, whether it be angry parents and/or accompanied by the police, despite your protestations that nothing physical has happened. It's a statutory violation.

Think of it this way. In the grand scheme of things, a couple or few years isn't anything, but at any age after 18, YOU are an adult. Are you willing to wait until he's 18, for anything more, or to deal with the drama surrounding an underage crush/relationship?

You'll do what you want, I'm sure, but if it backfires, you were warned.

SnakeBoop · Answer

i mean. technically if they're under legal sex age, you could still have a relationship so long as it isn't sexual. But if it did become sexual you could be done for statutory rape of a minor, even if they consented.
I'd normally just say skip and wait until they are legally allowed to have sex before forming a relationship in general.

Interstate · Answer

Having a crush merely means you are at that stage in your life when you are taking notice to the opposite sex. But there is nothing wrong with having a crush. If you pursue him, make the best of it until you turn 18. Because once you are 18, it becomes statutory rape.

RobLloyd34 · Answer

Age will not matter. It is a matter of maturity.
My girlfriend is 18.
We are both Baptist and Republican.
We think a lot alike.
But remember women mature faster than men.
At that age he will be a hormone driven teenager and intimidated by an older girl.
If you like leading in the bedroom and teaching him things you may have a chance.
I am much older than her. Much older.
She does NOT like younger men.(They are not Experienced enough to appreciate a lady. Everything is new to them).
You will have to show him everything. Love, Respect, Manors AND How you like to be touched.
Everyone is different. Tell him what you like. And remember your worth. Don't settle for less.
Best of luck to you.

RobLloyd34@GMail. com

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Well, first of all, you've been reported for lying about your age and presenting yourself as an adult when you're not.

But to answer your question, I think you can date him if you want to date him. Just make sure he's genuine and not just playing you to score points with his friends.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

I don't see the age difference being an issue with you... I liked a freshman who was age 15 and I was a Senior age 18 and I had a crush on her... She called my house one time after she graduated, I was at a doctor's appointment... She never called back so I'm thinking it was her to this day it makes me wonder

loveslongnails · Answer

What sort of "move" are you planning to make? Do you have any idea if he knows you exist? There's no real "age difference" here, it's more of a "status difference" for high schoolers, and a question of maturity level. Freshman boys tend to be very immature, but if you think he can handle it, go for it. Keep in mind, you'll be judged by your silly HS friends for liking, or dating, a freshman. That shouldn't matter, just expect it.

Ez-Bri-Z · Answer

Why does your age say 20 if you are 17 though? Anyway, it happens all the time but as other said just avoid sexual situations until they are above age of consent.

OddBeMe · Answer

You’re a senior at 17? Wow.

Um, for actual sex it sounds like it’s borderline. 17 usually is “let off the hook” on Romeo Juliet laws. But your next bday and it’d be pedo time.

But law enforcement prob wouldn’t arrest chick pedos :)

Waldoe · Answer

It is an arbitrary rule to protect children... when you are 24, you might be attracted to a 40-year-old man... and that's OK. But society decided that you must be 18, to be legal... they could have picked any age as the cutoff... 14? 20? but they chose 18

andy530 · Answer

You’re not a creep for liking him or making a move. The older you get the easier it is to see that age differences really don’t matter as much as we tend to think when we are young. Go for it shoot your shot and enjoy your life living it the way you want to.

Dinklex3 · Answer

We definitely found it creepy when seniors went after freshmen. Sounds like you'll be 18 soon while he's 14?

exitseven · Answer

My mother got me put in the first grade before everyone else. I was always the youngest person in the class. Most of my friends were in the class before mine. It was not creepy, it just was what it was.

Gwenhwyfar · Answer

It’s totally okay but if he’s only 14 you may have legal issues if you try and get sexual with him (more than kissing)

Im_a_girl_lol · Answer

lol whats your age again?

spartan55 · Answer

Well your GaG profile says you are 20, so you are lying somewhere.

ohshee · Answer

Do it just means you're hella smart I'm more interested in you being a Virgo LOL September what 7th March 21st or 18th LOL

Cuminginside · Answer

You need to find out if the state you live in and he lives in close in age exemption or Romeo and Juliet laws if not turn around and walk the other way now.

fonduegirl · Answer

I'm assuming he's 15-16. That's fine. Tell him your feelings. Just don't fuck him until the legal age of your country. You can date.

mobiusforniner · Answer

Its not weird in like 3 years... i was a sophomore at university when my wife was in 6th grade. Amazing how much 7 years difference makes.

connemara_crocodile · Answer

Ahh stop it it's just a technicality, don't beat yourself up

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

You are minor yourself. So i dont think it is wrong. I also see 16-18 years old guys dating 18-19 years old women. You are treated like an adult when you become 16 in austria in my experience

SkipPerk · Answer

This is fine. Boys always date longer girls, you can do the same.

RebeccaBI2000 · Answer

If you are 17. You are fine. Once you are 18 people will start to have an issue with it. Also I would get your age fixed on here

Levin · Answer

No idea. Don't understand the American freshman thing.

bowenw · Answer

A small gap like that makes no difference in the grand scheme of things. Try to get to know him better to see if the two of you feel a connection.

crmoore · Answer

It's honestly perfectly fine, but there will inevitably be people who blindly, and firmly oppose you for it.

RHK36 · Answer

I don't think it's that big of an age difference. Seems fine to me.

Bubbles16 · Answer

I don't see a problem as long as the person isn't already taken

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Why did you put your age at 20? Shit like that puts guys in prison!

IrinaKitten · Answer

If you have good chemistry with him then give it a shot and see where it goes. It’s better than crushing on him then missing your opportunity and later regretting it.

Mangospacho · Answer

That’s not much of a difference, honestly. That’s only two years difference, right?

TallAnon · Answer

Seems fine to me. Couple of years, in 5 more years you won't even notice it.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Weird to go for younger man. Why aren't you into the local college guys like normal girls your age?

Anonymous · Answer

how are you attracted to a 14 year old at nearly 18. thats weird

Neko_Nya · Answer

Why are you using a fake age

supercutebutt · Answer

You have a crush on a HS freshman? A 14yo?

clemdenim · Answer

never let age stand in the way

Bigjake1019 · Answer

Do what your heart tells you.

tponderingundead · Answer

are you 17 or 20?

dazzinu69 · Answer

I thought u were 20?

whosnumber1 · Answer

not a big deal

msc545 · Answer

It is ok.

Pterodon · Answer

Perfectly ok

MrShaun · Answer

Ask him out.

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