Do you think that the obligation to be faithful continues until the day a couple gets divorced?

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My opinion: faithfulness is not a legal obligation that you have because you are married. It's a moral obligation because you promised your partner that you would be exclusive. So the obligation begins as soon as you make that promise (and not just when you ar eventually married,) and it ends - even if you are married - when your partner no longer has any reason to expect that you will still honor that promise. For me, that occurs when you separate and are living in separate residences, unless you specifically agree to remain faithful during the separation.

What do YOU think?

t-8900 · Accepted Answer

I'm of the last one but thing is that the only valid reason imho for a divorce is due to infidelity, death threats, attempted murder, our physical spousal abuse. In which case as far as I am concerned weather the law finalizes it or noth the marriage is null and void as the other person broke the vows and at that point I have every right and justification to leave. At that point do as you like I say. But if it's just "we grew apart" you both have an obligation to try to fix the issue and rekindle and just in MY personal opinion is not a reason for divorce based on my Christian belief and values. Your mileage may vary and that's fine too. You life, your choices. 👍

slatyb · Accepted Answer

It's a promise, not an obligation. It takes time to end a marriage. The relationship always ends first. When the relationship has ended, the promise is over.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I think the moral obligation ends when you both mutually agree to a divorce AND agree that while you are separated (waiting on the divorce to be finalized), you both agree that you are free to move on with your life sexually or otherwise vs making the choice to be separated with the goal of working on yourselves separately to get back together. For the former, why would you hold on to something that is no longer there anymore. You are breaking up for a reason or several and you know most likely after the divorce they will move on, so what is the point of holding on if the divorce is imminent because you can't stand each other anymore.

Genie23 · Accepted Answer

I mean if they truly loved their partner, had respect for them and care about their feelings, then they should be not even think of being with someone else until they get divorced.

bingbongbangbung · Answer

Well actually, adultery used to be a crime in the West. And in Muslim countries and other conservative places, adultery still is a crime with harsh penalties. Even if we ignore the religious and legal consequences, it's still immoral to cheat on your partner as it can cause them psychological pain and potential transmission of sexual diseases. If any children are involved, that can traumatize them or result in the person you're cheating with potentially abuse them too. The point of marriage is to have a life long union and to raise a family with legitimate children, so why bother marrying if you're gonna break that vow?

lightbulb27 · Answer

The commitment is to oneself (emotions) and to protect the emotions of the other... the love is valuing them, and the family created. The marriage is supposed to be until death do you part. But is that the emotional death or physical?

The answer is, it depends. I don't think it is based upon the timing of court systems.

What's really important is keeping the relationship and love alive, nurturing and growing. I'd put my focus there. I recognize though, and have seen much, that life isn't always so simple or easy and so I don't stand to judge others.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

I knew a girl who her husband ran off with someone else, he said he would file for divorce as he had more money than her, she couldn't afford to so after a time she just said whatever and started dating and eventually moved in with another guy. She never heard from her husband, when finally saved up enough money to start the divorce process, he couldn't be found anywhere to be served.

She couldn't afford to pay anyone to find him either, so she gave up and lived with her boyfriend for over 10 years, had kids with him... then found her husband was in prison in another state and finally able to get the divorce done.

She just never had much money to deal with it, but I can't imagine someone in her situation to stay faithful for over a decade.

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

I think the obligation should be what's been agreed upon between the two. I see it like business terms... a breach of agreement is basically the same as a promise broken. Like breaking a contract. All the bullshit starts with assumptions of the 'terms of agreements,' or the outright lies and breaking of actually agreed-upon terms.

TransAm85 · Answer

I'm on the verge to file for a divorce but now he just had a CT scan and has a fatty liver! He'll most likely continue drinking and it will turn into cirrhosis so I'll just stay.

Adam1978 · Answer

You should be faithful when you officially are a couple until you no longer are one. Marriage doesn't change this facts, it's just paper work. Breaks are simply not a thing. You can't call a break and be unfaithful you really need to end it.

Ray1980 · Answer

I'm not religious but spiritual if that makes any sense. I'd probably never get married but if I did vows mean something to me & that would bind me until death. I wouldn't impose that on her, just myself.

jshm2 · Answer

That has to be the stupidest thing I've read today and there are some redneck posts on here. Being married is a contact. You must be faithful to the word of the contract else you have no contact or legal cover. Morality is subjective these days.

Phoenix98 · Answer

The end begins when you stop being faithful and start being unfaithful.

itsalyssaagain · Answer

I think that different couples can agree on different things but generally speaking I’d expect my partner to stay loyal to me unless we get a divorce.

DaveToo · Answer

Usually, a divorce, or something that keeps the couple apart, is why someone isn't faithful.

PJH359 · Answer

If one believes in being faithful until a piece of paper is signed then they probably wouldn’t divorce in the first place.

AviatorTom · Answer

When a couple decides to separate, which may or may not lead to divorce, they are both free to be with others.

Quigly · Answer

It's actually faithfull "till death do us part" That's the entire point of marriage, isn't it?

RobT312 · Answer

Agree. It’s a moral obligation, otherwise why be married

Drumlin2001 · Answer

If you separate that's the end of the relationship. The divorce is just paperwork that can take dome time.

WhitneySnow · Answer

I voted D but I meant to vote C. So I basically agree with you.

exitseven · Answer

probably the legallity of it says that they remain faithful until the divorce is final In practice it probably happens way before that.

PatKirby · Answer

That a long and incredibly disingenuous way of saying "I can't wait to cheat on you. I've already done it in my mind and now rationalizing it to see if you fall for it."

jimmy2 · Answer

Marriage is called by God to be married and join as one till death of one of them

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