Poll- Does your boyfriend live with his mom? Would you stay with a guy that lives with mom forever & not meet his parents?

[Sugar100]

My boyfriend lives with mom and his sister shares room with boyfriend in moms home. I never met his family and he talks to me of his parents a lot but never asks to meet them. So it’s weird. I spend holidays alone while my entire family arrive holidays next to a partner. I don't know what is point date for years and years I don’t get what is the reason. I’m not looking for a friend or buddy go out with. He doesn’t want to move out. So he’ll be forever with mom and sisters boyfriend. He’s like 30 but what would you girls do? I see all girls live with guy and start family. And it’s easy to say find new guy but it’s not easy and hard be in love again. I don’t care for any guy. But I do want a future and partner not marry but share life togeher with a guy & not live alone.

Yes

No

[TonyV]

Well I don't know what to tell you, he likes family and you hate family, seems like a fundamental difference and I don't know why you are keeping this relationship going. Would you consider moving in with them?
How many years you been dating? I'd probably date a girl for at least 2 years before I bought a house with her too.

He likes his family, why is that a problem?

[Sugar100]

We’ll my entire family are family people too but they all moved in fast with girlfriend don’t live with fmaily even tho they love family. So y I deserve be the only one alone looking single?

[Sugar100]

I can’t even meet his family. If he loves his fmaily so much y I can’t meet them? 😔 so he lives with sister and her boyfriend and they have children. He would lie say he don’t celebrate Easter as they have no kids but they do. 😔

[Sugar100]

He lie how he do nothing holidays but he’s celebrating with sister boyfriend and all her children and mom. 😞y I can’t be there next to him eveyone know I’m a girlfriend and celebrate with sisters kids, bond?😞

[TonyV]

So you expect him to move in fast just cause your brother did?
And your jealous his roommates celebrated Easter even tho he didn't?

Tell him you want to meet his family.

Plus something I find disturbing is how worried you are about people thinking you are single. Who cares what people think, makes it sound like you're more concerned about using him as a status signal more than you love him.

That's a huge red flag to me, my mom once yelled at my dad during an argument before she divorced him " I just married you cause I didn't want to be alone" so yeah if I ever hear a woman more worried about how the relationship make her look to others than the relationship itself she gone, I'd dump her on the spot.

I date for fun and love and appreciation, if your just desperately trying to "not look single " and treat me like a trophy I'm out

[Sugar100]

Don’t guys have to ask girls to meet family? I feel scared tell him. He talk all the time of his parents how they act etc but y he don’t tell me to meet them?

[Sugar100]

Even the girls on here all voted they all meet guys parents live with boyfriend and spend holidays together I’m the only person that is alone.

[TonyV]

Cause you won't ask! Jesus tell him you want to meet them.

[Sugar100]

I always hear from fmaily guys need to ask.

[Sugar100]

He keeps talking of his dad or mom n it’s weird like why he’s telling me? If I don’t know how they even look like

[Sugar100]

It’s just hard for me to even see my family as my entir family all show off and say oh my cuzin is with her boyfriend , oh he’s with his girlfriend. All events or holidays everyone brings to wit partner except for me. I look stupid and my family will be mad my partner is avoiding meet them or spend holidays with me. I want be happy too have partner share life with me 😔

[TonyV]

So you want him to ditch his family on the holidays so you can parade him to your nosey judgmental family?

[TonyV]

Sounds like you need to date an orphaned boy with no life so he has no interests of his own to iterupt you wearing him like a handbag to social events.

[Sugar100]

So why my entire family r with their boyfriend on holidays? So they r parading thier bfs like handbags?

[Sugar100]

Y I can’t be with His family on holiday? celebrate with them? I’m sure his sisters boyfriend is celebrating with their family on holidays. Y that boyfriend don’t go with his own family?

[Sugar100]

My brother was following girlfriend for many years to all her family parties , y u don’t call him a handbag?

[TonyV]

Why are you comparing yourself to everyone else? Who cares what your brother did, his relationship is irelavent to yours.
How far are you going to go to copy your brother? You've asked us what to do, we told you you need to talk to your boyfriend and tell him what he wants, then you just tell us your family says he has to ask🤷‍♂️.
If you're not gonna tell him what you want and you won't break up with him then I geuss you just have to sit and wait till it happens, I don't know what to tell you, we've told you options of what to do and you won't listen.

[Sugar100]

He say no to anything I say

[Sugar100]

He already said he won’t move out. Neevr. Jsut live with mom so I will never have a partner living with me. I can never start my own family if I have no guy living with me 😞

[Sugar100]

I’m not comparing , if u ask any girl on gag they all r the same like my brother. U date few dates then meet parents then move together. No girl is like me and guy refuses to meet her parents all guys say yes to meet each others parents. Ask other girls on gag. They will all say to u that they live with thier bfs.

[TonyV]

You already told us you won't ask, now you're changing your story to "he says no" so now I don't trust what you say.

If he said he won't move out ask if you can move in, or just break up and find a guy with similar goals.

And no, most people don't move in together after just a few dates, that's a lie.

[Sugar100]

I never said we went on few dates we’ve been dating since one year and half and I’ve been friends with him for 5 years! Girls meet parents after few dates or after one month then continue dating. Many say they move in after one year or 6 months. I want know secret how girls find guys that want gfs?

[UniquelyBasic]

Talk to him about it. Tell him you want to start a life for yourselves and if he's not at least willing to try to change then I would move on.

[Sugar100]

But why he wants forever live with mom and sister with her boyfriend? That’s not normal all guys run to live with girlfriend?

[Sugar100]

I don't know how dating forever is a future and not meeting parents be alone holidays. It’s easy say move on but no new guy I am in love with or no guy is proposing me or asking me to be his girlfriend.

[Sugar100]

I go out and all Guys r next to girl and baby. Lol so I don't know how to get a new boyfriend in one second.

[Sugar100]

I feel stuck. Like where a guy will like me and want a girlfriend?

[UniquelyBasic]

Just because you dont have a guy waiting for you the very second you break up with your current boyfriend isn't a good excuse to stay with him.

[Sugar100]

But why all girls get so many bfs easily that move in and have baby meet parents? How can a guy live forever with mom
Is this common?

[Smoke-n-Growls]

While the economic situation right now definitely makes it near impossible to live on your own unless you've gotten lucky, it's a dealbreaker for me if someone hasn't lived on their own.

[Sugar100]

So what shud I do I need help? Can u dm me please

[bademoxy]

you are heading into a world of hurt just looking for any guy to settle down with.
the finest relationships are with your best friends...

[Sugar100]

He is my best friend. Ik him long time!!!

[Sugar100]

We started as best friends!!!

[Sugar100]

So it’s not true starting as best friends is the finest relationships. He don’t want me meet his family or live with me only live with his mom forever

[slatyb]

Dump him so you can meet an adult.

[Sugar100]

It’s hard find other guy. I try and. nothing. Also it’s hard as I won’t love another guy. I won’t care for him or be serious. I have strong feelings for this guy my dream is have baby meet this guys parents I don’t wana meet other random guys parents or have baby so I feel confused y I don’t deserve be happy

[Sugar100]

All girls can. Hav guy they love and I deserve be with a guy I don’t love at all

[slatyb]

Have a baby? You already have one.