How to fix yourself before your issues destroy your relationship?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend feels neglected and we argued a lot which he hates, he feels that I don't care about him and want to stay as I am. We tried to fix it many times but we still had problems, now he is giving up on me and is close to leaving me. After trying many times, I don't know how to show him an improvement which he will believe. I tried very hard to change myself for the better, not just for him but for myself.

[Screenwriter]

Have you gone to therapy to address the issues that you want to fix. Getting a professional involved might help you.

But remember, even if you fix yourself to YOUR satisfaction, it might not be to his.

if you have to change yourself in any way, but a self destructive one that needs to be eliminated, you're in the wrong relationship with the wrong person. Kick this guy to the curb and find someone who enjoys you as you are.

[Anonymous]

It seems you guys aren't connecting on an emotional level if after many fights you still dont understand what he wants. Maybe you just aren't right for each other. Maybe you need to find yourself; ie get a job that you love or travel. If you care about him consider a relationship counsiler to help you understand each other better

[In_Trance]

Therapy