How to fix a sabotaged relationship?

[Anonymous]

There's a girl that has liked me for a long time, and I've liked her, but I have pushed her away so many times that she has stopped trying with me, and I still like her and think I may even be in love with her. Is there a way to fix this relationship? I think she still likes me but is afraid to try with me any more because of feeling rejected by me so many times. I think the only reason I kept pushing her away was because our relationship was too "public," and it scared me to start a relationship with her around all of our peers. She was very forward with me - always kissing and touching me in front of everyone. It was unnerving for me, but now I miss her touch and kissing her and all of those other things, but she doesn't seem to want to do them in private - only in public. I still feel uncomfortable about it but am willing to try it if it's the only way to have a relationship with her. Is there hope for this relationship or should I just write it off as a lesson learned? I don't know what to do but still want to be with her.

[prettynurse]

Talk to her, tell her how you feel. If you think she still likes you she probably does. Communication is key. If certain things unnerve you, tell her. She will respect you more for it. If you really like her don't give up. I myself am not a fan of public displays of affection, I am much more private than that. Tell her that you miss being with her and that you'd like to try again.

[Asker]

Thanks! Yeah, communication is tough for me I think - especially since I never really got to know her privately - only in public so far! :)

[hopingtogethere]

I seem to believe there still is hope for a relationship like that. If nothing can be solved with talking about it, just one day sit down and talk about it and talk about what makes you tick or not. If you really want to be with her, then there's nothing anyone can say to make it otherwise. I've been in a similar situation, but the easiest way to begin forgiveness is with an I'm sorry.

[Asker]

Thanks! :)