Do you think love requires you to comprise?

[Anonymous]

As I get older I think it's hard to find the perfect person and you have to be willing to comprise within reason to have a real relationship.

[caring__1]

We all have our must haves and our nice to haves. Never compromise on the must haves, but be open minded when it comes to the nice to haves.

When making decisions as a couple, the first step is to identify the long-term objective. Once that is established, discuss all the different paths leading to that long-term objective, including the pros and cons of each. Together, choose which option is most likely to achieve the long-term objective, while being respectful and considerate of all involved. When we start conversations with conclusions, we just end up butting heads. Always start with long-term objectives, so it is easier to measure any progress you make.

[Asker]

do you think a catholic and a Christian can make a relationship work if the guys family wants a catholic?

[caring__1]

Closed-minded people generally live a life full of conflict. They feel threatened by differences so take everything personally. If the guy is close to his family, this could destroy any relationship. The parents will want their grandkids to be indoctrinated with their belief system and will accept no less. If the couple stays together, the grandparents will do all in their power to undermine the mother of the children. If they can undermine her in the area of religion, they'll end up undermining her in all other areas also.

Unfortunately, this is the result of religions that promote fear. No one is better or worse than others, and no belief is better or worse than others. We are all unique individuals with personal preferences. If you go to a restaurant with someone, and they order a different menu item than you order, do you feel threatened by that? Probably not. Unfortunately, people feel entitled to push their agenda onto others, which only promotes conflict and disharmony.

What needs to be looked at is how rigid the family is and how much influence and control they'll have over the relationship. It is possible to prefer something but be accepting of something different. Let's say you want your child to be straight, but you discover she's gay. Would you be able to love and support her as she is, or would you insist she be something she isn't? The world would be much happier and harmonious if people were taught to be tolerant of differences rather than to be fearful of differences.

[ohshee]

I don't care what kind of relationship that it is or that you have with anybody or anything even your pet there has to be a compromise somewhere always if you want to remain happy it can't always be your way or my way there has to be compromised and when you're big enough person to understand that and let that happen you grows big time

[boldlyblu]

Yes I believe much of love and life to is the art of compromise.
People can't always have it there way it would be one sided then and no one would be happy.

[jennifer_bloom]

I still have opportunities to get attractive people but I’m willing to compromise if I don’t get a perfect guy.

[DaySpring]

Big time comprises? NOOO.
Small time ones yeah.

You don't go out and get the perfect person. You go get someone who wants to build with you as a team. You create a vision with them and become perfect people for that vision. If you want a finished product... What is the point? Life is a journey not a destination.

But no you need to find someone who agrees with you on the vision in terms of the big stuff. Like having kids or not? Like family culture etc. Where we are eating tonight is meaningless. Who cares. If you keep your eyes on what matters there isn't much to comprise on. And that's because you have built the vision with them. And if you can't do that then that isn't the person for you.

[AviatorTom]

Every relationship requires compromise. That's what makes relationships interesting... and work.

[moonpie89]

Yes definitely

[VanessaValentine]

Duh 🙄