Is being asexual indeed a blessing at a time relationships and marriages have been ruined?

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As a 25 year-old woman, I've never in my life felt any attraction towards anyone (man or woman). I'm not just asexual but aromantic too. I feel little to no romantic feelings but no sexual attraction at all.

Seeing how both relationships and marriages have been ruined, is being asexual a blessing after all? After all, I don't have to worry about falling in love with Mr Wrong nor wasting my time nor being string along, etc. Would you call that a blessing?

humpbackjack · Accepted Answer

Marriage and relationships aren’t something you should judge by everyone else’s it’s a personal thing my parents both had one failed marriage and then they married and were together until my father passed away and my mother passed not long after when I was young before I got married I wild and running around with a lot of girls spent majority of my youth on parole or probation up until I was almost 29 and definitely wasn’t someone I’d want one of my daughters to date let alone marry but when I met my wife I changed and we’ve been married for almost thirty years the last few or so haven’t been that great but the first twenty something were amazing so marriage is what YOU make of it and from what you’re saying it’s not for you

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

"Seeing how both relationships and marriages have been ruined. . ." If that is what YOU believe, perhaps it is best for you that YOU are asexual. Many others don't share those beliefs, are dating, having fun, and eventually finding their partner.

serious_miss419 · Accepted Answer

I have no sexual attraction to guys or women. I don’t crave sex or physical intimacy, I’m comfortable being alone - never do I feel lonely. I don’t label myself, I simply do not have a desire to be with anyone. Never have I had a desire to and I’ve had relationships but didn’t feel the need to remain in the relationship. Aside from that, I also just don’t see the need for being with someone on a long-term basis , marriage or as a casual thing. There’s no novelty in it. The person always likes me but I’m unable to return or reciprocate.
I’ve been called odd labels for this but whatever. I’m happy and that’s what my life is all about! Life your life girl!

aWes0MeNeSs · Accepted Answer

I'm also asexual and aromantic, and I do feel as if it is a blessing. Not necessarily so much because relationships have been ruined, but because I've seen the poor decisions people make when they're blinded by love or lust, and am not envious of that at all. I also have no desire to deal with wasting years of my life on the wrong person, relationship drama, messy breakups, etc. or to put myself at risk for pregnancy, STDs, a heightened risk for cervical cancer, etc. Since sex and relationships aren't my thing, I can't really see any upside to them for me.

Anonymous · Answer

yes.. it is nice not having big desires which require other people in general.
I personally don't feel a want for sex as long as there is no specific man I am into, and I only get into a man if I like him as a person and we flirt and so on. So if I don't invest in getting to know a man in such a way I am more or less free of thinking of sex. It certainly feels like a blessing to me :)

Vesuvius87 · Answer

I would say so. I was once normal. After all the time and years I've wasted with my ex boyfriend (all for NOTHING), I'm now suspecting I might be partially asexual. I'm making my current boyfriend wait (it's not for religious purposes.. he knows I'm an agnostic and don't care about religion) but it's also partly because my sex drive reduced so much too.

It feels the same as when an internet application gets saturated too much that it just doesn't process anymore as it used to.

lightbulb27 · Answer

It frees up your energy and resources for other endeavors. Maybe you’ll be the next mother Teresa?

Most people I know are married and doing at least ok. Nothing is perfect including just dealing with yourself.

There’s companionship… family… community. There’s times you want and need another person there… who you gonna trust and rely on.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

Mostly yes, although there's always the advantage that if you engage in relationships, you reason with your head, and not with your loin.
I'm asexual myself, and I still got married - socially, economically and politically it was a boon, and I can still dedicate my time to my pursuits.
So in my opinion it's both a blessing to focus on one's pursuits, and also in dealing with people without being conditioned by hormones or animalistic instincts.

ohshee · Answer

This is a very hard question for me to answer because I have never meant anyone like you before so for sure I would love to get to know you just to understand what you mean and what you feel . Because I'm not understanding your words because I feel them in your post and they are completely opposite of what your saying. And now you have me

So very curious why

anita_lolita59 · Answer

I think it’s both because you won’t have to worry about falling in love with the wrong person, heart takes, making bad decisions due to sex, etc. But I think it also will be hard becuase people won’t want a relationship if you can’t feel romantic feelings unfortunately :( I think it could be a curse butttt there are still very good things about being asexual!!

007kingifrit · Answer

that's not a real thing. asexual is one of those fake orientations made up by people obsessed with categories. it's not real and is a result of trauma or low self esteem (fat girls usually say they are asexual to explain why they are single)

being alone is never a blessing, it's giving up

Spotifyplaylist · Answer

The stereotypical way of living is man and woman with the their children but people can be content with just themselves you don't have to always look for Mr or Mrs right you don't always have to be with a partner in life to be happy.

MagicCarpet1 · Answer

Unfilitered water in California turned frogs gay, so it must be the water you were drinking that made you asexual. I am sorry.

serious · Answer

Being an Asexual myself I can say yes it is a blessing indeed. I am proud to be an Asexual.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Definitely a plus. Honestly sometimes wish I was ace. Instead I'm disaster bi.

Anonymous · Answer

yes I wish I was asexual 😭 a lot of these men are horrible to women and I'm scared to have sex with them. Also unwanted pregnancies are a risk. But I crave it so much that it's frustrating

JessicaEarl · Answer

I wouldn’t. If relationships weren’t worth the breakup, people wouldn’t do them

Anonymous · Answer

I guess that depends on how cynical you want to be about relationships and sex.

Anonymous · Answer

Nothing wrong with being that way. Our society puts way too much pressure on people to be in relationships when they're not ready... or as a status thing.

SnakeBoop · Answer

neither. i wouldn't call it a blessing or a curse

msc545 · Answer

Yes and no, as you are likely to end up alone.

Tonyblony12 · Answer

I think it would suck no feelings

driven159 · Answer

now adays yes

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