I guess I just need to vent. I really have no friends at the moment to discuss this with.
So, My fiance and I have been together for 5 years. We have 2 children together. He proposed to me about 3 years ago now (still no wedding)
He has always had a close relationship with his family and I had admired that and it was a main reason I was attracted to him. But now years later having had so many negative experiences with his Mother and sister, and my fiance NOT having my back in so many situations, I no longer see a future with him.
I have put up with him talking to his sister behind my back negatively when we all lived together making it awkward at times. I started noticing how he was so quick to do whatever his sister asked of him. for example; he wouldn't even take the time to go grocery shopping with me, but If his sister asked him he would have ran to the car.
So me and him moved out with just us 2 and nothing got better. things got worse. He blames me for him and his sister not hanging out as often (but it doesn't bother him that him and I haven't been on a date in over a year?)
On Christmas eve a few years back, we had our 2 year old twins at his moms house all day it got past their bedtime and I wanted to go home but present opening wasn't finished. We could have finished the next day i didn't see a big deal. My kids were getting angsty. Instead of my fiance putting the kids and myself first he teamed up with his mom to belittle me about wanting to leave. I ended up bringing my kids home alone and woke up alone next morning.
Ever since that Christmas we have been left out of many outings and he blames it all on me. Tonight during another argument on how he doesn't understand why i dont like his sister he says "I love my family more than you"
as if I am nothing, or like we didn't create a family of our own.
I told him we're done and I took off engagement ring.
Feeling helpless.
So, My fiance and I have been together for 5 years. We have 2 children together. He proposed to me about 3 years ago now (still no wedding)
He has always had a close relationship with his family and I had admired that and it was a main reason I was attracted to him. But now years later having had so many negative experiences with his Mother and sister, and my fiance NOT having my back in so many situations, I no longer see a future with him.
I have put up with him talking to his sister behind my back negatively when we all lived together making it awkward at times. I started noticing how he was so quick to do whatever his sister asked of him. for example; he wouldn't even take the time to go grocery shopping with me, but If his sister asked him he would have ran to the car.
So me and him moved out with just us 2 and nothing got better. things got worse. He blames me for him and his sister not hanging out as often (but it doesn't bother him that him and I haven't been on a date in over a year?)
On Christmas eve a few years back, we had our 2 year old twins at his moms house all day it got past their bedtime and I wanted to go home but present opening wasn't finished. We could have finished the next day i didn't see a big deal. My kids were getting angsty. Instead of my fiance putting the kids and myself first he teamed up with his mom to belittle me about wanting to leave. I ended up bringing my kids home alone and woke up alone next morning.
Ever since that Christmas we have been left out of many outings and he blames it all on me. Tonight during another argument on how he doesn't understand why i dont like his sister he says "I love my family more than you"
as if I am nothing, or like we didn't create a family of our own.
I told him we're done and I took off engagement ring.
Feeling helpless.
