that's pretty damn awful, disrespectful... and I don't recall ever hearing that question on gag. In the context of most females I've known, if I heard that, it means... there is no relationship and she's checked out. Women don't communicate directly, they do so indirectly... there's more behind that emotion. Was she "testing you" for how you'd respond. How you handle the response can matter.
My wife makes some complex things simple with some wisdom. "What's the purpose of the communication"? "Make it a loving communication". That's the question to ask her... what's the point.
That said... some girls... say whatever pops into their mind, there is no filter. It may be meaningless or have changed 2 seconds later. I think you have to examine the personality you are dating in context of this, if that's what you want and if this is what is good for you.
Thats kinda stuff that can damage the emotional relationship. Or maybe can be re-communicated/discussed to improve it. But, I have to question whom your drawn to.
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The relationship would end right then and there. If she has a backup it means she is expecting things to not work out, she is not 100% into the relationship AND she is probably already cheating.
I saw a response from a FEMALE (no surprise) saying something along the lines of "Everyone knows who they’d go for in a worse case scenario. We just do". That is what I would expect a cheater to say.
First, how do you know that your backup would be available should your current relationship fail? The only sure way would be to already be dating him/her, which means you are already cheating.
Second, why plan for a backup if you are truly committed to your relationship? Even if the relationship DOES fail, if you really love someone you would need time to heal. It would be selfish to use someone as a rebound just for your own healing at the expense of yet another person.
Third, any person who would date someone that fresh out of a failed relationship is probably not that committed themselves and there is a risk THEY will cheat on YOU.
I could go on and on, but my point is either I have 100% of your heart or I don't. I five 100% of myself to a relationship and I expect the same. If 100% of the space is filled, there is NO ROOM for a backup.
I'm sad. Does that mean that he already has doubts or problems about our relationships? Is my love not enough? What am I doing wrong? How can I be better? Why doesn't he address the issue instead of saying he has a plan B ready? Why a plan B, what is his relationship with her? How close are they? Is he already seeing her? Is his heart with her already?
Imma stop I could keep going, let's just say I would be very confused and sad.
That's really odd. I don't think it's wrong to have people in your life that you could totally see yourself dating while you're in a relationship, but something about already making up your mind about who you will date if this doesn't work out, let alone saying it out loud, is weird as hell.
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Dude, it is already over and she just isn't being honest with you. Start looking elsewhere.
Your not insecure. Her outright saying that was completely 100% insulting bs. At best she’s asking you to really step it up (with probably unrealistic expectations) but at worst she’s going to confidentially try to friéndzone after plunging the knife in your back. If she feels comfortable enough to insult you by saying this she will only do worse later.
If I were you I would just break up with her first. Tell her to run off to the next guy since he’s so much better. Mean it too. Be 100% ready to walk away and not look back.
How old is she anyway? Women 30 and older should definitely know better.Verrrry disrespectful. I would dump her on the spot. It just indicates that she was never really serious about you or at least has zero respect for the bond you have/had
Your girlfriend reminds me of a close friend's "girlfriend". Nasty bitch all around. She got pregnant, didn't bother telling him - and he would've been a good father & he was a good boyfriend to her, dumped him. He only knew she had ever been pregnant after she told him she'd gotten an abortion.
Such women - and men - like this should be sterilized. As they contribute nothing of value to society except showing they have no respect, no responsibility and lack empathy.Yea its disrespectful. Honest but wrong. Everyone knows who they’d go for in a worse case scenario. We just do 🤷♀️ but thats bit something to discuss with the person that you should be hoping things work out with anyways
I’ll guess, she’s much younger right?
There’s no way mature person would tell you this.It’s honest but disrespectful all it’s gonna do is ensure that you don’t work out because it’ll create discourse, distrust and resentment.
creates nothing but problems.Unless it's someone that's obviously a joke, than its offensive.
When they say that they have already cheated on you guaranteed. Run away and run quickly.
She's probably already boning the other guy.
I would be angry about it.
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