Is my boyfriend lying about wanting to start a family with me in the future?

[Anonymous]

I recently realized my boyfriend has been lying to me about wanting to start a family with me in the future. Ever since we moved in together he constantly keeps bringing up starting a family. he'll tell me in 2 to 3 months we can work on having a baby and now He changed his and said we should wait until next year. a month before we moved in together he brought up having a family and ejaculated inside of me the same night but then changed his mind the next morning and told me to take a plan b pill. Everytime I tell him we should end the relationship because we don't have the same future plans he'll keep telling me one day we will start a family together and he has the same future plans as me

[Vesuvius87]

Yes he's lying to you want starting a family. If all he's focusing on is the living together and telling you to continue using birth control, along with giving you vague answer without a specific timeframe then he's wasting your precious time. You're in your best years to find someone else.

**he'll keep telling me ONE DAY we will start a family together and he has the same future plans as me**
Oh yeah if we all live in ''ONE DAY'' as timeframe, which can lead to never. When is that one day going to be, in a year, two years or never? I fell for that trick. Don't become another woman that wasted her years on a vampire boyfriend that doesn't care about our time.

They have all the time to wait, they can take even 10+ years of their lives but we don't.

[Vesuvius87]

Keep in mind; while you're living together with him and have no kids... you guys aren't family. There is no commitment, there is nothing. He still has the advantage, still has his comfortable zone of having one foot out at anytime he breaks up and you'll be wasting your time.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he’s telling you what you want to hear and isn’t ready yet for children. Have you discussed why he’s not ready yet? Is there a practical reason like wanting to save more money or getting a career off the ground or finishing an education? Maybe he’s just scared. You both need to have an honest conversation about it. If you don’t mind me asking, what do you do for birth control in the meantime?

[MTC29]

He's telling you what you want to hear (having a brat) in order to keep you around... or I should say in order to keep you in bed.

How long you want to play his game is entirely up to you.

[bubblegunnn]

Watch out he only lands u on his sexual desire and i think he doesn't meant 'family' so much. He just tried to make u sure u guys gon be together as a family, so its ok if u guys have sex now. But na.. sex keep goin, n future keep delay