Guys, My boyfriend didn't text me all day, what should I do?

[Anu1010]

It's been 4 months since we're dating. We're in a Long Distance Relationship right now. I have told him twice already to initiate text and calls. He says he's trying as he is not a phone person and because of work stress. I send him good morning and good night text everyday. But, I didn't initiate text today and he didn't care to text yet. It's 8:30PM. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

You should text him and stop creating problems where none need exist.

You should also look into self love and validation etc because it isn't healthy to be dependent on recieving a text from someone in order to be ok.

[Anu1010]

I think so everyday and I don't mind initiating texts whenever he crosses my mind. He doesn't like phone calls, so I call him 2-3 times in a week. But the thing is, lately I'm feeling unloved. Although he assured me that it is nothing like that and that he's trying. I still feel, I'm the only one keeping this relationship alive and he is not making any effort.

[Opinion Owner]

Well you have to find a balance i suppose and if it isn't working for you then maybe you should try something or someone else.

[Anu1010]

You're right. I'll just give him sometime I guess. And in the meantime, like you said, I'll have to work on myself as well. That's important. Shouldn't let such things get the best of me. Thank you so much for your honest opinion.

[Guy13]

Call him…

[Guy13]

Are you well? I love the way you contact me daily… I mean…no worries-it’s busy world. Just Mae sure. VOICEMAIL

[Anu1010]

Can I just text him this instead? He hates phonecalls. Even when I was with him I noticed how much he despises getting a phonecall even from home. So I call him just 2-3 times a week.

[Guy13]

Voicemail…picks up: I was going to leave a voicemail BUT since you picked up…There is a risk that you exhaust him with all the communication and he moves on..,

[Anu1010]

Oh! We don't have the concept of voicemails here in India. Unfortunately 🥲

[Guy13]

Oh, I see… Don’t interrupt his Career processes. This an arranged caste relationship by Famiky?

[Anu1010]

No it's not. We met through online dating site in January. We met in Feb, March and just last month. Spent a lot of time together. Had a vacation. He's different when I'm around him and when I'm away. But at least he'd initiate texts before. From past a week he has just been distant. And when I asked him he said, he is working towards job switch (stressed about it), he joined his office music band, and plays TT with his friends. I feel left out in all this. He does reply whenever I text him, but doesn't question me, or ask about me. I thought I'll check if he initiates text, if I don't send him a good morning, but he didn't.

[Anu1010]

I called him and he received. I asked him like you told, to which he said that texting me didn't cross his mind as he was busy. I'm so confused about this relationship.

[Guy13]

You are exhausting him. I would back off before your Needy blows everything up. Let him lead…

[Anu1010]

Yes. I will do that. I'll back off a little more.

[HazyDaze63]

You set and expectation for him to text you first and now you're upset because for some reason he didn't. Setting rules like that sets you up for disappointment.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

https://www.youtube.com/embed/5LCvj6Z_LrA

Sound the alarms & call the authorities & have them issue an APB & a public informational broadcast.

[Anu1010]

Okay. I get it. It's not a big deal I guess.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Spam his phone.
My friends spam my phone being silly and that always gets my attention.

[Anu1010]

I do that, sometimes. But right now, my concern is, if he's truly interested in me or is it just me dragging this LDR? He does say he's trying, but those are just words and I don't see any action.

[TheSpaceGnome]

If he's truly interested you will know, he will want your attention all the time, and when with you he will have a big dumb grin on his face, but he won't be truly interested until he has already seen you naked, and knows everything you like/dislike, and knows what your hobbies are, your goals, and how you think, etc.

You can't love the unknown.

[Anu1010]

Well he knows all of that. We've stayed together several times. He acts different when he's around me and when he's away from me. He hates phone calls, that much I'm sure of. But these days, he doesn't initiate texts or gives dry replies. And only talks about himself over text when he has to. If I ask him, he says "you know how I am, I don't like being on my phone", or "I was busy so texting you didn't cross my mind" and that makes me want to question this relationship.

[TheSpaceGnome]

You aren't compatible, you need a person with matching relationship needs.

[Anu1010]

I guess you're right there.

[In_Trance]

Wait for him to message you

[Anu1010]

I asked him the reason, he said texting me didn't cross his mind as he was busy.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

He is sleeping with someone else.

[Anu1010]

No, he's not. As of now at least.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

I feel then he is not at all interested in wasting time on LDR.

[Anu1010]

I called him out for the same reason twice and he keeps reassuring me, that it's not like that. That he gets busy with stuff and texting me doesn't come in his mind. And he also says he's trying to do better.

[Anu1010]

So you see, I'm confused by his words and his actions

[Headstrongcrazylover]

LDR is pretty boring, it doesn't work at least for me.

[Headstrongcrazylover]

Think of moving together

[Anu1010]

Because of our current work situation, we are in LDR. he likes the city I work in, so he's trying to switch his job to come to my city but it'll take some time.

[spartan55]

Maybe chill out?

[Wise4myage]

Cuss his ass out!

[Jmmmfi4]

Oh boo hoo