I want to ask my girlfriend why she is very angry with me for 15 days. I apologized lots of times. I tried everything, but she hasn't replied to me and I am upset. What can I do?

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We both lives in different country that's why I cannot go front of her and apologize.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

If you don't even know what you did wrong, or even if you did something wrong, why in the world would you apologize? Do you not understand that doing so makes you look weak and pathetic, which everyone, but especially women, see as very unattractive?

But that's not even your biggest issue, which is that you believe that you were in a relationship with someone that you not physically around. That's a lie - a deception on yourself - and these relationships almost always fall before the distance problem is ever solved.

Grow some balls, recognize that your relationship was never real, and let it go. Take some time and get your mind right, and when you are ready, resolve to start going outside and meeting LOCAL women and asking them out. Do NOT spend any time trying to "meet" people online, and focus all of your efforts on LOCAL girls that you can spend time with IN PERSON. That's what an actual relationship is.

And then, do not apologize if you didn't do anything wrong. Have a moral center that you hold yourself accountable to, and if you mess up, THEN you apologize, but if you haven't, then don't. Stand up for yourself and don't be a pushover. Women WANT a man who will tell her NO, especially when she is wrong. They will not respect you if you let them have their way all the time, and especially if you don't rein them in when they get out of line (and women KNOW that they do so at times). This doesn't mean that you never do things for her or that she never gets her way - you need to communicate with her and always consider her desires and feelings, but you need to remain in control and sometimes, when appropriate, you need to be able to tell her NO.

There's no way to save your "relationship" (that was never real in the first place), that's clearly over. Accept that and move on, and make much better decisions going forward, and you will have much better relationships and avoid a lot of those problems.

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Because she probably met someone else or talking to someone else and she is trying to play a victim that you are this horrible person to justify her actions , Most people can’t admit to themselves that they are a piece of shit so it’s easier to point fingers and hold resentments at someone else to make themselves feel like they had every right to do what they are doing to play a victim when the reality of it is they are a piece of shit. 15 days is a long time for a partner to be angry at their partner , that just shows that they are selfish and only really care about themselves , Your best bet man is to tell her to go Fuck herself and that you aren’t going to be her punching bag anymore , if we can’t come to an agreement and compromise then you are a waste of my time , Value your self worth man and realize you deserve someone that wants to fight to be with you not someone that fights to be against you.

courtney06 · Accepted Answer

This doesn't sound healthy. I hate to break it to you, but 15 days is a long time and that is most likely a sign that she is no longer interested. Whatever it is that you did, please learn from it and do your best not to repeat it.

I personally don't tolerate getting romantically close to someone who can't communicate effectively when they are upset with me. I prefer if they are honest and can tell me they need space or no longer want to be with me, but I would do my best not to make them that upset in the first place. At the end of the day no one is entitled to forgive us or respond to us, but I choose wisely who I get close to and pay close attention to how they communicate especially when stressed.

What you can do is reach out one last time and ask if she wants to work things out and mention that if you don't hear from her then you will assume the relationship is over. You can wish her all the best. Leave out out any further apologies for now since you already have done that several times.

I hope this helped.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

Maybe she does not believe you are showing her positive attention or another person is in the picture.

AviatorTom · Answer

If you apologized many times, you KNOW why she is angry with you. Your question really is what can you do to get her to stop being angry, and the answer is not much. She has to do that. Best you can do is be supportive and loving and try to put whatever you did behind you. Stop apologizing and don't even bring it up. Hopefully, she'll eventually be able to stop being angry with you.

LovingLoverReturned · Answer

I agree with courtney06 ... It seems she is emotionally punishing you. Which is toxic. Being able to communicate as necessary while still angry is a necessary part of life. How old is she, 12?

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

No length of time. Stop texting her, stop calling her, because you're just making an ass out of yourself. If she's gonna be mad over something you apologized countless times, then she's not the one for you.

The distance doesn't help at all. However, what did you do that had her upset in the first place?

sheikalana · Answer

After 15 days I think she's not your girlfriend anymore. If you apologized and did everything and she's still upset send her a message saying that you're moving on because this is unacceptable and childish.

peedy · Answer

Oh I always hated that BS she upset and won't talk its like she's happy being that way that it's some kind of game to see how far you will go. But what she doesn't realize is its tearing you apert driving you nuts because you love her a you care about her and want to help but she won't let you
Been there done that and no more go get drunk with your friends and forget about her ignore her let her see you happy without her and see what happens
Good luck

MissDebra1 · Answer

sorry to say but, if she was truly angry with you... being a woman... shed be telling u what u did... shed be talking, makes me think she's just avoiding you on purpose for some reason.. using the im mad at you as a fake excuse...

dreamstar72 · Answer

A lot depends on the reason why she is angry at you. So basically it could be,
Annoyance Anger
Aggressive Anger
Temper Anger
Justifiable Anger
So give her time and stop trying to apologizing so much she has heard you.

Marshymallow · Answer

That’s a long time to be angry. What happened? Do you really not know why she’s mad? Or you’re not comfortable saying it here? Or maybe she’s just mad because she’s finding an excuse to dump you

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

LDR's dude... her being pissed off could easily be the guy next to her's influence. It could be her "new" friend's influence.

JessicaEarl · Answer

Break up with her. Sounds ridiculously immature and she’s wasting your time

bolverk · Answer

Do not apologise any longer if she cannot discus what is going on like an adult,  Go no contact until she responds first, research "Grey Rock" as it sounds as she is being manipulative.

Avicenna · Answer

Fobtcdebase yoursekf by continually doing it. Either she cools off and contacts you or she doesn’t. And if she doesn’t, you move in.

BCRanger10 · Answer

It might help to know what was said or done that's made her so upset.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

If you can't think of anything logical you did that would cause this much anger on her end, it's time to move on.

slatyb · Answer

Stop wasting time and meet a woman in your country.

EarthRealm · Answer

Both of you don’t know how to get along With others.  I’ve never had any Trouble getting along with girls.

driven159 · Answer

You know that it is form of abuse so it might be time to move on no need for immature acts she needs to grow up

Staximus · Answer

She's not your girlfriend if you don't see her in real life

pankyvic · Answer

U irritating her let her be for a wow she'll COME AROUND

lilpp · Answer

Lemme talk to her. Give me something like her ig or snap me bhi

Guy13 · Answer

The fury of the woman…

BubbaTech · Answer

Call her friend. Ask them. Then break up with her.

Anonymous · Answer

You don’t have a girlfriend. You have a pen pal.

Anonymous · Answer

Then leave her alone for now.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

What did you do?

boobliker · Answer

write to her!

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