i personally believe both have its pros and cons and no arrangement is the "better choice" but that's just me
If everyone could get laid as the hookup culture often promises, would people stop seeing the point in seeking romantic relationships?
I'm hoping that people are not so shallow as to think that hooking up is more worthwhile than having a meaningful, loving relationship with another human. There IS more to a relationship than just sex, in case no one knows this. Sometimes an embrace is more soulful than sex as well. In my case--I have known many people who have gone and are still going out with others just for sex. If you want love, then don't put some much emphasis on that part of the relationship. It makes me wonder how we got to this point--or whether we've always been this way and its just more apparent now.
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It depends on what the person values.
If they value meaning, fulfillment, love, intimacy, and connection, they will want a relationship.
If they want to chase instant gratification and adrenaline and the high of sex, then they may just want to hook up.
In short, it’s love versus sex.
Ideally, they should be together. But, some people like to keep them separate, or forget about love and just chase sex.
In the end, I think everyone needs love to feel fulfilled. Chasing sex in the absence of love is like trying fill an emotional void through substance use. Drugs can temporarily make someone feel good, but will they really bring true happiness and fulfillment? I view sex without love in a similar way.
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I think it does. More accurately I think it would limit a high level of investment in a relationship.
It is not just sex that is wanted in a relationship but also satisfying the human need to be loved and to love (include care in that). Loving & caring and being loved and cared for are longer term than sex.
I was surprised when a guy told me recently, he just goes to a brothel as he feels the need to. Surprised in that he didn't hide it. Yes, it isn't free but it is time efficient and has a fixed cost.
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I really don't like hookup culture. The whole idea scares me. I'm a sentimental person and I really have to get to know the person on a deeper level before wanting to sleep with them. I don't want my heart getting hurt or catching something from someone I shouldn't have trusted.
I think hookup culture is a dangerous idea for so many reasons. It's the reason so many guys get falsely accused of rape now a days too. You really need to know you can trust a person before jumping into bed with them
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No. Because I've wanted a romantic relationship since I was 5. And that was before I even knew about sex. Romance is a lifetime goal for me. It's my entire purpose in life. It's what drives me. I couldn't care less about sex. I only want sex because I'm horny and my body tells me to want it.
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No.
People would still want intimacy and companionship. Also, marriage, children, and knowing you won't be completely alone when you get older.
But a lot of people don't think about these things when they're young. Particularly for guys, usually the first thing on their mind is that they're horny. Second, even if hookups are available, sometimes the women they are interested don't do hookups. So this cause guys (and sometimes girls) to enter into romantic relationships, when that's not really what they are looking for.
Realizing you have other needs beyond that comes with age and maturity. -
modern hookup culture likely played a roll in the recent overturning on Roe v Wade in America. because a large amount of abortions happen due to causal sex encounters that neglect to use protection. more so then relationship partners not wanting children or abusive behavior. many people in exclusive relationships are likely to talk about if or when they desire to have children.
hookup culture also promotes the ability for many females to have sex on demand. because many males tend to be less picky when it comes to causal sex encounters. which causes many females to become entitled overtime thinking they can get any guy they want to be a relationship partner once their finally ready to settle down. but in reality many guys aren't likely to be in a long term relationship with a girl who's had double digit or more sexual partners. unless they themselves had done so or they are a simp / cuck. which leads to many females 30s+ being alone and/or pet parents who can't get many dates. - 493 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Nah. We already have hookup culture, but I know several hook ups that turned into actual relationships.
Some people won't seek out a partner, but they wouldn't have anyways. Others will seek out a partner, even if they got their sex fix elsewhere. And some won't even enjoy sex without first having that romantic bond.
Point is, everyone loves differently. What hook up culture provides to some, others won't care for.
There's always going to be romantics. - 1.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
I think less people would seek romantic relationships but it wouldn't stop. It currently has a negative effect on people who try to transition from hook up culture to finding a romantic partner because they picked up a bunch of immature toxic habits/behavior.
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I think it will make people to stop seeking romantic relationships for a long time but after that people will eventually feel exhausted about this rush and try to find someone who make them feel they are someone that can be cared emotionally too. Humans are ungrateful if they are in romantic relationships they want hookups. And if they hook up, they seek romantic relationships. The grass is always greener on the other side and humans get bored easily.
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We all have different needs. Some people need both the romantic and sexual aspects of life. Personally I’ve done both. I went a year and a half without a relationship and only hookups, and felt like I was deeply lacking something. And I’ve have sexless relationships, it wasn’t enough. So my needs are met with both romantic intimacy and sexual intimacy, not just one without the other.
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Yes sure at least as a guy because hook-ups satisfy you sexually and through friendships and other ways you get your emotional satisfaction.
So if everybody could have the chance to get laid regularly I think the majority of guys would prefer that because other than women guys don´t develop a deep connection to there sexual partner.
I therefore think the hookup culture suits guys better than women. - 329 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
The hook up culture doesn't work for women unless theyre in that mindset.
Generally women require a little more than just flick flick boom to get off.
Men in with this mindset tend to be very selfish sexually. There can be limited effort and unless he really wants to see her again he will enjoy that one time and move on. - 6.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
No, because being in a healthy, loving relationship is way superior to doing hookups (for starters, you get more sex in a relationship). But almost anyone can get a hookup if they aren't picky about who they have sex with.
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Lots of meaningless sex with randos, litterally giving away the most intimate part of yourself to someone that neither matters nor cares about you.
Or, keeping your intimacy and dignity to high-esteem and only sharing with someone who you not only deem worthy but also important to you. Thus building a relationship and becoming one with another.
Which do you like better? - 527 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Not really, the same person over and over is far superior than a new person all the time. Plus for non-sexual things, hookup people aren't great for... I don't really want to take a hookup person riding in the mountains or stuff like that.
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The nice thing is life is a variety and everyone is different so some match up in what they are looking for. That is what helps make life interesting.
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I'd still search for that special connection with someone nevertheless. So what if they invent ultrarealistic sex bots or I could get laid whenever I'd want! Physical touch won't keep me satisfied forever.
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Absolutely not. Having just ended an almost 20 yr relationship, the best part was having a best friend as a lover.
There is some part of me that loves getting laid, but craves the intimacy of it being with a person you feel was meant to be a part of your life, even if not forever. -
guys are slags the real slags arethem they go to the gals made them fuk naw they wana fuk guys and then guys wanna fuk them so guys wanan fuk so they jus care about pusss moist boys
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No i don't think so. There are people out there like me who would want to be intimate with one person for the rest of their lives
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Sure. People are horny and they don’t want the baggage. If it’s mutual and understood (and people kept safe with tests they openly share) I don’t see the problem for people to live like that.
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Actual research shows that teen sex, casual sex overall, abortion rates have all steadily declined since the turn of the century. -
Hookup Culture has always been here.
Only difference in relationships / marriages and hookups is about 6 months.
These relationships / marriages are longer term "hookups" that rarely last more than a year.
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