Is it disrespectful to talk to my boyfriends friends? Does he not trust me?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend loves to spend time with his friends and is really close with them. He had two best friends but now only one cause his other friend moved away. This friend is new and he just made friends with him. He was the same with both of them. I was introduced to them by him but nothing more. My boyfriend does not like me being alone with either one of them. He has them arms reached when im around and doesn't like when I talk to them. I speak to them and he gets frustrated and annoyed and wants me to go away. im only being friendly

[Screenwriter]

No it's not disrespectful. The fact that he doesn't trust EITHER of you, his friends OR you, and the fact that he becomes angry, isn't right.

It's normal and pleasant for a girlfriend to talk to and enjoy her boyfriend's friends, be they men or women. It's a great way to get to know your boyfriend, by knowing who he interacts with and likes besides you.

The fact that he doesn't seem to appreciate this in you or that he wants to stop it is a red flag. This guy doesn't sound rational or reasonable. You can try talking to him about this, but from the way he's acting, I think this is curtains for you and him. And good riddance.

[Emily_925]

Omg he sounds crazy u should watch out, that is really weird

[slatyb]

"Is it disrespectful to talk to my boyfriends friends?" No, it's not.

"... doesn't like when I talk to them." That's very controlling and should be a red flag for you. Think carefully about whether this relationship is good for you.

[TommyMountainFigure]

That's a red flag right there.

Possessiveness is a TERRIBLE trait. He needs to grow out of that as soon as possible, or he'll lose you or make your life hell assuming you stay with him!

[Jessica405]

No. It is his own insecurity issues that make him try to control you. Be careful. Try and stamp out this behaviour. It might get worse.

[FilmGuy93]

It's not a disrespect or trust thing, it's about having boundaries in your relationship. He doesn't want his platonic friendships with his bestfriends to be touched by his intimate relationship with you.

[Bratsondanielle]

Of course you should be able to talk to them. It's normal

[In_Trance]

Woild you want him to do this to you?
Can he talk to your friends the way you talk to his?

[Anonymous]

Very unhealthy.