Do You Care About Your Significant Other's Income?

[_deeznuts]

I see people on here complaining about how people often only crave money in a relationship. I personally don't care at all how much money they're making, as long as there is in effort being made.

[BlueStripedSoul]

"I personally don't care at all how much money they're making, as long as there is an effort being made."

Well said. 👏 That's what I believe too.

For me, I am not interested in living a life of opulence and living in a huge house with four luxury cars in the garage, wearing designer clothing, having lots of possessions, eating at three Michelin star restaurants and staying at luxury hotels, so having lots of money is not a concern or interest for me at all.

I'm a simple guy with a simple lifestyle and simple needs to be happy in life, so as long as she contributes in her own way, that's all I need. I'm not going to pass up true love for a little money.

[Anonymous]

Personally I don’t care how much money he makes. I care that he likes what he does for a living because I don’t want an unhappy man when he goes to work. His money is his, he worked and sweat for it so I won’t ask for any of it. If we start a family, then I think is fair we both share our income and expenses.

[Pinay_ako]

I will care if I’m the only one funding the household … 😑 We can’t live on love alone. But if we’re both working hard to pay bills and live a comfortable life together, we’re good regardless how much they make. We’re on it together

[constantine15]

All you need is love 😕

[Pinay_ako]

@constantine15 🤣 but love can’t pay bills

[constantine15]

I know ☹️

[AI Opinion]

It's no secret that money is a major source of stress and conflict in relationships. One of the most common questions couples fight about is money. More specifically, do you care about your significant other's income? For some people, it doesn't matter what their partner earns as long as they're happy. Others may feel like they need to be in a relationship with someone who earns a similar salary. And then there are those who believe that the man should be the breadwinner and the woman should stay at home.

So, what's the right answer? Unfortunately, there is no clear-cut answer. It really depends on the couple and what their values and priorities are. If you're wondering whether you should care about your partner's income, here are a few things to consider:

1. How important is money to you?
Some people place a high value on money and material possessions, while others couldn't care less about them. If you're someone who values money, then it's likely that you'll also care about your partner's income.

2. Do you have different spending habits?
If you're a spender and your partner is a saver, it's possible that you could clash over money. On the other hand, if you're both savers, you may not have any problems with money.
3. What are your long-term goals?Do you want to buy a house, have kids, retire early? If you have different long-term goals, it's important to discuss them and see if you're on the same page.

4. Do you have debt?If you or your partner has a lot of debt, it can put a strain on your relationship. Money problems are one of the leading causes of divorce, so it's important to be on the same page about your finances.

5. Are you comfortable talking about money?
Some people are uncomfortable talking about money, which can make it difficult to discuss financial issues in a relationship. If you're not comfortable talking about money, it may be a sign that you need to work on your communication skills. No matter what your answer is, it's important to be honest with yourself and your partner. Money is a sensitive subject, so it's crucial to have open and honest conversations about it.

[ArtemisSilver]

I think that each partner should encourage the other to challenge themselves to be productive as best they can.

Doesn't need to be money persay. But I think people are happier when their education matches their intellect, and their job makes good use of that education.

A big exception to this is child care, which is a job in and itself, I'd be happy if my partner did just that rather than working.

If you're clever and hard working enough I'd suggest self employment over a job with a boss though. Being a wagie sucks.

[Zeus_66]

Working together brings happiness in a real marriage; not money. You're spot on. Effort and dedication is far more important than actual income numbers. That said, I'm sure no reasonable, educated person would work for pennies based on academic credentials and experience, but that's for another discussion.

Enjoy the day!

[_deeznuts]

ty~ you too!

[Anonymous]

For most men no we don’t. Because a majority of us have been raised to take care of your family. Women on the other hand tend to care how much their partner makes. There’s some exceptions to both sides. But most men don’t. I could give a rat’s ass if she worked at McDonalds, so long as she looks hot doing it. Of course that may be the downfall sometimes if you’re only seeing her for her like rather than as a whole that she ends up leaving you but takes everything lol hopefully a man has looked beyond her looks to realize yes she’s a potential wife who isn’t just out for financial gain. It just means free McDonalds for me. I guess women may look at it from a couple point of views. One could be from a family point of view. Meaning if we have kids will he be able to still support us if I don’t work for a while, maybe even a few years till the kids go to school. Or it could be for wealth as far as purchasing things cause she’s just I to money.

[TruthBringer]

I care to see her financially stable because I care for her well-being and having her not be in a stressful position of not being able to pay bills. I don't actually care whether she got a large sum of money as a gift from her rich grandparents or the amount she is about to inherit. What I care about is to see her be financially stable to a point she can spend money without counting every cent, but at the same time doesn't have her eyes on my money.

[CubsterShura]

I certainly care, I wouldn't marry a guy who doesn't have a stable job making enough to provide for a family. But of course money isn't stable all the time so in the future if he goes broke I don't think I would leave him for that reason. And this is strictly talking about an arranged marriage.

[Marshymallow]

To be realistic at some point you’d have to care about money in a relationship especially if you want to plan to a future together; move in together and whatever other goal…


I wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn't have nothing and doesn’t make any effort to make a living.

[Jemini_Crocket]

I only care whether my partner is happy or at least content with his job and whether he is contributing. I don't want a jobless guy though, he needs to have a job of mostly any kind. My latest boyfriend was a very simple contruction worker for example.

My sister used to pay everything in her last relationship, her ex drained her of all the money and energy. Very common these days.

[Midnight_Kiss]

Only to the extent that I refuse to pay for someone elses keep while they bring nothing to the table.

My ex earned substantially more than I do and I had to carry him financially through the 2009 recession and until he got back to where he was at two years later, I also stupidly paid for every holiday, day out etc but didn't realize until we split after nine years, I'm never being anyone's personal ATM again.

[IveGotNoName]

Yes. To the extent that I want him to have an income that he gets from a job that he is passionate about. The level of income I couldn't care less about though. I have no problem making more money, however I don't plan on being one of those stressed out overworked people either, I want us both to contribute to the extent we have financial stability and we have the time to live a life outide of work.

[IveGotNoName]

Outside*

[Subarugirl]

Considering that both my husbands and my income is crucial to our livelihood and ability to provide for our family, I do care about his income as much as I care about my own and the impact that has on our ability to provide for our son, and our future.

[Blackcosmo]

I don't care about hew much money they're making because I'll probably have a fine job if I work hard. It'll be a bonus if they got good education and were making good money but I wouldn't need it.

[Blackcosmo]

How* not hey lol

[_deeznuts]

oh lmao

[Fireguy17]

No, we keep our finances separate.
There is a fairly large disparity in our incomes.
We put x amount of money into the household account every month to cover the bills.
That way we can spend what we want on whatever.
I don't agree with her spending habits, so this way there aren't any arguments about money.

[Anonymous]

I make 50,000 at one job. I have another that is 80,000 a year. I own a small business that made 150,000 it's first year. I do such as to keep busy.

I am more concerned about some douchebag learning I make money & him sitting on his ass doing nothing.

[monkeynutts]

It should be a partnership. And I preferably date a girl that is not money hungry, but frugal, likes to grow her own vegetables. Not into flashy cars. Has a tiny nice house, modern tech, but nothing lavish. Not into jewelry, that is a big one for me I could never date a woman that likes diamonds.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I don't so much care about how much they're making as I care that they're:
- employed or otherwise bringing in money to contribute
- ambitious
- an equitable contributor to our household

[boredgal]

as long as we can pay the bills with both our incomes combined, give our kids what they need and want, then I guess it doesn't really matter to me how much my partner makes.

[midnightmoon05]

As long as he is ambitious and willing to work. I can do the rest to get him to go far and be young his ability to make lots of money. I am doing just that.

[123TacocaT321]

If we have been dating/together for less than a few years probably not.
If we have been dating a long time and she is freeloading off me it's time to get a job or get out.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I absolutely agree with you. I do not care what job they have or how much they make as long as they are working full time.

I am in a relationship, I am not a parent supporting a child.

[Reaper1985]

if I'm expected to cover the bulk of the bills then would require they contribute to the relationship in other ways. otherwise so long as they could support themselves and/or spilt bills/chores with me I don't really care how much they make.

[BCRanger10]

Yes and no. I don't feel insecure or jealous about it. She's made more than me ever since we've met. However, if she were to quit her job, I'd have to look for another job and/or get a second.

[Kaamraj]

As a man who is in a traditional "orthodox" country, I dont care, well actually I do because her income should not be more than me, it should be up to 50% of what I earn.

[shaysh87]

Personally I do not care because I make enough money. But the truth is vast majority of poor women would care about a man's income.

[DoctorSex]

Judging by the female responses, I think you're very right about that.

Kind regards,

[shaysh87]

@DoctorSex

Its usually if they are very poor or under poverty. Financially stable women are more flexible about a man's income. In other words, she can afford to date any man she wants without placing too much importance on his income.

[Slartybartfast]

I paid %100 of all the bills even when she was working. She never payed for anything herself.

When I switched jobs and my income dropped she left.

[FunkyMonkee]

Nope. I'm not a greedy person. If she's got lots of cash, great! That doesn't mean I'm ever gonna see any of it! It's her cash! If SHE wants to give me some or spend some on me, that's up to her.

[JustinTheGreat]

Somewhat. I don’t care if my partner is rich or not. But I also refuse to date someone who doesn’t have a job and expects me to pay all their bills and everything else for them.

[MikeInHawaii]

If a woman makes $30,000 and lives off $25,000, that’s fine. If she make $200,000 per year and spends $250,000, that’s a problem. If she hasn’t made $100,000 in her life, but can squander a man’s six figure salary, she might be my ex-sister-in-law.

[FilmGuy93]

I care about it to the extent that I don't want her actively losing money. As long as she isn't a persistent financial liability, I'm fine with that.

[FreyaRed]

Unless he isn't a burden for my wallet, I don't really care. I'm financially self-sufficient and I demand this from my potential partner as well.

[Kabluie]

I don't. I had a previous girlfriend that was jobless. We were fine living together, she was studying for law school and I was bringing home the bacon.

[erandal]

Nope, as long a they have enough to buy the crap they want instead of raiding the main income (mine) for it.

[IJhonnyI]

If I had a S. O no I wouldn't cause that's not why I had feeling for her in the first place whoever that will be with my anti social ass 😂

[sheikalana]

As long as he is hard working and successful I'm okay with it. When we were dating I never asked my boyfriend how much did he make but I've noticed he was a very hard working man.

[Ukrainianbuddafly]

No, as long as he is utilizing himself and is there to help me since we live together. I make a good living and my priorities aren't with money

[Agape93]

Nope. Meet your financial obligations and don't just expect me to cover things for you or buy them, I won't unless I choose to do so as an initiative.

[Kaneki05]

Considering I am on Universal credit that would be hypocritical anyway. But no of course not. Longs if the other person isn't always trying to borrow money to the point it is just them living off you then no.

[letuswaltzforthedead]

Fam, anyone who makes less than 380,679 dollars annually is a walking red flag and you know better smh. Personally though, I don't really care. If they want to be the breadwinner, they gotta have bread. If they don't, they dont.

[bakajana]

As long as we got enough money to live properly it doesn't affect me

[JohnK123]

I worry about my moms income

and look at all the responses whoa r u famous

[_deeznuts]

I am very famous

[JohnK123]

Yesh

[Fuentes]

No because I make enough but should she know how many works yeah, I won't date a girl who has no idea how many works or how it comes and has no idea how to pay bills or to Save money for things at all.

[bigpauly]

I want to marry a billionaire so I can have a mansion and cool stuff

[_deeznuts]

very rad

[bigpauly]

I thought so too. I’ll let you borrow my private jet when I do

[_deeznuts]

im also going to borrow your house

[bigpauly]

You can use the smaller one

[_deeznuts]

ill borrow your significant other then

[bigpauly]

Ok but no trying to take any of my stuff

[_deeznuts]

deal

[dustybiker]

Yes money matters. But I think it’s more important they are happy doing what they do.

[laurieluvsit]

No, but I like energetic people.

Laziness is appalling to me.

[Bmories99]

No, my spouse can choose whether she wants to work or not. Ultimately it's a decision that's made together.

[Man-O-Metal]

No. If we make enough to support our life together, that's all I care about.

[Belgie]

No. There are more important things like whether she feels safe, secure, loved, respected, etc.

[glennos89]

No not at all as long as she's carrying her part in a equal relationship it totally doesn't matter for me

[TacosRAwesome]

I don't care about how much he earns but I do care that he earns enough to afford his chosen lifestyle.

[urgrandpa]

I find money an extra bonus, but It's not a requirement.

[GreatnessBack]

No as long as they make money or are able to make money.

Times are too hard out here to be single income.

[KostasKouvalis]

To an extent. I don't wanna have to be paying for everything. I care more about how she manages her finances.

[HaveNoName]

That is HER income to spend whatever way she likes. I take take it as MY responsibility to provide for rhe family.

[Creampiekarl420]

No she doesn’t work at all and Ik I may never live to enjoy the wealth I acquired but she will and our children and grandchildren that makes it worth it to me

[bamesjond0069]

Yes its highly highly important that a womans income is little to none or were just casual. Its not right for women to work outside the home or for someone else to be boss. Not ok.

[exitseven]

Not really. We are paying our bills and things seem to be going good.

[CallmeTheKnight]

No, but I am concerned about the ways they manage their money

[Anonymous]

I don't care about how much she earns, but I do care about whether she respects me and treats me well. Unfortunately, the two are often strongly correlated.

[Anonymous]

I don't care either tbh as long as they are making an effort my issues would be if they asked to borrow money a lot cause they couldn't live within their means and also if they expected me to pay for most things.

[hostboy__fastestlaps]

Never. But I do look into graduating from a low paying virtual sales advertiser job at a car shop to an actual career

[bubblegunnn]

Deffo not.. as long as he can live his life w his money