Do You Care About Your Significant Other's Income?

[_deeznuts]

I see people on here complaining about how people often only crave money in a relationship. I personally don't care at all how much money they're making, as long as there is in effort being made.

[BlueStripedSoul]

"I personally don't care at all how much money they're making, as long as there is an effort being made."

Well said. 👏 That's what I believe too.

For me, I am not interested in living a life of opulence and living in a huge house with four luxury cars in the garage, wearing designer clothing, having lots of possessions, eating at three Michelin star restaurants and staying at luxury hotels, so having lots of money is not a concern or interest for me at all.

I'm a simple guy with a simple lifestyle and simple needs to be happy in life, so as long as she contributes in her own way, that's all I need. I'm not going to pass up true love for a little money.

[Anonymous]

Personally I don’t care how much money he makes. I care that he likes what he does for a living because I don’t want an unhappy man when he goes to work. His money is his, he worked and sweat for it so I won’t ask for any of it. If we start a family, then I think is fair we both share our income and expenses.

[Pinay_ako]

I will care if I’m the only one funding the household … 😑 We can’t live on love alone. But if we’re both working hard to pay bills and live a comfortable life together, we’re good regardless how much they make. We’re on it together

[constantine15]

All you need is love 😕

[Pinay_ako]

@constantine15 🤣 but love can’t pay bills

[constantine15]

I know ☹️

[Artificial Intelligence]

It's no secret that money is a major source of stress and conflict in relationships. One of the most common questions couples fight about is money. More specifically, do you care about your significant other's income? For some people, it doesn't matter what their partner earns as long as they're happy. Others may feel like they need to be in a relationship with someone who earns a similar salary. And then there are those who believe that the man should be the breadwinner and the woman should stay at home.

So, what's the right answer? Unfortunately, there is no clear-cut answer. It really depends on the couple and what their values and priorities are. If you're wondering whether you should care about your partner's income, here are a few things to consider:

1. How important is money to you?
Some people place a high value on money and material possessions, while others couldn't care less about them. If you're someone who values money, then it's likely that you'll also care about your partner's income.

2. Do you have different spending habits?
If you're a spender and your partner is a saver, it's possible that you could clash over money. On the other hand, if you're both savers, you may not have any problems with money.
3. What are your long-term goals?Do you want to buy a house, have kids, retire early? If you have different long-term goals, it's important to discuss them and see if you're on the same page.

4. Do you have debt?If you or your partner has a lot of debt, it can put a strain on your relationship. Money problems are one of the leading causes of divorce, so it's important to be on the same page about your finances.

5. Are you comfortable talking about money?
Some people are uncomfortable talking about money, which can make it difficult to discuss financial issues in a relationship. If you're not comfortable talking about money, it may be a sign that you need to work on your communication skills. No matter what your answer is, it's important to be honest with yourself and your partner. Money is a sensitive subject, so it's crucial to have open and honest conversations about it.

[ArtemisSilver]

I think that each partner should encourage the other to challenge themselves to be productive as best they can.

Doesn't need to be money persay. But I think people are happier when their education matches their intellect, and their job makes good use of that education.

A big exception to this is child care, which is a job in and itself, I'd be happy if my partner did just that rather than working.

If you're clever and hard working enough I'd suggest self employment over a job with a boss though. Being a wagie sucks.

[Zeus_66]

Working together brings happiness in a real marriage; not money. You're spot on. Effort and dedication is far more important than actual income numbers. That said, I'm sure no reasonable, educated person would work for pennies based on academic credentials and experience, but that's for another discussion.

Enjoy the day!

[_deeznuts]

ty~ you too!

[Anonymous]

For most men no we don’t. Because a majority of us have been raised to take care of your family. Women on the other hand tend to care how much their partner makes. There’s some exceptions to both sides. But most men don’t. I could give a rat’s ass if she worked at McDonalds, so long as she looks hot doing it. Of course that may be the downfall sometimes if you’re only seeing her for her like rather than as a whole that she ends up leaving you but takes everything lol hopefully a man has looked beyond her looks to realize yes she’s a potential wife who isn’t just out for financial gain. It just means free McDonalds for me. I guess women may look at it from a couple point of views. One could be from a family point of view. Meaning if we have kids will he be able to still support us if I don’t work for a while, maybe even a few years till the kids go to school. Or it could be for wealth as far as purchasing things cause she’s just I to money.

[TruthBringer]

I care to see her financially stable because I care for her well-being and having her not be in a stressful position of not being able to pay bills. I don't actually care whether she got a large sum of money as a gift from her rich grandparents or the amount she is about to inherit. What I care about is to see her be financially stable to a point she can spend money without counting every cent, but at the same time doesn't have her eyes on my money.

[CubsterShura]

I certainly care, I wouldn't marry a guy who doesn't have a stable job making enough to provide for a family. But of course money isn't stable all the time so in the future if he goes broke I don't think I would leave him for that reason. And this is strictly talking about an arranged marriage.

[Marshymallow]

To be realistic at some point you’d have to care about money in a relationship especially if you want to plan to a future together; move in together and whatever other goal…


I wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn't have nothing and doesn’t make any effort to make a living.

[Jemini_Crocket]

I only care whether my partner is happy or at least content with his job and whether he is contributing. I don't want a jobless guy though, he needs to have a job of mostly any kind. My latest boyfriend was a very simple contruction worker for example.

My sister used to pay everything in her last relationship, her ex drained her of all the money and energy. Very common these days.

[Midnight_Kiss]

Only to the extent that I refuse to pay for someone elses keep while they bring nothing to the table.

My ex earned substantially more than I do and I had to carry him financially through the 2009 recession and until he got back to where he was at two years later, I also stupidly paid for every holiday, day out etc but didn't realize until we split after nine years, I'm never being anyone's personal ATM again.

[IveGotNoName]

Yes. To the extent that I want him to have an income that he gets from a job that he is passionate about. The level of income I couldn't care less about though. I have no problem making more money, however I don't plan on being one of those stressed out overworked people either, I want us both to contribute to the extent we have financial stability and we have the time to live a life outide of work.

[IveGotNoName]

Outside*

[Subarugirl]

Considering that both my husbands and my income is crucial to our livelihood and ability to provide for our family, I do care about his income as much as I care about my own and the impact that has on our ability to provide for our son, and our future.

[Blackcosmo]

I don't care about hew much money they're making because I'll probably have a fine job if I work hard. It'll be a bonus if they got good education and were making good money but I wouldn't need it.

[Blackcosmo]

How* not hey lol

[_deeznuts]

oh lmao

[Fireguy17]

No, we keep our finances separate.
There is a fairly large disparity in our incomes.
We put x amount of money into the household account every month to cover the bills.
That way we can spend what we want on whatever.
I don't agree with her spending habits, so this way there aren't any arguments about money.

[Anonymous]

I make 50,000 at one job. I have another that is 80,000 a year. I own a small business that made 150,000 it's first year. I do such as to keep busy.

I am more concerned about some douchebag learning I make money & him sitting on his ass doing nothing.

[monkeynutts]

It should be a partnership. And I preferably date a girl that is not money hungry, but frugal, likes to grow her own vegetables. Not into flashy cars. Has a tiny nice house, modern tech, but nothing lavish. Not into jewelry, that is a big one for me I could never date a woman that likes diamonds.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

I don't so much care about how much they're making as I care that they're:
- employed or otherwise bringing in money to contribute
- ambitious
- an equitable contributor to our household

[boredgal]

as long as we can pay the bills with both our incomes combined, give our kids what they need and want, then I guess it doesn't really matter to me how much my partner makes.

[midnightmoon05]

As long as he is ambitious and willing to work. I can do the rest to get him to go far and be young his ability to make lots of money. I am doing just that.

[123TacocaT321]

If we have been dating/together for less than a few years probably not.
If we have been dating a long time and she is freeloading off me it's time to get a job or get out.

[Aerissa_Jade]

I absolutely agree with you. I do not care what job they have or how much they make as long as they are working full time.

I am in a relationship, I am not a parent supporting a child.

[Reaper1985]

if I'm expected to cover the bulk of the bills then would require they contribute to the relationship in other ways. otherwise so long as they could support themselves and/or spilt bills/chores with me I don't really care how much they make.