not in a nosy and overprotective way, but it feels like he’s interviewing me, especially while texting. Question after question and he rarely talks about himself. It makes me feel like I’m dominating the conversation and talking ab myself which I don’t like. Why does he do this?
Who knows. Here's some possibilities:
- He's a very curious person; or he's particularly curious about you.
- He's really enjoying having a girlfriend, and an 'eager beaver'.
- He feels more comfortable deflecting and keeping the focus on someone else. Perhaps he's not confident enough to share things about himself, for fear of judgment; or he believes that it's magnanimous to focus on others, so that he doesn't get seen as conceited.
- He's hyperactive, lots of energy (too much for some), could even be ADHD, and his mind works like this, so it spills out of him often. When he's interested in something specific, he goes all in. When he's not, he's disengaged.
- He's staying on his phone to avoid doing other things which he knows he should be doing (school work, work, chores, etc.)
Whatever the reason, you can just tell him (in person, NOT over text), "Hey, you know what, I appreciate you asking me so many questions, it shows you care, but I honestly don't need to talk about myself that much. I want to get to know you too. Even if I don't ask questions, it's not 'cause I'm not interested, it's really more because you keep asking me, there's no logical place for me to interject. How about if you answer your questions, for yourself, too? That could be fun."
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I think honestly he probably wants you to be the center of the relationship and maybe isn’t able to maintain conversations to good levels so he keeps asking so he can make you feel like he’s interested in you.
I suggest you to talk directly to him, asking why he’s so poor of informations about himself, telling him you want to know about his thoughts.
Questions can be a good thing. Shows interest. However if that's all the person is doing... Then that's weird. It wouldn't feel like a casual conversation in that case. More like an interview like you said or an interrogation 😂
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Perhaps, you should have your own written list of question for him?
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