How do I tell my boyfriend that he doesn't have to be scared of hurting me?

[Anonymous]

I asked my boyfriend to spank me, but he is nervous to even try. How do I tell him that he doesn't have to be scared to hurt me, or that I'd even want it to hurt; without sounding like a weirdo?

[Jessica405]

Have a safe word that both of you know. Then tell him to go slow and build up. He will soon get to know your limit. Make sure that if you say the safe word you can trust him to stop immediately.

[jennyjenjen98]

Grab an implement and demonstrate to him how hard you can take it by self spanking

[Gagname]

Great answer.

[BarryLiverstone]

Has the intimacy been vanilla to this point or have you all explored other kinks so far? To me it sounds like he lacks some experience and it concerned you will drift away if he hurts you

[genericname85]

here's a funny idea: why not show him what you want by doing to him what you want to be done to you?

[Asker]

Because he'd hate it lol. I want it to hurt a fair bit, and he hates pain. Though I guess I could show him a video.

[genericname85]

well he doesn't have to love pain xD just know how hard he should do.

[In_Trance]

You tell him face to face, something like "You don't have to be scared of hurting me"

[Asker]

Yes.. I tried that.

[Anonymous]

Tell him to playfully spank you.