I told my boyfriend he's a boring boyfriend... is that's ok?

[freedeelew23]

Im a very expressive person.. so i told my boyfriend he's boring... i been with him over a year so nothing has changed cus we never went out a lot... so maybe im irritated with the whole boring guy thing now.. its starting to get on my nerves... my boyfriend cousin girlfriend told me one day that i should find out his off day & she went on & on.. i just let her talk meaning i didn't really respond to her bc i don't want drama.. i told my boyfriend... i feel single cus we don't see each other very often & i tld him maybe he doesn't like to do anything, but text all the time & thats extremely boring.. he didn't say much besides he said he probably will take me out this week if im off.. is this rude to say or what? but i feel if he doesn't start stepping up he gne loose me

[cookienick]

Seriously like if you need to maintain and continue the relationship just go talk to him face to face and bring up the topic about this boring thing. Actually its not boring out someone, the name is an unhealthy relationship. And you can't just blame your sweetheart because that's not just right. I mean seriously, think about him also, maybe he is busy with work or something else.
So what I say is you should find out the reason why he is not interested in the relationship or maybe it could be your fault that you are not putting much effort to make the relationship running.
**don't always expect the guy to run the relationship because both should make some effort to fun the relationship. If one side is not supporting to the relationship, I'm sorry you have to make a decision
Good luck ^^

[freedeelew23]

Stick to the question all that extra stuff u sayn is very irrelevant cus if u knew my boyfriend & he's very upfront with me the same exact way.. im his 1st serious relationship.. usually he get friendzoned by a lot of women so im being upfront & trying to work with him instead cus apparently he dnt kno & i put in a way of understanding cus he said im correct & we going out this weekend

[cookienick]

Like duh!! I don't know your boyfriend, that's why I gave number of guess which might have happend and you took it as irrelevant stuff.. lol 😂
Well so sas that it doesn't sound like a serious relationship plus I doubt with your attitude no one will stand with you... Don't get me wrong... Becaue like look at your own replies... doesn't matter if this is his first serious relation just fix it :)

[cookienick]

Just you know what? Get over with it or fix it.. voilà problem solved.
Sorry about your attitude shit and all I said... didn't mean it.

[freedeelew23]

That's all im saying is its has to be said because apparently he doesn't know how & his own mother even said he doesn't spend time with me like suppose to

[Applefan1]

People can be very expressive but that still does not give them the right to be rude. Like another GAGer said relationships are a two way street. You could have just said you would like to do something together. You could have talked to him about it in a respectful way instead of being rude about it. You where harsh and he would have every right to be mad with you over the way you went about this.

[freedeelew23]

U clearly don't kno my boyfriend... im always straight up with.. im the most serious relationship he's ever had so he told me im right & we going out this weekend...& he's use to me begin very upfront cus he do the same thing to me

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's rude to say that anyone let alone a boyfriend. Why not just tell him that you would like to see each other a bit more and do more things together. Why don't you initiate some things to do together instead of leaving everything up to him. You both need to come together to improve the situation.

[phanindra554plus]

This ^^
I like this very much because I think this is a perfect idea 😊

[freedeelew23]

y'all dnt kno my boyfriend he's jus as upfront with me & my exact words are" ... these are my exact words "U can't keep on working like that tho.. u gotta enjoy things sometimes... u being a boring boyfriend cus all we do is text all the time & thats extremely boring "... his response was " yea it is & ill take u out when im off work"

[freedeelew23]

We must be different from different cultures cus my boyfriend is jus upftont with me.. if u met you'd be like wtf cus he rude af & say watever on his mind.. matter of fact i get it from him lmao

[HoneyButterCup525]

Thats not somthing to say to your partner..

You should s'y somthing positive like "hey i think we should both spend more time with eachother" or " hey lets have some fun together why dont we try out somthing new This weekend"

[GunnerGirl]

The way you said it was a bit harsh...
You could say something like that you miss being with him and would like to spend more time together apart from just texting

[freedeelew23]

Yes but i didn't say the exact words u boring as hell dude lol... these are my exact words "U can't keep on working like that tho.. u gotta enjoy things sometimes... u being a boring boyfriend cus all we do is text all the time & thats extremely boring "... his response was " yea it is & ill take u out when im off work"

[OrdinaryGentleman]

No it is not ok. Expecting him to do something for you is a double standard in and of itself. You can lead a horse to water but you can't make the horse drink it. I realized its best when you put in your own effort and begin to make the relationship better, while not expecting the other person to do the same.

[freedeelew23]

Ummm u clearly dnt kno my boyfriend.. he's 23 never had a serious relationship & we've been together over a year & he's just as upfront with me & when i told him he agreed & said yes it true & im right & we going out this weekend..& i explain it to him in way that was very understanding

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Of course I know your boyfriend! Me and him used to date all the tyyymmmmmm:D What are you saying first you were saying he was treating you bad then now he's agreeing with you?

[freedeelew23]

Hell i said he boring & im tired of texting.. u assume i said he treating me bad...

[OrdinaryGentleman]

I already gave you an answer in the beginning, just stop talking to me and don't read what I first said, your brain may hurt from too much thought.

[freedeelew23]

Bitch noone told ur ass to comment to begin with... this my post!!

[OrdinaryGentleman]

Bitch who told your ass to comment on my comment about your post

[OrdinaryGentleman]

:D
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[Anonymous]

You're an asshole.
You can have expectations, you can be disappointed. Find someone that meets your expectations, don't tear him down for not being what you pictured.

If you really don't like someone at the core of their being, just dump him.
Saying hurtful things isn't being "expressive", it's irresponsible and immature.

Move on.

[freedeelew23]

Haha im his 1st serious relationship & clearly u dnt kno my man cus he's just as upfront with me

[ArabianPwincess197]

No that was mean. If he said you're a lousy girlfriend. Would you like it

[freedeelew23]

Yes but i didn't say the exact words u boring as hell dude lol... these are my exact words "U can't keep on working like that tho.. u gotta enjoy things sometimes... u being a boring boyfriend cus all we do is text all the time & thats extremely boring "... his response was " yea it is & ill take u out when im off work"

[ThisDudeHere]

This text was boring and I didn't want to read. But to answer your main question then @ArabianPwincess197 say it best - what if he said you were bad or something?

[ArabianPwincess197]

Thankyou

[freedeelew23]

Lol y'all are funny... y'all do not kno my boyfriend he say some off the wall shit to me... he's very upfront with me also... he mean af & i tell him that all the time & he just laughs

[ThisDudeHere]

Then why the bloody hell are you still with him?

[freedeelew23]

We definitely are not from the same culture... closed mouths don't get fed... esp if u dealing with a guy whose never had a serious relationship... either u get with the program or get left... tough love its called

[ThisDudeHere]

What? The only thing I'm seeing here is that you two have a shitty relationship as people have already pointed out but you're making lame excuses. It's very simple: - if you two treat each other like shit - leave.

[Lissy967]

I think that was really harsh to say. You could just say "Hey, I miss spending time with you! We should go out or something!" and would achieve the same.

[Octavion]

You could try setting up a date if he's not doing it. That was kind of uncalled for unless he's absolutely refusing to do activities with you.

[freedeelew23]

Ummm duhh thats why im telling him what im telling him lol... we going but u must understand my boyfriend say off the wall stuff to me all the time lol

[Sexualchrist]

Of course its OK. How else would he know.
You should tell him he needs to step it up or he can kiss your sweet arse goodbye.

[freedeelew23]

Thats my mindset... closed mouths don't get nothing lol.. gotta ask for what u want... he's just as upfront with me tho lmao

[Sexualchrist]

Well there you go. Sounds like a healthy relationship to me.

[Anonymous]

Wow go with another guy and stop wasting his time because you're going to end up cheating on him I mean "lonely" and end up blaming him for you not able to close your legs

[freedeelew23]

Srry boo im no hoe... ima virgin & so is he... he only had a few girlfriends & im the most serious one he's ever had

[freedeelew23]

So its my best to teach him what i like & dislike

[Anonymous]

It wasn't exactly ok. Relationships are a two way street. Maybe you're not that using yourself.

[Opinion Owner]

*amusing

[Anonymous]

Why should he change for you? Why don't you change for him?

[freedeelew23]

U dnt kno that sweetheart stick to the question cus u stepping into unknown territory by that statement

[Opinion Owner]

Whatever. I don't care to know that territory. Gosh if a girl texted me like that I wouldn't be interested either

[freedeelew23]

He just as rude & upfront probably worse lol

[Opinion Owner]

Well sorry but I don't think that relationship could last like that. Tell him to make time

[freedeelew23]

U prob boring also lol

[freedeelew23]

Oh now u on the same page... exactly why i said what i said to him.. he's, too comfortable with me & thinks ima stick around regardless

[Opinion Owner]

Boring depends on who you ask

[Figleaf]

Sounds like you've nagged his ass to death.

[freedeelew23]

Nah after i told him about it.. he said ok & he agreed with me & he's taking me Friday

[Figleaf]

Kudos... have a good time.

[Nathand]

he needs to dump your ass in a garbage can.

[freedeelew23]

Wishful thinkn u got there, but im bae so i ain't going nowere lol & if i do im happy with or without a man

[Nathand]

very typical...