So we met on a dating app and he asked me to be his girlfriend 4 months ago. A good friend of mine found him still on the dating app and she told me/showed me evidence of his dating profile still on the app and to top it all off he has himself as single. He goes on every day. I confronted him and he said he's only looking for friends... on a dating app and also he's literally only talking to girls. I know he doesn't want to be friends with guys because he hates other guys. Its an obvious disrespect slap to my face, I'm very upset. I told him he deletes the app or we are done. He acted like I was overreacting like it isn't a big deal and he got upset with me. Do you think I'm overreacting also I'm honestly thinking about ending it now like I can't move past this.
While I empathize with you and think this is a somewhat reasonable request, this old adage holds true:
>>> Until you are married, you aren't.
That means you are free to find your future spouse. However, what you want is some form of commitment and this is more or less reasonable that you want his dating app profile removed. At the same time, it's not your business.
Perhaps, instead, fight fire with fire. You have YOUR dating app profile uploaded and, indirectly, let him know. For instance, have fun and sit with him and SHARE your dating app experiences. So, as you see who might be interested in him on the app on his phone, then you show HIM who might be interested in you in your dating app on your phone. He might not like that and get jealous... THEN he'd get why you were upset.
At the same time, I wouldn't worry about it.
33 years ago, I was dating this gorgeous blonde at our sausage party STEM school. Of course, she would be hit on via the social media of the day (IRC). But, I didn't care. I was secure enough in our relationship (she was a senior, I was a grad student, the guy hitting on her was a freshman) that it didn't really bother me. If she wanted to leave me, then she'd leave me (which she did, in fact do, but not because of another guy). But I was confident in my ability to keep her and she never strayed and neither did I because I was madly in love with her and she knew it.
So, really, don't worry about this.
If your boyfriend wants to leave you, there's nothing that will stop him. And, regardless of dating app profiles, there are always going to be beautiful women around and you can't make him delete them. So, perhaps back off and just trust your relationship. If you try to confine him (for example, forcing him to delete dating app profiles), you will just lose him because, ultimately, people want to be free to choose and that includes free to choose who to be with.
Remember this old adage:
(The Old Italian Housewive's Proverb)
It doesn't matter where your husband gets his appetite as long as he eats at home.
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You are being reasonable. Consider though, if you need to pressure him to take it down, is that a good sign in general?
I'm kinda on your side with this, why is he so hesitant to delete his dating app account if he is currently with someone
Nah you're not overreacting you don't use a dating app to find friends. Fishy af
Thats really bad. You should most definitely dump him.
Sounds like a good time to dump him.
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