Are brown (south Asian girls) more likely to be virgin's in there 20s?

[Anonymous]

Just wondering about this, the second generation ones that were born and brought up in western countries with strict patents? And would you prefer to be with a brown guy long term? Also would you rather a guy with high body count, 1-3 partners, or complete virgin.

[PrettyPriya]

The wording of this question is kind of offensive. Why do you have to say “brown” girls. Is there an issue with skin tone of other ethnicities? Being Asian (Indian) myself, I don’t know what the relevancy of your question is.

I have a lighter skin tone. What is that of consequence? How does that value or devalue me any more or less? As far as an answer to your question, that will be totally based upon a person’s choice as to whether they wait for marriage or not.

It also has little bearing on my partner. If he has been with other girls, so be it. So long as he is sexually healthy and has had a sexual health checkup, I’m okay with that. Just the same as he should be.

To answer the last part, again, I haven’t a clue what skin colour has to do with it. I’m Indian and my fiancé is Aussie. I did not date or accept a proposal based on his skin colour but the person he is. That is all that matters to me. He could be of any skin colour in the world and still be the perfect man for me.

[WonderBell99]

Just to clarify, being "brown" does not directly refer to your skin color. All South Asian Indians, irrespective of their features or skin color are referred to as "brown" in colloquial terms.

[PrettyPriya]

@WonderBell99 you do understand how this will be viewed by people outside our country and other south Asian countries?

[WonderBell99]

Nah, the term is more prevalent in foreign countries than in India itself

[WonderBell99]

All South Asians are collectively referred to as "brown", that includes people from India, Pakistan, Bangladesh, Sri Lanka etc

[PrettyPriya]

@WonderBell99 I’m not going to get into an argument about how the skin colour brown is viewed.

Certainly not when people where I live that have darker skin are socially pressured to lighten their skin because it is more desirable.

Since you are apparently unaware, I suggest you read this:

amp.theguardian.com/.../indias-dark-obsession-fair-skin

[Asker]

@WonderBell99 oh yea I just meant brown as in south Asian background, just like they say black people when most are a shade of brown. Sorry didn't mean to offend

[WonderBell99]

I can say with utmost certainty that I'm well aware of the politics and social pressures in the Indian society. Being an Indian myself, I have traveled to various parts of India and interacted with the locals of a lot of states. I am light skinned myself, and I have darker skinned friends who are insecure about their skin color.

That being said, I'm rather befuddled as to why you would view this as an argument. We're merely having a polite conversation about a (sensitive) topic, are we not? Caucasians have pinkish skin *most often* and Indians, though some are lighter in color have skin that is a *lighter* shade of brown.

[PrettyPriya]

Why not just view people as people? Why does everyone have to categorize according to skin colour? I’m done here.

[Asker]

@WonderBell99 Thanks for understanding. No hard feelings girls. All shades are beautiful. But I like my south Asian girls most what ever shade they are due to cultural experiences and family similarities. I think brown girls should be proud of what ever colour they are and I prefer if they tan in the sun and get that good vitamin d. I'm just trying to get a better understanding if we all see eye to eye is all.

[WonderBell99]

Of course, I completely agree with you. However, I was merely clarifying what the term meant and how it is used. Skin color should not be a determinant, but sadly, for most people it is. Quite saddening.

[WonderBell99]

I was replying to PrettyPriya by the way

[PrettyPriya]

I’m well aware how it is meant and used. Just like black and white. Ask yourself how that works out around the world?

Once you allow yourself to be okay with classifying people by colour, that is when you start seeing problems of racism, prejudice and a host of other problems.

Look no further than the article I linked or furthermore the issues you read of in the US. I’m going to mute this because I have nothing further to say. I’m firmly against viewing a region, race or ethnicity and simply reducing them down to a skin colour.

[WonderBell99]

I think there was a small misunderstanding. I thought you were unaware of how the term was used.

To answer your question, no, I'm not okay with classifying people based on their skin color, but unfortunately, racism is still very much prevalent around the world. As an Indian, I've faced racism myself mainly because I'm of Indian origin. I am not in favor of people singling out a particular ethnicity or making everything about race. However, I also believe that it is important to acknowledge the past and ensure that history does not repeat itself. India has a history or segregating people based on caste and I'm completely against it. At the same time, we should make sure that people who were discriminated against for hundreds of years receive the same respect and provisions as those who weren't for improving themselves

[Asker]

Maybe I should have said south Asian background people. Not 'brown'. I will delete this question tomorrow because it won't let me delete it in 24hrs for some reason. Peace.

[Asker]

@WonderBell99 yea I replied to you by accident

[Asker]

The reason I asked this is because I know people from south Asian backgrounds have conservative parents and shelter them from relationships until they are married so I was trying to find out if some South Asian girls in their 20s have much sexual experience or they wait until marriage. It's a sensitive topic so I understand if it comes off badly

[WonderBell99]

You don't need to apologize. People are of different ethnicities and races. You've gotta own who you are. It's only bad if you label them as "right" or "wrong". The problem is, racial questions such as this invites unwanted racism and I'm not a fan of that.

I don't mind being called brown. It's just like someone calling a Caucasian person "white". But some may prefer you call them Indian. It's just preferences, really.

[Asker]

@WonderBell99 yea I will delete it tomorrow when it let's me, reason I didn't say indian was because i wanted to include other south Asians and no one really says south Asians so I just used a shorter term. But I didn't know I would offend my own people so much

[WonderBell99]

Personally, I didn’t find it offensive. It might offend some. Racial stuff is complicated. You don’t need to delete it. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[WonderBell99]

Tbh, it’s your call though. If someone doesn’t want you to refer to them using a specific term, then don’t. Some might like it, some won’t

[TheBigGuy9]

We’re flawed as human beings. If we sit there long enough we can get mad at anything anybody writes. The media is doing its best for us to hate simple words. To keep us angry. Divisive. Try to Look at only the positive. God Bless