Am I allowed to call myself a "solitary person" if my girlfriend and I are practically handcuffed to each other?

[Anonymous]

In every other sense of the term, I am a solitary person.

I exclusively pursue work that allows me a high degree of autonomy, I don't have many friends and I like it that way, if I'm ever in a place with a large amount of people in it, it's always for a specific reason that doesn't involve those people (even if it's as simple as "there's a lake and the view is nice"), and my alone time is extremely important to me.

But my girlfriend and I always need to at least be in contact with each other. We'll both readily admit that we're needy as fuck.

I have a very hard time imagining myself living like a complete hermit because then I start thinking "what about baby?"

A hermit's life WITH her and just her.. I can imagine pretty easily. We fantasize about it to each other often.

Real idyllic cottagecore shit.

But just by myself? What about baby?

Yes

No

[quaranta]

Maybe "solitary" is not the term, at this point. Not just because you have a girlfriend, but because you say you need to stay in contact with her a lot.
But you can say you're a "reserved" person, or an "introvert", who wants a slow paced life away from the crowd. Both the terms don't imply the absence of such a close bond. You can say you prefer to complete things alone and to not work in group, and other things along this line.
But actually, you can still say "solitary", I mean if you say this word nothing wrong happens because afterall many other areas of your social life are solitary indeed, so it's not a big deal to decide with precision which label to use.
I am quite "solitary" although I'm not an introvert, and it shows in problems I had (always) in any relationship. I'm solitary in phases and the cause of this nature is mostly that I am kind of "avoidant", not "reserved". At the beginning a relationship blooms and you feel needier but then your true nature kicks in and you both will have to deal with that. In my case, it makes any relationship fail (and I can't blame the guys much). If you're at the first stages of a relationship, you might get bad surprises later, if you are like me. But on the other side, getting experiences with sharing the daily life details with others definitely improves your future choices and future relationships, even about friends-only. You'll end up knowing yourself better and to be more open to all your changes anytime they happen.

[Anonymous]

I say no because solitary means being alone.