“A woman cheating is way worse than a man cheating? Ladies & fellas, thoughts?

Question

“A man cheats for lust and will still come home to you and love you. When a woman cheats, she thinks the new man is better than her man. She cheats because she’s fallen out of love and seeking to replace her man.”

What do you all think?

Ill_made_Knight · Accepted Answer

I don't buy it. In terms of the relationship, if you take this statement at face value and throw out all the variables then the cheating man is betraying his partners trust in their commitment (cheating implies there is some sort of agreement). Her feelings about his "ability" to be an emotionless sex machine matter and could easily end the partnership.
If she has fallen "out of love" and is seeking a replacement then it's already over for all intents and purposes.
In both situations people WILL tend to try and hide this... The simple fact that a person hides should tell you that they know it is wrong and has the potential to end things.
Emotionally speaking being honest would be the best path as your lover is almost guaranteed to know something is up, and hiding is going to prolong the agony.
In a perfect world we would be honest and then make a decision together about what that's going to mean going forward, but there are always other things at play, stability... comfort...
Not a perfect world and FAR more variables than you can possibly work through logically.

VanguardTitan · Accepted Answer

Disagree. Cheating is horrible no matter who does it, neither is worse than the other.

RosieMelts · Accepted Answer

Yeah I don't know who came up with those words you or someone else, but that’s so spot on. I would say that applies to the majority of girls, as a whole, and the minority of girls who “just fuck” are the ones who’d technically cheat on guys who expect more, but those girls just never cared to begin with. Either way it’s worse because the the “good guys” would be disheartened to find out their girl was disloyal and never cared OR the fact that they’re looking for someone else on a psychological/emotional I don't know fucking compatible? Level 😂🤣.

But there you have it. It’s worse because of what it means and the reality of it,

BUT

it will always *feel worse* for the girl who finds out her man cheats because he was probably her everything and she’ll question her worth or her beauty and could feel unsafe, and have a hard time trusting again.

Then I just had to add it- there’s always the exceptions. The percentage of rarity. Some guys may take it extremely hard and some women may not care, realizing he cheated just because of lust, etc.

daph_neo · Accepted Answer

Both are just as bad. Cheating is bad in general.

Brainsbeforebeauty · Answer

That's a crock... Anyone that cheats it's bad.. Neither gender gets a pass (or bullshit excuse)

And I just have to say in response to:

"“A man cheats for lust and will still come home to you and love you"... If a man really loves you he would never put "lust " above his love for you or break that bond of trust and commitment for lust... A Man who cheats would be replacing me because I wouldn't want a cheater to come back home to me, it'd no longer be a happy home... People need to stop making excuses or justifications for ANYONE that cheats and usually lies/hides it, That goes for men or women who cheat...

Apple1996 · Answer

Only Andrew tate and his followers would think that way. The rest of us normal people know that cheating is equally bad from both men and women.

MrOracle · Answer

I don't defend or support cheating by anyone. in my opinion, it's wrong, period.

That being said, generally, men can separate sex from love/romance/emotion, while women cannot. This means that a man can have sex with another woman because he wants more sex or a variation of partners, but he doesn't have to have any romantic feelings for that woman at all. For him, it's JUST sex, with no feelings, and his feelings for his romantic partner haven't changed.

When women cheat, they cheat EMOTIONALLY as well as sexually, because they can't separate the two, and most women who cheat do so because of hypergamy - they feel like they've found a "better" guy in some way, and they want to "trade up" - regardless of any commitments they've made, or the welfare of their children.

That's where this saying comes from. Again, I'm not justifying cheating, by anyone. I'm not even saying that men NEVER have an emotional connection with the women they cheat with - sometimes they do - but it's the exception, not the rule.

Circlesgames · Answer

OK read up,

This is all you need to know, cheating is not in anyway good,

Yes guys can cheat more by nature and by sceince proven, now I don't belive in researchs those are for you not me, but as research are done based off of selected people, it's never for everyone but can go as far as 50-70% people,

Now don't be all sentimental and all or talk about equality here, this has nothing to do with that rather it's your chemicals in ur body OK?, now that said not everyone has the same chemical levels and or life features (for example the way ones brought up from young) there are guys who can't cheat with out loving the other girls (10%dropping) and there are girls who can't cheat with out loving the other guys (60-70%dropping)

And guys who can cheat without loving (90%and rising) then girls who can cheat with out loving (30-40%and rising)

Now this is not a research but a sample so u know what's happening and how it is, its in men's nature because of how we were built but its wrong and females don't have this package by default but based on the way the world is changing, both male and females are getting to like that,

Men who can't cheat and not love is not that they can't do it, it's that they know its wrong to and choose to be disciplined, but like I said,

Cheating isn't right.

It's all boils down to you and not the world, are you the type? that's the question not who, how many etc.

CHEATING IS BAD stop it while you can, the age of regrets will approach you soon (60+).

Thank you

globetrotter22 · Answer

It’s shitty either way. The real differentiator is how men vs women REACT when they confess or worse get caught.

In my admittedly sexist biased view I have observed that women often try to gaslight and self justify cheating more often than men do. Their egos can’t accept what they did vs men who are taught by society to take responsibility for their actions.

Men either:

1) just own up to being a POS and accept the consequences. They don’t feel “guilty” but they don’t try to self justify it either. They don’t care about their reputation. They don’t really care about a destroyed relationship. They will keep thinking with their Ds

This is a characteristic of a womanizer.

2) are conscious stricken and feel crushing guilt. They make zero excuses and do everything they can to make it up to their girlfriend/wife. If their girlfriend/wife leaves them then they blame nobody but themselves.

This guy has no guarantee of being forgiven and he knows it. But he is obviously more forgivable then #1. But that’s up to the woman.

Anyway men almost always cheat out of lust. They don’t do it to “get back” at their wives/gfs for making them upset for other reasons.

butterfly113 · Answer

Cheating is cheating whoever was it a man or woman. Yet what can tell that a woman cheating is worst than a man cheating up to me is that the fact that men are always looking to please their sexual needs more than women do.. if his wife/girlfriend is not taking care of him ofc he 'd look for another to satisfy those needs and it doesn't last long (in most of cases) despite what they did they still love their girls and they go back regretting it and begging for forgivenss.. A woman can cheat just in one case if she loses interest and stops loving her man and when she cheats it means the end

Rose_84 · Answer

Isn't it kind of normalizing men cheating?

Many men do end up replacing their girls.

BUT...

He won't replace a wife because she is actually loyal, knows cooking, is good at budgeting and taking care of home.

Why will he throw away a diamond for just a good looking stone who has no real value?

So he will just satisfy his need for adventure from outside. But still that's CHEATING!

All humans NEED stability, he won't jeopardize his perfect backup plan : his wife!!!

hahahmm · Answer

Yes. But beyond that if the guy is traditional in any way he gives more benefits to his woman than he gets back from her so that also makes it worse. That said, it's silly for people to be unmarried and then surprised that something goes wrong in a long term relationship. For eons of human history people got married. To think that someone who can't bother to make the ultimate commitment to you won't cheat on you is foolish. It's more likely they'd cheat than that a wife would cheat --- even tho sure, some wives cheat too.

PamelaRivers · Answer

Cheating is just as bad for both. The only difference (in my opinion) is that we (ladies) have more to worry about. Both sides have to worry about STD's. We have to worry if a mistake happens and we get pregnant while cheating. Our first relationship would leave and the one that we cheated with can't be trusted completely. Anyone that will cheat with you will cheat on you. End result could be a pregnant girl alone with a reputation of being a cheater making it even more difficult to find a good relationship than it normally is for a single mom.

ethanallen · Answer

Women view their vaginas as cash registers. Due to the evolutionary pressure of hypergamy, a woman, even a happily married woman, will persistently seek out a better man. When the better man (more wealth, more social status) is attracted to her, she will confirm her willingness to leave her husband by fucking the new man. Of course, the new man becomes subject to being left when the next better guy comes along. Don't get angry with women. It is their natural instinct. Just don't marry a woman and when you start fucking one, always remember she is just for temporary, not forever.

hi_it_is_me123 · Answer

If this is true, then it is the opposite. How is cheating due to lust is better than cheating because of love? If you want to cheat because of lust, then jerk off but you can't change your feelings and love is more innocent than Lust. By the way this is the excuse of manhoes. Sorry but if your girl seriously fall for another guy, then you probably was an asshole to her or she is just an idiot. I can't imagine falling for another guy even though my partner loves me. All of this this ain't an excuse for cheating and anyone who use this bs excuse is a ho3
This is i why want death penalty for cheating. If you are religious , you can't be against it. In all bug religions , there is a death penalty for cheating. Just fucking break up instead of destroying people lifes. Some people commit suicide because of it

jestergent · Answer

Without peeking at comments below, I don't know, that's a good question? I might say based on my own experience sometime after the 2000s slowly women started to cheat more. But to ask which is worse, ... I'm trying to frame from saying both are equally bad..

In context to what makes cheating bad.. it's pain issued to the other. Men take cheating harder. So in the current time it's worse. I would have to research but taking a quick snap guess during the 1800s it might have been worse if men cheated. I think it depends on which gender has 'it better' in finding new partners.

The gender that will have difficulty finding a new partner, being cheated on, then it's worse.

Danny_dan92 · Answer

I know this sounds biased for me to say because I’m a guy but hear me out.

It’s worse when a woman does simply due to the fact that usually it is the man that requests or brings up the idea of having sex to a woman.

That being said, that would mean another man would go up to the woman and not only flirt but also mention having sex. So if it happens not only did she accept the flirtatious advance but also the sex afterwards.

Not saying men cheating is a good thing because it’s far from it, but given women reject men more often than not, them not rejecting a dude when they have a boyfriend makes it x10 worse

GlassTop · Answer

A guy can cheat and have zero emotion for the person he is screwing. He cheats because he wants sex or is horny. A woman cheating is more of an emotional level. I’ve even heard women say it, man are controlled by their dicks. If a woman cheats, it means she really doesn’t like her current partner. Also there is one other factor to women that is pretty sinister. A lot of women have gotten pregnant by other men and fooled their partner into believing the baby is theirs. Such a disgusting thing. I wouldn’t wish that on anyone. If a man gets some girl pregnant, there is no hiding it.

HSalenko · Answer

Cheating is cheating and this viewpoint assumes men can't cheat for love when they definitely can and have. Sex might be at the forefront for most guys, but we're not all copies of each other and can feel a diverse set of emotions. Vice-versa: women can cheat for sex too and do. Cheating altogether is problematic for any relationship as it betrays trust and destroys emotional bonds. Trying to assign order of magnitude to a breach of trust is pointless.

BullShark · Answer

I've said this before on numerous other questions as well and I'll gladly say it again; cheating is disgusting for both genders regardless who does it, and no, there's no one fixed reason why a woman or a man may cheat and whatever it may be, it's still inexcusable and unacceptable behavior.

MysticAngel5000 · Answer

Absolute BS. Cheating is WRONG. Gender does not matter. If you're with someone, you need to stay loyal to them unless you're in some form of open relationship and you're both cool with mixing in other people. Cheating in any form is wrong and unfair to your partner. If you're not satisfied, leave. Don't find someone new before you've left your current partner.

kobeni · Answer

the argument that men are more faithful after cheating than woman is just cope. rich men running away with their assistants is a trope for a reason.

people too self absorbed to care about others feelings will take whatever makes them feel better. simple as

Guy13 · Answer

Yes because the Emotional separation is likely permanent. And it has been slowly eroding in marriage for some time. The difference that I see in today’s Time is the woman has no issue saying,”you meet my needs relationally not, therefore, I’m not giving that up. I do want to maintain our current children and structural design.
-With much at stake, what does one do ⁉️

MysteriousDarkness · Answer

Not sure which is worse a woman cheating with a guy and possibly getting pregnant or a guy cheating and possibly getting another woman pregnant. While a woman can get pregnant once at a time there can be multiple women pregnant at the same time from the same guy. In the end cheating is wrong and more times than not hurts the person you're with (boyfriend/girlfriend, fiance/fiancée, husband/wife).

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Cheating is cheating. The excuses don’t matter. Cheaters are selfish, inconsiderate and disrespectful. There’s no point in arguing about who hurts more. Getting cheated on hurts. There’s no point in arguing who’s the bigger POS. All cheaters are POS. It should be punishable by death.

RavVid · Answer

On the money Pinay_ako. But a woman can come home pregnant as well so that is more consequential than a man having ejaculated into another girl (from the viewpoint of the couple). You could argue the man cheating is no more consequential than him wanking in the shower over some girl he saw on the street or in a porn video.

From a bioethics view men who had the most breeding opportunities are likely to have left the most progeny. That's to the point that about 10% of Irishmen are descended from one Irish king. And then there is Genghis Khan.

For women having sex with more men doesn't equate with having more progeny but from the bioethics view it does make sense to get pregnant to a man with the best genes available and her husband may not have the best genes on the block.

There is a lot of research evidence that women are more likely to seek good genes in their fertile phase.

RiseofArtemis · Answer

Your statement is true. Men are naturaly made to screw any woman who lets them. Women on the other hand need a certain amount of trust to have sex with someone. It's biologicaly programmed into women to have sex with someone they trust enough to have a child with as sex by nature is meant to create babies.

Men don't have that issue. It's only been a problem since the pill got invented that people think women cheat the same way.

lucas262 · Answer

I blame the woman more.

A man most of the time is just trying to get sex, it's not often personal, and some of the time he doesn't know she has a husband or boyfriend. The guy cannot touch her unless she entertained his attention other wise it'd be grape. Or harassment so I blame her for entertaining it. But by then she's already placed you in a different category. The category of men she'll cheat on.

A man can fuck another woman and still love his woman

But for a woman to allow another man to touch her. Her man has to become less than in her mind. That is an emotional switch very difficult to switch back on.

I'm sure there are cases of women loving their hubby and going after pure sex but that isn't the majority of Cases, usually you'll hear about how good the new guy made her ,, feel,, and there are predatory guys who know they're married and talk a good game.

If my wife cheated on me. It's over. More than over.

SiberFox · Answer

I don't know about that quote, but a woman cheating is letting another man have access to her womb, ergo possibly a child.
All contraceptives can fail.
The men I've known that cheated did so because of a lack of sex rather than a desire for someone else.
If you don't care for your spouse they'll find someone who will.

msc545 · Answer

When women cheat, they do it because of hypergamy, and there is nothing you can do to stop it - they will always keep right on doing it.

Any man who finds out that his woman has been cheating and does not immediately dump her and never go back to her is a sucker and a simp. Women cannot be rehabilitated and should never be given the benefit of the doubt.

All women lie, cheat, and steal eventually. It is not a question of if, it is a question of when, and of what you will do about it.

ArtemisSilver · Answer

Men having a bunch of women is a proven model dating back to ancient times.

You know who the child's parents are, if he's rich and providing for everyone it's all good.

On the other hand women cheating confuses the matter of parentage, and makes her someone a man can't trust to invest in caring providing for.

The social dynamic is very different.

That said I think male cheating is immature and implies he's doing something wrong, which is why I'm openly polyamorous. I don't even have as much sex as I could be because I'd prefer to have an emotional connection. It doesn't have the same hold over me as does for a lot of guys, so I'm free to just enjoy life on my own terms.

freewife · Answer

It feels true. It seems there is always more of an emotional element from the women's side and that is what causes the real pain knowing they're more connected to someone else both sexually and emotionally, and the loss of trust as a result. It's pretty hard to come back from that because if you try to hard to 'fix' things you look desperate, and if you don't react they'll take is an OK to carry on. If it's clear they really don't give a fuck anymore then you'll have to accept they're effectively already gone.

Blackcosmo · Answer

It's not about the gender. If you're a cheater you're a cheater and it's equally bad.

genericname85 · Answer

women cheat for lust all the same as well. they just don't call it cheating. they call it having an affair.

loveslongnails · Answer

I don't know that women think it's "worse" if you ask them, BUT, in general I think there's a lot of truth to that statement. Men don't equate "love" with fidelity the way a woman does (or claims to!). Men can easily compartmentalize and say to themselves

NathanDavis · Answer

" I cheated on you but I still love you " the nerve on that claim... lmfao, hilarious

Finchie40 · Answer

False, they are both equally wrong, You don’t Love someone if you cheat on them period , this was probably written by a guy who cheated and making excuses for his actions , not accepting the fact that he was a piece of shit

CalmMind · Answer

They both belong to the streets. It's not a matter of who's more wrong as they're both scumbags. You don't get to violate a person's trust like that and then explain it away as though you're the victim of circumstance.

MCheetah · Answer

Cheating is bad, regardless of gender. I disagree with the quote.

YHL6965 · Answer

I think this is true to an extent, maybe a rule of thumb, but there are exceptions of course. Now, to say one is worse than the other, I'm going to abstract from such a judgement as both is betrayal in my eyes, and I hate betrayal. Whatever your motive may be, you still stabbed your partner in the back.

ChiTown33 · Answer

No. Anyone cheating is bad. Losing a cheater is no loss. But a cheater takes the trust of the person cheated on and can make it harder for that person to trust one who is worthy of thier trust. That's the real tragedy.

Lionman95 · Answer

I would say your quote is man´s statement, I´m not sure if it´s true because I think if you´re the one being cheated on it will ever hurt.

Though the statement sounds plausible it just raises for me the question of the clear displayed gender roles like guys just cheat for lust reasons and females because they´ve fallen out of love sounds too easy to me. Why can´t it be also the other way round?

petitedollbabee · Answer

Cheating is cheating. Your gender doesn’t make it any less hurtful to your partner if you cheat. So that image is nonsense.

H8INCHES · Answer

Depends.. I know a lot of females who just like to fuck. If their SO is delivering enough they will get some extra. And there are women who just want to fuck a lot of other people cause it's fun.
Not every woman that cheats is looking for a change in SO.

Mommabear88 · Answer

Cheating is cheating, its hurts regardless male or female. When someone cheats they aren't thinking about how bad it is going to hurt their partner and if they just don't care if it hurts them or not then clearly they don't give a f**k about them and don't love them!

slatyb · Answer

Nothing about human sexuality is simple. There are various reasons why people cheat. Cheating is wrong because the innocent spouse is now in a non-consensual relationship. They agreed to and remain in the marriage on the promise that their partner would remain faithful. And no, it's not worse if a woman cheats. I'm leaning toward it being worse if the man cheats because STDs are more easily transmitted to women.

Gopnik · Answer

Both is bad and disgusting, but lets be honest, a guy doesn't keep the result of said cheating with him for up to 3 days so yeah its a little bit more disgusting for women.

Still a bad thing for both sexes.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

Stick a purse and a sword in biohazardous liquid waste, walk around town with either. One's gonna be inherently more gross, but you really wouldn't want to play with either immediately after it came in contact with the trash.

Then there's the fact that if they're playing in that filth once, they're likely to do it again. The man has lower risk, but do you really want to find out the hard way?

Be mindful the garbage that enters the home with either.

Smoke-n-Growls · Answer

Whatever hangs between your legs, cheating is disgusting and immature behaviour. Real adults communicate and respect each other.

BCA6010 · Answer

I disagree. Cheating is cheating, and there are no excuses regardless of who did it.

Snsl153 · Answer

I don't care whether you're male or female, if you're willing to cheat then you're not a good person.

spartan55 · Answer

I don't think either are worse. They are all lowlifes.

BlueScorpio · Answer

Um no. Cheating is cheating, mo matter who does it. Anyone who cheats doesn't really love nor respect their partner or relationship in my opinion.

YollyM · Answer

The gravity of cheating can not be measured by the reason for cheating.

Cheating is THE problem, a sign of disrespect and complete disregard of your partners feelings.

I believe the reason doesn't matter.

fonduegirl · Answer

That's just a misogynistic statement. Cheating is equally bad for both genders. There's nothing worse than finding out your partner is sleeping around or in love with someone else. #StopThisBullcrp

Aakash_Hangargi · Answer

We have a saying if you eat shit even if little it's still shit 😂

Still-alive · Answer

there's no ‘worse’ with this one cheating for any reason sucks for the other person.  after hearing the words ‘i cheated…’ i won't care to hear the reasons after.

Barry88 · Answer

No, I don't think this is true. It can be lust or love, but that applies for both women and men. There are plenty of women who cheat just for fun, but still love their man.

U4ea0 · Answer

A woman cheating is far worse as STD transmission is very efficient man to woman. And of course there is pregnancy from another man. Women who engage infidelity run off with the other man over 90% of the time whereas men only run leave their wives less than 10% of the time.

Js3522 · Answer

cheating or having an affair either way, the only thing is, if and I say this with a big if, an accident occurs, with a man it stays away from the house, with a woman it is brought right in for a long time

TroyDT · Answer

Cheating is a violation of trust irrespective of who commits it. To me the reason is irrelevant.

MrPickles13 · Answer

Cheating is cheating. We can't hold different reasons based off of gender and tbh at the end of the day I don't think that there is a reason which justifies it.

pizzalovershouse · Answer

Same on both acounts if your in a certain relationship like if your not bi sexual or gay or lesbian an dont have a agreement to what you want an go for an except

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Agree. Its way worse for a woman to cheat than a man. Also because men are with a woman for fidelity. Women are with a man for other things. So if a woman cheats she's taken everything a man values away, when a man cheats he still has lots of value for the woman.

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