My cousin's boyfriend beats the shit out of her at least once a week. I helped her move out of his home last year but she went back to him 2 months ago and he is already repeating his old patterns. He has already hit her/pinned her down 3 times in the past month alone. Obviously I can beg her to leave until I'm blue in the face but she won't listen. Can't help who doesn't want to be helped unfortunately.
So anyways, my fiance is really good to me. Never put his hands on me. He HAS said some fucked up shit a couple times in the 5 years that were hurtful; like calling me overdramatic once or blamed me for something he caused once. But it's never anything extreme, you know? Like it's literally just me being sensitive and not enjoying being called dramatic lol Usually speaking though, we don't even argue. Our communication is solid. Our relationship is absolutely fantastic.
Well, him and I got in to a tiny spat the other day over his dog going to the bathroom on the floor after I had just cleaned. I told the dog to basically get the hell out of the room and this bothered my fiance. Nothing huge by any means. We didn't even argue with each other. He just looked at me mortified and left. Well I had already been talking to my cousin and I mentioned it to her. Not looking for sympathy but she asked what I was doing and I just explained what was going on. Well she immediately jumps down my throat about how my fiance is "fucking toxic" and how he "does this shit to me all the time". So I just stopped responding to her because it was so uncalled for. He doesn't do anything like this ever, you know? So I stop responding.
Well she gets a hold of me today asking why I never responded and I told her "Because you literally jumped down my throat about how toxic you think my fiance is while you are sitting at home getting the shit kicked out of you weekly. You're hypocritical and wrong." She says I'm being super insensitive and that she was "just being supportive". Was I wrong here?
