Did you ever cheat or got cheated on?

[Anonymous]

[cadyyyyyy]

Hell yes terribly. I was fooled blamed side chicked. He being a narcissist didn't accept his fault and apologized instead he diverted the topic go round and blamed me telling me im too insecure and jealous and psychotic abd that i need a therapy for not trusting him and catching his lies and cheating red handedly. He turned out to be a womanizer doesn't spare even one girl. He likes every girl. And flooded their dms begging them to be his gfs and the ones he broke up begging them to come back. And i all these days like fool thought i was the only one. When i left he begged for me the same way he begged for others.

[cadyyyyyy]

All of these begging other girls to be his girlfriend and all it happened while we were still together. I don't know why he likes every girl even if the worst girl in the world likes him he will accept her proposal. I don't know

[CrazyGirl2]

YES! My first proper boyfriend waited an entire year to sleep with me! We literally had sex for the first time on our one year anniversary, and three days later I discovered that he had been cheating on me! I was devastated, but thanks to my therapist who openly encouraged me to move on, I met my second boyfriend about two months later, maybe three, and we were together over two years!

[Anonymous]

I cheated on my first girlfriend in HS and made a vow to never do it again. Been over 20 years now and I’ve kept it.

But I am about 99.99% sure one of my more recent exes cheated. Did she own up to it? Of course not. She treated me like I was less than human at the end to make sure herself feel better about her bs.

[CrazyGirl2]

I don’t know why you would write this anonymously, that speaks VOLUMES about your character! You made a mistake, you learned from it! More importantly, you made a promise to yourself and kept it! You should never have to hide when explaining something good

[Anonymous]

When I date, I'm too in love to even see other women so no I'd never do that. But I'm not gonna sit here and think im better because the truth is that some people who cheat probably have people throwing themselves at them a lot. Who knows how all of us would fair in that case.

[rudedevon]

I cheated once. It was quick, meaningless, bad sex.

My ex wife had an affair, which was horrible. Even when I kept asking her if she was, she kept lying, until I had concrete proof, at which point she tried blaming me.

I suspect I've been cheated on in other relationships but can't be sure

[putAsmile0nURlips]

Yes, been cheated on... Devestated, unsure and believing that every one does it... No one has any loyalty... Just selfish perceptions, but will take what is given while having NO INTENTION of being a decent human to people who give loyalty with out being asked... Or provide without asking...
Grrrrrr!!

[Zolly99999]

All of my serious girlfriend cheated on me... yes I cheated to get back at them

[CrazyGirl2]

That’s a horrible thing to do, yes even for revenge. You COULD have just broken up w/ them and had the complete moral high-ground, but the second you cheated on them… you just became the same as them! It’s not as if they cancel each other out… it’s just MORE toxic negativity that you’ve brought into existence! You are just showing all other women that you’re more than happy to cheat, you just need a good enough excuse! That’s not who you want to represent yourself as, is it?

[Zolly99999]

@CrazyGirl2 I never said i was proud of it. I would never do that now.. I was young and dumb

[CrazyGirl2]

Ahhh, OK, got it. But if you’ll allow me, just as the person who received your message… Like you read the question, and then you thought about the answer, and then you typed it out, and then you sent it out into the world. Let me just say as a neutral outside observer… That REALLY does read like you’re very proud of the fact that you got them back! I am not saying that you are proud, but I am saying that’s definitely how THAT message reads. Also, you really haven’t had a serious relationship since you were “young and dumb”? That’s so sad hun, I'm sorry to hear that.

[Zolly99999]

@CrazyGirl2 I agree with you. I reread it and I definitely see what you mean. I will throughly think about my response next time.

[Asker]

Just love how people accept here rather than quarrelling. Good place to be.

[CrazyGirl2]

Oh yes! I mean, there is SOME, but compared to that Troll farm Quora… This is like digital nirvana, by comparison! I love the vast majority of people here!

[Zolly99999]

@asker I was totally I'm the wrong.. @CrazyGirl2 is absolutely correct. Cheating is never good. But I have since matured.

[Asker]

I believe in always being my best rest is up to the god. I am a strong believer of karma.

[CrazyGirl2]

Amen “asker”, amen!

[ElementoP]

No way, cheating is disgusting and means you're a miserable no good scum bag

That's why I've only done it twice

[Rania05]

'Only' 😊
You has guts for saying it, congratulations on being cheeky enough to keep living in stable conditions in spite of being scummy

[ElementoP]

Baby girl, I've been a scum bag my whole life. No point in pretending otherwise

[Rania05]

But I'd really mean it sincerely, being scum needs a scum's confidence in their worth as human

[Rania05]

And I'm not telling you to hide it

[mobiusforniner]

I cheated emotionally, yes. Kind of like a prison tattoo, it stays with you. But alas, life is an experience and I learned a lot from it.

[CrazyGirl2]

Yeah that emotional affair… that was my biggest fear, for both myself and my ex when he told me that he was off the wait-list and he had gotten in to Cal-Tech! He was so happy I did not have the heart to make him feel guilty, so I just celebrated with him, let him know how proud i was, and still am, and we had one last beautiful night together, and afterwards I told him that we had to end it. I also told him that it won’t change if he comes with me here, because I knew he would. But Cal-Tech was his dream! There were tears, but there was no way I wanted a LDR because of emotional affairs, not that I thought he would be fucking girls left and right, he was brilliant, and funny and amazing, but he was like your typical chess club geek! I only went out with him b/c i was so impressed with how confident this nerdy little guy was, and we were together over 2yrs. But I did wonder about the emotional affair. Because lets face it, sex is NBD but falling in love w/ someone? It really doesn’t matter if you fucked! But that “what is he falls in love with someone else, but he doesn’t want to pursue it because of me?” Really bothered me! I didn’t want that for him… or myself! You show a lot of character in recognizing the power of the emotional affair. Most men would be like “So? It’s not like anything happened!”. Kudos on never repeating that mistake.

[mobiusforniner]

@CrazyGirl2 honestly i feel the emotional affair is worse than a quick pump and dump in a company parking lot. Emotional affairs involve building trust, exchanging feelings, making each other vulnerable. As a guy I kept telling myself it wasn't an affair because we werent having sex. But I prioritized my friend in ways that were detrimental to my marriage. My friend knew this. My wife knew this. So the only option was to accept that reality and make the correct choice. My friend was devastated, but ultimaltely I kept my marriage and she kept her integrity. The damage is irreversible but the right choice is seldom the easy choice. By letting my friend go, i proved to my wife I am committed to our marriage and also proved to my friend i truly loved her.

[Asker]

True.

[CrazyGirl2]

I ABSOLUTELY agree! As I said I was never really worried about him getting laid, I figured that there is a near 100% likelihood of THAT happening… but just as long as he doesn’t love her. So, naturally if he DOES love her but hasn’t had sex with her so what? The falling in love is the issue! (Not that I would tolerate infidelity in any relationship, but you can’t ignore the special and unique circumstances that present due to being away for between four and seven years of college! So, I genuinely admire you for recognizing it, fixing that issue, and beginning the long road to rebuild trust and save your marriage. Obviously you know that the emotional affair was bad, but recognizing that, and taking steps to save your marriage is commendable. Too many people treat marriage as disposable these days, I'm glad you did not.

[mobiusforniner]

@CrazyGirl2 thanks for having an open perspective and realizing that cheating or affairs are seldom just spur of the moment things. I dont regret it, honestly. It hurt, and still hurts, but the affair helped my wife and I recognize our marriage weaknesses and work on them. I think about my friend a lot- its hard not to because love is such a powerful emotion. The experience changed me as a person. Ironically, a married coworker approached me a few months after, giving me her phone number and wanting to "hang out" just her and me. Having learned from my affair, I quickly applied my preventive actions and put the brakes on this womans advances. Crazy too, this married gal was a cosplay anime goddess outside of work. My male coworkers laughed and ridiculed me for being "so dumb" for not "hitting it". Quite frankly, seems many people, both men and women, are considerably lacking in foresight.

[CrazyGirl2]

Yeah well being honorable is never “dumb”! Any little boy can say he “hit that” (or at least tried). Have you any idea how many boys aged 11, 12, & 13yo tried to get in my panties in middle school… (well, maybe not 11, but certainly the 12 & 13yo’s), or how many 14, 15, & 16yo boys in high school flat out asked me if I would fuck them?
Any immature little boy can “hit that”, and follow their baser instincts, it takes a MAN to take control of those base instincts, and do the honorable thing and just refuse the sluts advances! And yes, if you are married and you are hitting on a married man… you’re one slut I would happily shame!

[Sour-rose]

Does it count when I was a kid on gaia online when I got cheated on by some emo, little shit? Because that's the best I got. Didn't really seek relationships irl when I was younger :)

[Bongem]

Yes, being cheated on. Broke my heart. But I understand the urges if you are down in your relationship.

[TroyDT]

Been cheated on. Got accused of cheating by a girl I went out on a single date with and then she saw me with another lady a week later, but there was no discussion of being boyfriend and girlfriend so I just assumed she was crazy.

[EmmaMary]

No.

No.

[BlueScorpio]

Never cheated and from my knowledge haven't been cheated on hopefully.

[fred_durst]

never have girlfriend , i cheated my right hands A LOT though

[bobby_bush_eater]

Never cheated have been cheated on by my high school sweetheart when we went to college. At least it was before I enlisted so there was no dear John letter

[Pinay_ako]

Yes and yes 🙌

[JessJJ]

I've cheated on all my boyfriend's, I'm not well suited to relationships.

[sheikalana]

Got cheated on in the past. Never cheated on anyone but thought of doing it.

[Bongem]

love your honesty

[TacosRAwesome]

I never cheated. And my sixth sense tells me I've been cheated on.

[Twalli]

No, unless I am told immediately and get a heartfelt apology, a cheater is walking home.

[Anonymous]

been cheated on and currently being cheated on

[Asker]

I am sorry to hear that going through same.

[NathanDavis]

I have not experienced either

[20yearsolder]

Yes and yes, how about you?