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I have a few negative experiences with some very close friends of mine. no matter how hard i try... i can't trust anyone even the people i know loves me... there is always something prevent me to attach to anyone now...😔😔
Separate the difference between love and support.
The people who love you may not be able to support you for various reasons:
1) you don't know how to support yourself, therefore you can't communicate the areas in which you need support (emotionally, intellectually, logistically)
2) conflicting lifestyles or morals
3) maybe they need to prioritize themselves or another area of their life instead, and this is OK (particularly if it's mental health or a big life change).
The people who love and/or support you ebb and flow over time, and that's okay. Many people rely on family for both, but sometimes it's just not feasible for someone to drop everything because you made some very bad (or very good) decisions and had fate spin the dice.
For example, just because you got a new pet, doesn't mean that your friend can walk them anytime you decide to go on vacation. They might still love you, but they can't support you because they also booked a trip. So you find another friend (or even a paid pet sitter) willing to support you.
Get therapy! Seriously, it works wonders! I was raped by my uncle on my 13th birthday, I had major trust issues, after that. But just two years after that level of traumatic betrayal from not just a family member, but my fathers twin brother, I was dating a boy who became my first “proper” boyfriend, I was even able to begin giving him hand jobs after a month or so, blow jobs after two months, and although we waited until our one year anniversary to have sex for the first time… 3 days later I found out he was cheating on me, and had been for a while! You’d think that would do it for me and trust, but thanks to my therapist, who openly encouraged me to date, I began dating my most serious relationship of my life, and Lee and I were together for over two years! We. Broke-up due to the known pressures of LDR, and we were going to two different colleges 2500 miles apart almost!
You can live with your fears, or you can face and overcome them. The key is to become observant... seeing what exists rather than just seeing what you want or expect to see. By becoming more observant, you're less likely to invest in situations that aren't ideal for you. You'll never be able to guaranty success, but you can definitely raise your odds of success. It's so common for people to admit, after the fact, they saw and overlooked red flags. Life isn't a Disney movie. See what is real rather than expect happily ever after.
Trust is overrated
There's no reason to trust anyone. Just give them a chance and if they fuck up you won't be surprised
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but why do that when you can be safe and lack relationships with people 😏😏
in all seriousness, i struggle a lot with this to the point opening up about the smallest stuff to friends/family is like swallowing glass. you only get better at it by practicing it in small doses. also, people who are open with their issues i've noticed feel easier to open up to
Give people a chance to earn your trust, that's the only thing you can do. They're not the person who hurt you.
Every relationship is different as people are different.
You have to take time to identify the trauma, or the source of your lack of trust. Do that personal work, and you'll find it easier to trust people.
Understand that every person is different. Your current partner is not like your previous partner. Let your partner know about your insecurities and tell them what makes you comfortable and what not. Open communication is crucial.
Take time with yourself. Few months. A year. Level out. Then go in telling yourself the new person is not one of your past relationships. To think otherwise is unfair.
Ohh baby not all like that a few good ones still out there
People have to earn your trust.
If no one's done that, thats not something wrong with you, it's something wrong with the people you choose to be around.
You don’t know how to Leak some trust in just a tiny bit?
dont trust the issues trust the person
Professional help will help you.
therapy?
