So... it happened again
Me and my boyfriend work together.
He was helping her move some wood samples to another box and he asked her if she could hold some, since his hands were full. She denied and said:"Im not Jess to hold it..."
Jess is Me!
So wtf did she mean? So its not good to help your coworkers now? Or whats the problem? We all help each other and not because its me or him, all the coworkers we help each other all the damn time!!
Why she said it to him?
Because your letting her/it be. Simple dont take her words personal when directed in that manner. If she says something that will cost your job and is untrue, then yea so what you need to so that who matters sees she is full of sheet. In all, she wants a reaction, a rise in your emotion, for whatever reason it may be, she may not even know. Just because she is married dont mean she couldnt have an attraction to your man. Which will often result in resentment towards you before she shows signs directly towards him.
All in all, dont take it personal, dont ask for her help unless its something only she is capable of, and he should do the same. Sometimes people think they are entitled to not doing the same work or assisting their "subordinates" with theirs. Just take more time to doing if she stands there not wanting to help. You could have asked her what that is supposed, not bring you into a situation you werent even a part of. Then deal HR, or a Department of the state if she is able to fire you and does. The most defense you have is she fired you because your gender or sexual preference. He can say something to her as well, like "Whats that mean" or "Is that supposed to be an insult to my girlfriend." a lot of times if you question stupid comments like that they won't know how to respond and if they do the reason will prove they were dumb for doing so.
If she receive the attention for being pig headed, then she would eventually stop being one. Think about it, do you continue to do things that produce results you dont want? Besides going a job that has you wishing you werent on your way to. Stop letting her control your happiness.
A lot of bosses aren't good bosses. No matter what the job, some people are better at it than others. Same with bosses.
Something you don't hear about much any more is The Peter Principle https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Peter_principle It might not be true 100% of the time, but there is a certain amount of truth to it.
People become boss for various reasons. It might be their own business. In that case it's automatic. They might be successful at starting and running a business, but suck at being a boss. It might be the case of The Peter Principle. They might have been good at their previous job, then got a promotion to boss but sucked at being a boss. Maybe they were friends with the higher boss, or maybe they kissed ass to get a promotion.
There are a lot of reasons, but the bottom line is that some people suck at being a boss... and almost no one is perfect at it.
You work there, you’re dating him, and you are supervised every day by her…. If you don’t know, how the hell are strangers on the internet possibly going to know the in’s and out’s, and more importantly the why’s of your working relationship?
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She's ignorant. Doesn't know because nobody ever taught her. Listen... Listen...
DO NOT TRY TO TEACH HER. Understand it is super hard to change yourself let alone someone else. Don't try. Go straight to someone who can actually do something about it or leave that place and when you leave tell them the reason why when they ask.
She's a jerk and could be jealous of you and your boyfriend.
She’s either jealous you’re with him, or jealous of the relationship
Because she's a cunt
She's probably just a natural born bitch.
Because she is the bosshole.
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