Do you think it's too early to propose to the person you've been dating for a few months?
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+1 yA few, as in two or three? Seems a bit early to me.
You need to see someone in a lot of different situations to determine if you're compatible.
Go on a vacation together: a three to seven day stint. Be it camping or hopping to the Bahamas or the Yucatan. Vacations can be telling. You often see someone when they're tired, grumpy and disheveled. Do they travel well? Are they flexible? OK, you can't see the Bones Museum. It's closed. But you can see the skulls museum! Sounds like creepy fun, doesn't it.
Are they an outdoors person like you are? Are they an indoors person? Are they flexible. Some outdoors and some indoors. Do they give you space and alone time? Or do they want to be joined to your hip? This might work, according to your personalities. But if one likes their freedom and the other is clingy? Uggghhhhh.
Have you met their extended family? You'll have to live with these people. You'll see them at weddings, funerals, cookouts, baptisms, church events... You marry her family as much as her.
Remember, it usually takes 60 hours of being with someone to ESTABLISH a FRIENDSHIP. You have to be far past friendship to consider living with someone for years into the future.
Have you had discussions about having or not having children? About who is or isn't going to work full time? About child care arrangements. About saving for retirement, for your children's further educations. For YOUR further educations if anyone needs or wants a BA or a grad degree.
There is A LOT of ground to cover. How do you two spend money? How do you save? Money is the one of the top two reasons people divorce. Sex is No. 1. Have you talked about your sexual habits and desires?
What do you like to do for entertainment? Dinner out, movies, reading, kayaking, hiking, washing the car?
Do you have similar levels of cleanliness? Who's going to wash the clothes, do the lion's share of cooking? Grocery shopping.
If you haven't done the run down on ALL OF THE ABOVE, you are not ready for marriage.
And remember, most marriage pundits say to know a potential spouse 1 to 3 years before hitting the altar. Everyone's on their best behavior at first. You need to see someone after they've let their hair down. Farts and all!! Good luck!
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You had me at farts and all
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+1 yWhen its right, it’s RIGHT! My parents met when my mom was in the US Army, and on leave in England. They met, they spent a week dating every evening, and spending all night sitting and talking (and making out) but no sex! At the end of the week my mom had to go back to Germany, and my dad visited every other weekend leaving his office at around 3pm arriving at the hotel closest to base goose to 9pm, and my mom made a lot of deals to get every other weekend off so they could have Friday night, all day Saturday, most of Sunday and he’d leave about 10pm Sunday night sleeping on the train, and arrive in plenty of time for work on Monday! The got married about 90 days after they met! They had one FULL week together and SIX weekends together, then they got married! That was 24yrs ago, and they are still madly in love and act like newlyweds, whenever they are around eachother! I hear about people who were together for years before they were married, even living together, and they are either miserable or already divorced! When it is right, you just KNOW it! There is no such thing as the right amount of time!
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1.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic. 1. If she has not mentioned marriage it is absolutely too soon. Quality guys don't actually beg women to marry them. More like the woman pushes for it. If she hasn't mentioned it then either you can be better or she's not even within 100 miles of being wife material.
2. If she hasn't proven that she's wife material, it's too soon. See my mytake on trust.
Some of my other mytakes may give you ideas too.. like how if she's a 'modern strong & independent woman', beware. Women like that (and feminists in general) will want you to be traditional when it benefits them but they will give you little to nothing. It's a bad deal. This is also why doctors seldom marry RNs because RNS have a reputation of putting themselves/career ahead of family.
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How long should you wait before proposing?
When it comes to proposals, there is no set timeframe. It all depends on the relationship between the two people involved and how ready they are for marriage.
However, there are a few things to consider before popping the question:
- First, you need to make sure that you are both on the same page about getting married. It wouldn't be fair to surprise your partner with a proposal if they're not ready for that level of commitment. Talk about your plans for the future and gauge your partner's reaction before making any grand gestures.
- Secondly, you should make sure that you are financially stable enough to support a wife or husband. Getting married is a big responsibility, and you want to be able to provide for your partner. If you're not quite there yet, it's OK to wait a bit longer before proposing.
- Finally, you should make sure that you are ready for marriage yourself. This is a huge decision that will change your life forever, so you want to be absolutely sure that you're ready for it. Take your time and make sure that you're making the right decision for both of you.
If you're both ready for marriage and you're financially stable, then there's no set timeframe for when you should propose. Just follow your heart and go for it when the time feels right.
How long does the average couple date before getting engaged?
It's no secret that getting engaged is a huge milestone in any relationship.
But how long does the average couple date before getting engaged?
According to a recent study, the answer is about two years. The study, which was conducted by wedding planning app Bridebook, found that the average couple gets engaged at the age of 32.
So, why the wait?
Well, it turns out that most couples want to make sure they're on the same page before making such a big commitment. This means having tough conversations about things like finances, religion, and family.
It's also worth noting that the study found that the average engagement lasts for about 15 months. So, if you're planning on getting engaged, you might want to start saving up now!
Should you live together before getting engaged?
There's no one answer to whether or not you should live together before getting engaged – it's entirely up to you and your partner. Some couples feel that living together is a natural step in their relationship, while others prefer to wait until they're engaged or married. There are pros and cons to both choices, so it's important to weigh up what's right for you and your relationship.
If you do decide to live together before getting engaged, there are a few things to keep in mind:
- First, it's important to set clear boundaries and expectations with your partner. You'll need to be on the same page about things like finances, housework, and personal space. It's also a good idea to have a backup plan in place in case things don't work out – you don't want to be left without a place to live if things go south.
- Living together before getting engaged can be a great way to test out your compatibility with your partner. You'll get to see how you handle day-to-day life together, and you'll have a chance to resolve any issues that come up.
- On the other hand, it's important to remember that living together isn't always a perfect indicator of how you'll do as a married couple. Some couples who live together before getting engaged find that they're actually less compatible than they thought, so it's important to be prepared for that possibility.
- Ultimately, the decision of whether or not to live together before getting engaged is up to you and your partner. There are pros and cons to both choices, so it's important to weigh up what's right for you and your relationship.
Signs you are ready to propose
When you feel like you are ready to propose, it is usually a pretty good indicator that you are, in fact, ready to propose.
But if you need a little more guidance, here are some signs that you are ready to take the next step:
1. You have been together for a while and have a strong foundation.
If you feel like you and your partner have a strong foundation and have been together for a while, it may be time to start thinking about taking the next step. You know each other well, have shared many experiences together, and have built a strong bond. This is a great foundation for a lifetime of happiness together.
2. You are comfortable communicating and resolving conflict.
Conflict is a natural part of any relationship, but it is how you handle it that counts. If you are able to communicate effectively and work together to resolve conflicts, it shows that you are both committed to the relationship and are willing to work together to make it stronger. This is an important skill to have in a lifetime partnership.
3. You have similar values and goals.
When you are on the same page in terms of values and goals, it can make a big difference in the strength of your relationship. If you both want the same things out of life, it gives you a shared purpose and can help to keep you both motivated and focused on the future.
4. You are ready for a lifetime commitment.
If you are ready to commit to your partner for the long haul, it is likely that you are ready to take the next step and get engaged. This is a big decision, but if you feel like you are both ready for it, then it is probably the right time.
5. You are excited about the future.
When you are in a relationship, it is natural to start thinking about the future. If you find yourself getting excited about the prospect of spending your life with your partner, it is a good sign that you are ready to take the next step.
If you are feeling ready to propose, trust your instincts and go for it! It may just be the best decision you ever make.
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+1 yI think if you have never seen them angry, you should not propose because a lot of people pretend to be nice in the very beginning to deceive you about how well they will treat you if you marry them.
00 Reply 1.4K opinions shared on Relationships topic. When you finally realized you can’t see your future without her in it…
011 ReplyI've heard of people getting married after a week of meeting and they stayed married their entire lives for over 50 years.
On the other hand, I've heard of people being "engaged" for 8 years, not having sex that entire time because they claimed to believe in marriage before sex (strange) and then the man had a sexual one nighter with his best girl friend and got her pregnant because he couldnt' contain himself anymore waiting for his idiot fiance who wouldn't' go ahead and get married.
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Anonymous(18-24)+1 yDude look... Don't listen to ANY of these people talking about numbers... Knowing when to get married is about some numbers of a calendar.
The reason you don't know is because you have no system of your own.
Ask yourself these 3 simple questions...
1) Does she have the things you want most in a girl?
2) Does she have the basis of a team player? (courtesy, tolerance, kindness, )
3) Does she or her future self fit with your future self?
- Now that last one requires communication with her and knowing what you both want out of life. Do not marry someone if you two haven't talked about the vision you guys want to live out. You have to be on the same page. And then you have to learn how to be teammates. And that is the biggest part.
Gl and don't listen to these people who throw out numbers. 1 year. 2 years don't matter if you two shouldn't be getting married lmao. You could get marriage in 1 week if you really know what you're doing.00 Reply- 3.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
+1 yProposing isn't marriage so ig he can propoose whenever. But marrying in less than a year or two can be a bit much. Shit at this rate i just might give in 😭🤣
00 Reply I personally don’t want to get married to someone I’ve been with less than 3 years, but since we’re not talking about me I’d say 9, 6 at minimum
00 Reply375 opinions shared on Relationships topic. When you know that she is Miss Right, it's time.
01 Reply4.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Yes I do. 1.5 years is a good point and married by 2 years
00 Reply1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic. I would not propose until after three years people can hide who they really are for years until they become super comfortable with you it all comes out.
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+1 yA woman purposed to me last year after 3.5 weeks. I'd say that's way too early
00 ReplyIs there something called ''soon'' 'in love? This may be the next question :)
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+1 yI think anything below one year is a bit too soon/rushed.
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Anonymous(30-35)+1 yI honestly think anything under 3 years is too soon. But that's just me.
10 Reply966 opinions shared on Relationships topic. start by telling her that you "Think" she might be the ONE... see how she responds... No hurry if it's meant to be... it will be
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+1 yIt really depends on the couple.
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+1 yDon't do it! You'll regret it !
00 Reply After the first date.
00 Reply7.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Anything before 5 years
00 Reply3.6K opinions shared on Relationships topic. Uh... yeah?
00 Replyfirst date
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