What makes you cautious of asking your partner somewhat sensitive questions?

[dustybiker]

The amount of questions asked here with answers that literally can only be given by the people they care about.

What makes you ask here first?
What do you fear? Losing everything? Creating drama?

What makes you think you both can’t talk through it as mature adults do? Do you have such little faith in your relationship?

I’ve always been one to rip the bandaid, and the person I’m with is the same. I get caution, but it seems some would rather live in fear than speak up.

What’s up with the caution?

(No judgement. Just curiosity.)

[Andres77]

Yes, fear of the pain when ripping off the bandage.

if people didn’t get married until they were really ready…this wouldn’t be an issue.

not dating!!! Spend time with friends. As relationships grow and blossom into love…premarital counseling.

then step forward without fear

[dustybiker]

Really good point.

[humanearth]

Me and my wife, we can talk about anything

But that comes from being a couple for 31 years and 30 of the 31 years we have been married.

Last weekend was our 30th wedding anniversary

[dustybiker]

Were you both open from the beginning? Or did you grow into each other?

And happy anniversary to you both!!! 🎉 That was a biggie.

[Andres77]

👏👏👏

[humanearth]

Of course not, but was open to her about one of my darkest secrets while we were dating

[humanearth]

That laid the ground that build the trust we have for each other today

A little bit of trust in the beginning, can lead to a mountain of trust years later

[Andres77]

And there’s the bait…

[humanearth]

@Andres77 Hey trust like that just dont happen over night. It builds over time

[dustybiker]

@humanearth That was brave. Essentially the same thing happened with me.

[Andres77]

I agree…you’re exactly correct…I’m taking the bait as in “I wanna know”.
But if it’s still private I understand…and you could always dm me…😉

[RavVid]

Dunno. Maybe want to get info before they ask and discuss with SO. And maybe some will want a range of male or female answers.

You might not get truth is a core point. Am I the best lay you have ever had? Does my ass look too big in this dress? These are going to be answered Yes and No even if the truth is No and Yes.

[NathanDavis]

no fears for me...

whatever it could be, I'll find the best way to bring it up and talk about it... that's what trust and caring ar for

just being thoughtful and meaningful will make it better or "easier" and then just go step by step with it

[likelyOK]

A couple things here.
1) you may not trust your partner to get you their true intentions.

2) you might be afraid of the answer they give you and may make you very disappointed.

[dustybiker]

In your opinion is it better to stay with someone you can’t feel comfortable being open with or trust your gut giving you these warnings, cut them loose, and try and find that person? I suppose it makes me most curious why so many people settle in with people they can’t talk to on the most basic levels.

[likelyOK]

No you asked why people do it I’m giving you theories. I ask here first sometimes so as not to get judgment from people I know IRL then I go to my partner. It’s nice to avoid judgmental people

[dustybiker]

Judgement? I was asking an additional question wanting your opinion. Not judging in the slightest. You read me wrong. Don’y worry about it..

[Mangospacho]

I’m just curious where we’re at as a society. I’ll ask my wife the same question to see what her response is then I’ll ask GaG and, if the answers are different, I demand she conform to the majority opinion on GaG.

[Mangospacho]

I’m just kidding. I would never demand my wife of 15 years conform to a bunch of randos on the internet. 🤣

[dustybiker]

Smart man. lol

[Alex8736]

There has to be a happy medium in a relationship with communication. Instead you have people who are very insecure and instead of asking them a basic question head on while it is fresh on their mind they will hold it in which will make a situation that can be innocently explained into full blown out of proportion drama

[whiskeyontherocks]

My partner just plays the victim even when it’s not about her
So I just stopped discussing topics with her

[dustybiker]

That must be frustrating.

[Light909090]

So walking on eggshells and not being yourself is seen as being Sensitive to one’s feelings and emotions I had no idea 😯

[dustybiker]

Feel free to take my question out of context.

[Light909090]

Yeah I’m not sure what you mean I wasn’t taking anything out of context

[dustybiker]

I probably read it wrong at the time. I wasn’t being rude. I just thought you meant something else.

[exitseven]

Oddly enough there are lots of things I can discuss with my wife but some things I never talk about to anyone.

[dustybiker]

How do you deal with the excess?

[exitseven]

i don't know. I probably deal with it by not dealing with it.

[LazerBean]

A lot of people are hesitant because they didn't take the time to actually get to know their partner before getting into a serious relationship.

[Hotboy_booblover]

When partner has hurt u when u were trying to be open.. makes u more cautious

[dustybiker]

Do they know they have hurt you if you don’t tell them?

[Hotboy_booblover]

Some people are not sensitive enuf.. and it's not possible to change them

[dustybiker]

That’s true.

[captain_voidwalker]

It's always your head , the heart just moves blood around your circulatory system

[boobliker]

I can ask my partner anything.

[Anonymous]

Her reaction and what she'll say

[Makeushiver]

The answers.