How do I support my cousin who is in her 40s who thinks she has failed at life because she's never been married?

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She likes this guy but he doesn't like her back and she keeps phoning him up saying she needs to walk away becuase he is dating other women. I think she is struggling with loneliness

Static_In_The_Attic · Accepted Answer

I always say in life you should never give up, you should never give in & most of all you should keep moving forward no matter what. As for your cousin tell her to turn her frown upside down & simply live her life. As for me like your cousin I’m 40 wonderful years young & I’m not married as well. As for me I’m single & accepting applications & when it comes to be single I’m single because as of the moment I simply choose to be. If you cousin feels lonely tell her she’s not a long & tell her you are never alone if you have imaginary friends. In life some people get married & some people don’t. In life some people get married & stay married & some people don’t. As for your cousin she’s not a failure & she will never be. I always say in life if you never try you will never know & if you like someone you should let them know & if that person happens to be in a relationship or doesn’t like you back simply move on & move forward as well.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Why exactly isn’t she married or have a man? She one of those “I don’t need a man” type. “Strong”, independent?” I mean as far as a relationship that ship has pretty much set sailed. Very few men want to be w someone who is her age. Especially if she’s got issues. It kind of raises a red flag as far as her current status. It’s like you purchase something from the store. The clerk says this one is half off. You’re like why, what’s wrong w it? I don’t know how cute she is or isn’t but if she’s not that good looking from a man’s point of view her chances are even less. I say a man’s POV cause women will swear up and down they have a friend, she’s cute, sweet, you should go out w her. Then you do and she looks like Fiona from Shrek.

MrsTurkleton · Accepted Answer

Being married is not an achievement. It’s just something people do, & it’s not the be all and end all …. there are many, many paths to fulfilment. It’s not somebody else job to provide it. A spouse is just part of somebody’s life.

if she has hobbies & interests, encourage her to go after them. Maybe do some of them with her. If she isn’t in her dream job, it’s never too late to go after it…. chances are if she worked on her own happiness and making the most of the life she has, there will eventually be somebody with whom everything else falls into place.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

Being married doesn’t mean happiness to all… that’s why there’s a lot of divorces. Even being in a relationship isn’t all that either hence there’s breakups and single people everywhere who choose to be single. The thing is, your cousin is obsessively infatuated with this man who obviously doesn’t want her back that’s why she’s crying and feeling miserable. It has nothing to do with her age! Tell her to move on and let the man go. She’s hurting herself!

AG900 · Answer

I’d explain to her the benefits of studying seduction. Her motivation could be to attract that guy, but it doesn’t matter… Becoming more seductive, what it truly does is seducing yourself more than anyone else… That elevates your self esteem, your sense of self worth and value

courtney06 · Answer

Maybe hell her find ways to focus on how to be the best version of herself and maybe get her to join a club that supports that decision. She has to stop chasing people who aren't into her. The sooner she does that the better. That way she will be more aware of who is right for her and the right guys will be drawn to her.

Drumlin2001 · Answer

In terms of her current behaviour you have to tell her to stop and leave him alone.
Otherwise, she has to be the be the one to drive changes in her life. If she dosent want to, you can't make her. She can still have whatever she likes (maybe need to hurry if she wants kids)

alina177 · Answer

Even some married women are lonely. Many people get married and have kids. It's not an achievement tbh. She should move on. My older cousin who was also in her 40s married a guy who is a gem , he is not super rich , not super handsome. But his heart is so pure and he cares about her like her mother did.

Kerrim23 · Answer

Show her this

sheenagwapa · Answer

there is God watchinh us and so she just gotta trust that she will find that one person who will love snd appreciate her. God is a good provider to whatever problems we have.

kikissss · Answer

Marriage doesn’t define a women or her happiness! What is important is that she is happy in her own skin and not follow happiness what is outside of her and out of her control!

likelyOK · Answer

If she won’t move on past this guy there is nothing you can do. She pinning after someone who is not interested.

Avicenna · Answer

Best thing to do would be to introduce her to another guy so she's reminded that there are other men out there.

KrakenAttackin · Answer

She has failed. Her chance to live life on easy mode with a sled dog husband paying for everything has long passed. As for the guy she likes, of course he dates a bunch of women because the 40+ failure females are on sale.

fonduegirl · Answer

Tell your guy friends to hit on her. Best solution.

Light909090 · Answer

People believe There own thoughts therefore anything you Say doesn’t matter because people won’t believe you if they believe themselves

AngelOfLight258 · Answer

Tell her she can't dwell on the what she's not done before because we can't change the past. She can only look forward.

TroyDT · Answer

Sounds like she, like many other people, falls into one-itis. There are about four billion men on the planet. She needs to case a wider net.

Luopio27 · Answer

I am 37 and never been in a relationship nor had sex, a bj or even playd with naked boobs. Just rejections after another.

driven159 · Answer

she needs to walk away and find her dream guy 40 is still very young while she can control her loneliness by joining a group the is interested in things she is too and see might find a divorced guy

Googlemyahoo · Answer

If you can’t find someone you’re probably too picky

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Just try to console her with encouraging words and tell her not to stress herself. The right person for her will come along.

Paul09 · Answer

Marriage doesn't solve those problems. Not sure why ever one wants to follow the herd.

maximumpower · Answer

Tell her that many consider her one of the smarter ones.

olzart · Answer

Tough & honest love is sometimes the best support we can give our loved ones to help them grow up or realize something.

chinitagold · Answer

Trust me she's not missing out or fail at anything am 25 and divorced wish I didn't do it

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

Take her to a divorce court.. she will be happy

Andrew2128 · Answer

I don't know maybe you should introduce her to me

In_Trance · Answer

Support her? What kind of support?

Anonymous · Answer

Just be their for her?

Celticwolf78 · Answer

If u need anything let me know I'm here for u

lorenzomichael · Answer

Get her a puppy

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Not your job TBH

jimmy2 · Answer

Judging harsh there

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