me (18 female) was with my boyfriend and we have no privacy in any of our homes. Either someone is always home, he lives in a literal closet and my door has no locks so we can have some time for ourselves to do the private stuff. so we are always tryna find an oppurtunity. No one was at my place at the time. in conclusion my sister (16) came back home early from work and slams the door open with no warning at all as she always does cause she never respects my privacy one bit and she sees me and him on the bed. she laughs and has her boyfriend peek through the door too, open the lights and almost tried to remove the covers off of us. I tell her to please get out. runs and goes to get my mom to see us. it was seriously the most embarrassing thing to have ever experienced. I felt so horrible and I began to cry uncontrollably. I told her countless of times to knock before entering my room and I always respect her and her bfs privacy, I've even kept secrets that they both came to be about and always keep them locked up. I am just so disappointed in what she did and puts me on the spot like this. I have horrible stress issues. I wanted to leave my house for the night cause I couldn't sleep. I drank abit to just feel a bit alright about it and passed out once my boyfriend left home. at work this morning which I had at 7am I was so unfocused I dropped things on my clothes and I touched a burning tray. I was out of it. I just don't understand why she would be so mean about all this. I told someone I trusted about the situation (my neighbor) and he said I have to talk to her about it cause this isn't the first time she does something weird like this. once I was dealing with a bad breakup and she got mad at me for not telling her I lost my virginity and even if she had an idea she wanted me to admited to her that I have and finally presured me to say it. my neighbor told me I dont act like the bigger sister and I have to get them to respect me more but I don't know how?
Being 16 I’m not surprised at what your sister did. Siblings can already be a pain in the ass but at that age she’s just not mature enough to care about how embarrassing something is, she’s more amused about busting you if anything. On the other hand, not trying to be insensitive but maybe you shouldn’t put yourself in a position to get busted anyway. I get that you want the freedom to be intimate with your boyfriend and don’t want a sexless life, I understand all that. But many would argue that it’s actually disrespectful to do that under your parents roof whether they’re present or not. As an adult, maybe you should hold out on sex until you can move out or get a hotel room. If you can’t afford either, then you can’t afford the child you’d make if an accident happened. So I’m sorry you’re humiliated but you did it to yourself by taking that risk..
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As you said she has to respect you and your privacy much more, and your neighbor's right, see this as if like you're playing chess or some strategy game, what I'd do is make my best possible move, the way I see it that'd be you making it clear that you're upset and that what she did wasn't cool at all, so you ignore her and if she addresses you as if like nothing happened don't respond, if she tries to play it off playfully (like teasing you or touching you or joking with non-stop), tell her to shut the fuck up and fuck off, just like that, unless she apologizes and promises she'll respect your boundaries and privacy you should never speak to her (sorry for sounding extreme, but if you just give her room to talk to you like normally once without getting her respect back nothing will change and you'd have lost, so it's extremely important for you to be extreme about this), treat her boyfriend the exact same way
Your mom is operating a house where anything is allowed & you take advantage of that. If your dad was at home and/or he had a backbone, there would be zero boyfriends living there, right? Maybe the real problem is you're not living in a good situation.
Maybe you should have your own place before expecting privacy.
Maybe you shouldn't be getting pregnant by a guy who can't even afford a 1 bedroom apartment too.
Just an idea.
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just not sure about this... No one home and then your sister came home early. I can believe that but where did her boyfriend come from? we=as he with her when she came home early? What about mom when did she get home? Was she with your sister and her boyfriend? no one was home and then suddenly three people are home watching you and your boyfriend...
Well, there it is. Backstabbed by a family member. Been there, done that.
Your best bet is making money and live with your boyfriend, so you 2 have a private space at least. Way too hard and too long? When was it ever easy? Unless you were born in a rich family.
Not much else you can do if you are looking for practical solutions.
You and your sister being female are just competing on an angry bitchy level. Perfectly normal.
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