What would you do? Guys why's he being like this for an accident?

[Anonymous]

Me F (24) & boyfriend (25) have known each other since elementary but reunited in our twenties. We've been dating almost two years. Yesterday I told him I was working out and my phone died and it was charging (I have android so it doesn't automatically turn on) an after my home work out, I took a shower and turned on my phone and saw my boyfriend texted me a couple of times while my phone was charging, I was going to text him back and acknowledge it mentally, but realized it was close to the time he was coming bome and wanted to clean up really quick. It took a few minutes to clean and after finishing I by habit turned on my PS4 and got ready to game. I decided to stream and my boyfriend is subscribed also and can see when I go live. He texted me again saying fuck him then. I told him after my workout I showered and got sidetracked after cleaning an that I didn't mean to. He was upset still and keeps telling me I was ignoring him. He then stopped replying to ignore me.. So today I woke up early and to me its a New day.. so I tried to make his morning easy going and good. We kissed I joke and told him don't ignore me today and he said love you bye like usual. He usually text around 8 when he's less busy and usually has a lot of spare time so he's worried about me, a lot. When I saw he didn't text me on his usual time (he doesn't text first all the time also) I thought to myself he is still trying to ignore me. He didn't text me the whole day... even on his lunch. It hurt that he did it out of anger... especially not even two days I was telling him how hurt I was by my mom saying some mean things to me. I felt worthless, then alone... what should I do?

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I let him use my car and he ignored me all day on Purpose and admitted because I ignored him

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51 and narrow minded. It's a shame.

[jeffiner]

I feel like this isn't the first time he's 'punished' you for things that are relatively small and normal to do on occasion..
It's a game and you need to decide if you want to be a winner, a loser or team.
Right now, he's got control and depending on how you look at it, he's either winning or he's losing.
Relationships are successful when the playing field is even and the 'punishments' don't exist. .. if after two years he's not come to understand your routine, (so long as it's been consistent) then it's safe to say that he likely won't in the future. (Same advice I'd give a man about a woman)
Jeallousy is something couples work on together, insecurities are done from within. (Unless you talk down to him regularly and challenge his manhood daily, then his insecurities are not your problem to help solve)
You're both young, plenty of time left to live, but that doesn't mean that those years should be spent trying to make someone else comfortable.
There's different levels of love, different ways to love, different ideas of love and different kinds of love. Don't trick yourself into believing that this where it stops for you, and he shouldn't either. I'm not encouraging a breakup nor am I cynical about Love, and even though I don't regret my marriage, I don't regret my divorce just the same.
It should never be about what you're doing wrong/what they're doing wrong it should be about having goals that align with each other and making sure you're equals. Because at the end of the day, teamwork is what makes the dream work (cheesy I know but it looped right back to the beginning lol)

[Asker]

It's insane to think he lost his virginity to me... but as I read your really well written unbiased post. He just sat there quietly on his phone looking at coins... expensive coins? my mom made me feel worthless few days ago and now he does his. But him ignoring me and being on his phone is "normal" thing he does.

[jeffiner]

That's not healthy.
What is his relationship with his parents like?

[Asker]

His mom and him I didn't know were not close until I moved in. She was an addict and drove with him in the car when little and remembers, had to almost kill a man by catching his mom Cheat. With her not so good, he has trouble forgiving her.

[jeffiner]

And his dad?

[Asker]

His dad cares a little more. But they both act similar if one was off drugs one was on it and it switched as he got older. Going through that he also lost his best friend and the tip of his finger around the same time. He never got help. He's had broken bones where he's in pain and they won't take him to get stitches, the mom waited until the next day. Hearing shit like this and living with his parents is very hard, especially since she and her daughter were trying to test me when I got here, having her friends follow us around at a party and get close to my man. The mom ans sisters friendn walked up to my boyfriend and I when we were in the garage and my boyfriend had no shirt on we didn't expect them to be there or out. But she hugged him w no shirt and fist bumped me... then 10 Mins later was going to leave and tried to give him another hug! I told my boyfriend earlier and he began to fist bump, she was leaning in for a hug quietly and he signled fist bump again. Well she told his parents and then his mom gossip about it on the phone to people and company she brought over and the sisters friend felt hurt by it. I told her I don't care because put of all the years she's seen and known him she's never hugged him (I asked him)

[jeffiner]

I was just rereading your OP and then our correspondence with each other... I hope you know that starting with my very first response I'm speaking on a deeper level than just sex, I'm even speaking on a deeper level than just this one situation..
Yes, some of it is specific to the "problem" that you originally wrote about but most of it is about the relationship as a whole. (Maybe you already knew that, lol, I'm not sure ☺️.)
What is your relationship with your parents like?

[spartan55]

You two are about immature af... ignoring each other... have fun with that. 24 and 25? Wow

[jeffiner]

What kind of advice is that? Lol sometimes you crack me up and other times you blow my mind 🤣🤯

[Asker]

I didn't ignore him at all... especially in the question is says it wasn't intentional. I got sidetracked because it was coming home so soon and wanted the place to look nice. In the mid I Forgot. Smh. You guys don't deserve any women

[Asker]

I agree with Jennifer. Learn to read boy

[Asker]

Jeffiner*

[spartan55]

@jeffiner
So it's big news to you that they are immature? @asker
Another tough talking dipshit pink anon..."I don't deserve any women"... 😂 I can only hope for one as classy as you. "Learn to read boy"... what do those two idiotic statements even mean. Because the maturity level is nil I don't deserve any women.😂 Okay... sounds good. And what did I miss from your literary masterpiece? I read it, 😂... again, have fun.

[Asker]

Let's not Forget Jeffiners reply to your idiotic statement ahaha

[spartan55]

Broaden my horizons then genius, I'll hold my breath.

[Asker]

Careful now.

[Stay-hungry]

I’m sorry but I literally yawned when I scrolled down on your story 😅

[Asker]

You're 21, I don't expect you to be into books either.