He is likely confused as to why his mom randomly just left his life, not that I have any problem with his estranged mother. I do worry about the effects of it like he might become a drug addict someday or something. His mom had an affair with her boss, got into a relationship from the affair, and the guy does not want her kids around or to be a stepfather.
The boy is 12…kinda hard. However, you and your brother can still be his role model and make him a real man.
teach him to stand up for himself and make good financial, relational decisions.
You can tell him, “some women (people) don’t make good decisions. You mom made a pier decision and decided to not take the responsibility that she needs to care for a family.”but you can pick a good woman to have a family in the future. Your dad and I are here to guide you through school and life as much as we can as you grow to become a good man.”
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It's simple... either you become the official legal guardian of the kids and cut off all contact between kids and mom or I'd stay out of it. In the current situation, she can always tell whatever story she wants to her kid and she's going to believe what she says over what you say until he's maybe 20s and makes up his own mind. A kid is either an idiot or not... you find out as they get older. And yes I have seen the situation you describe play out before.
He needs stability and reassurance right now; it's more important to remind him that you and his father will be there for him and are not leaving him and you guys love him. He may not understand it if you tell him the whole truth at the moment.
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